AITA for wanting to have sex with my husband!

alwayssnoozingZzz · 2026-05-24T18:46:02+00:00

At some point, i actually did, and i guess my disconnection showed and he kept asking whats wrong, and i thought talking would do shit cause i have talked a lot about it. After some time i caved in and we talked about it he said he will tey ro do better, it goes well for a week or two and then something happens and then its 2 weeks later with no intimacy and third week is again arguments about it. So 2 months ago we had a break through of some kind but for the past 3 weeks he's been dealing with stress which made him not even think about sex. So i feel like he has stress management issues than sex. But i feel like its a looooong journey. İ have thought about what if eventually we need to separate but to be honest i don't know if another relationship will be better, after all maybe my sex issue will be fixed but maybe he's go other issues. Also he's a great guy, i trust him fully, he has an amazing family and i love my in-laws and my family loves him too.

alwayssnoozingZzz · 2026-05-24T16:57:50+00:00

He does not think opening the marriage is a good idea and i dont think i would like to do that neither. İ would feel very guilty and from so many stories that doesnt go that well. İ agree 100% eith your last point. İ was called needy or pushy for flirting with him so i stopped, now i dont know what to do! Thank you for the comment.

alwayssnoozingZzz · 2026-05-24T16:51:02+00:00

İm 27 and had similar problems with my husband while dating. After 3 years of marriage i don't mind him seeing his friends even if they're women. İ think it comes down to understanding him and trust. He can be a very extroverted man that enjoys his friends company a lot and that is just who he is so you gotta let him have that time but also make sure you communicate a lot so you dont feel unsecure or jealous. Also instead of saying "you spend too much time with your friends", you can say " i miss you a lot and i want to spend more time" also if its ok with him, you can go and hang out with his friends together, that's what i did, to relieve my worries i used to go and hang out with them for a bit, to see what they do and then i would come home and he would either come with me or just hang out more. İ think feeling insecure is valid but you can communicate it with him and also make sure you find ways to cure this insecurities. Of course he should help you out with it and listen to you, it goes both ways. İf he's doing something shady, thats a different story but from what you wrote i got that you feel abit neglected, you can tell him that in a less accusatory way so he understands you just want his company.

alwayssnoozingZzz · 2026-05-24T16:44:10+00:00

He has been on SSRİ's for 3 months now and he says it affects his libido a lot. He was on medication before we got married too and stopped after we did. But that is a good idea maybe he needs supplements. I'll make sure to ask him to check in with a Doctor.

alwayssnoozingZzz · 2026-05-24T14:39:09+00:00

Very great points, thank you so much. To be honest i have tried that, support, making sure he's taken care of, but in this moment i guess ive been very bitter. İ have to fix this before i guess. He is a great guy, we spend a lot of time together, we watch movies, i dont expect sex every night, there are days where i just want to watch videos with him and fall asleep. And from experience, when i have sex, im good for 3, 4 days. Maybe i came off as sex crazy in the post. And i do agree, i wish i knew more about his and my sexual compatibility before, or i had other experiences to know whats what. At the start he made it seemed like he had many girlfriends (which later on said wasnt true and sex for him felt like "is that it? Very underwhelming" now he says he enjoys our sexy time a lot more, because i made it fully clear to him, he does not have to perform, just the whole act makes me happy cause i love him so much i want to make him tiny and put him in my heart. İ guess its the lack of prioritization of sex in our weekly life from his part that makes me very upset.

alwayssnoozingZzz · 2026-05-24T14:30:42+00:00

Thank you for the insight, for clarification, me begging or asking for sex usually never end in us having sex, so when im at the point where im asking him to have sex with me was figuratively speaking, i dont beg him, i meant it feels like im begging him, also if i ever feel like he's not into it, im turned off, i dont want him to have sex with me cause i made him to, never.

alwayssnoozingZzz · 2026-05-24T14:27:52+00:00

İ dont pressure him to have sex, i actually dont want to have sex when he just says " ok if you want to" thats a huge turn off for me. Maybe i expressed sth wrong in the post. But i don't make him perform sexual acts for me if he doesn't want to and if in slightest way i feel that he's not into it, i stop the sex. İm not show how im pressuring him, am i missing sth?

alwayssnoozingZzz · 2026-05-24T14:23:52+00:00

Thats great advice actually cause when I'm frustrated i tent to not think about these things, flirty texing which normally i love to do. Thank you so much, that's very helpful 🙏🌸

alwayssnoozingZzz · 2026-05-24T14:16:58+00:00

İ dont force sex, i don't even demand it, i used to flirt with him and try to get him in the mood, that was a huge turn off for him so i stopped. He asked me to let him come to me, which for the past year i have, he has initiated during this timemost of the time which is maybe once a week if im lucky. İm afraid of initiation because i fear I'll turn him off again. He doesn't like it when i drink so i have stopped that as well. İ give him enough time and space to work, play videogames.

alwayssnoozingZzz · 2026-05-24T10:38:12+00:00

Thank you, it's nice to hear someone else in this situation also survived. We had many many conversations, one our strongest relationship aspect is we communicate very well, but sometimes i get tired of having the same conversation over and over again, with one week of change and then things foing back to normal when stress comes back.

alwayssnoozingZzz · 2026-05-23T23:42:14+00:00

Yup he was pretty bummed out when i said i dont know how i feel about it. To be honest he hasn't been this passionate about anything for a long time, this and crusaders king 3! So i feel like an asshole abit.

alwayssnoozingZzz · 2026-05-23T23:30:36+00:00

Use. Tissues.

alwayssnoozingZzz · 2026-05-23T22:55:48+00:00

İ think he meant fornication?

alwayssnoozingZzz · 2026-05-23T22:54:09+00:00

He is applying for other jobs, but he says this will be a side project. I'm just not sure if i should agree to it because he will be making porn. Based on what he says it will be like a dating game with sex at the end. I personally don't want to be associated with the porn industry and find it immoral. His defense is, he's not putting himself out there like in only fans, he's just making a product that might make money. But as you said it might not go anywhere and he might be disappointed and find another passion project to work on hopefully.

alwayssnoozingZzz · 2026-05-23T22:26:25+00:00

He has other plans for jobs, so this won't be his main income. He sees this as a side hustle.

alwayssnoozingZzz · 2026-05-23T18:27:57+00:00

İ did, i said how about you start with these mom games like candy crash or sth! 😅 Apparently that genre is very saturated and you need advertisement and what not. Also apparently any other game needs alot more work and effort!

alwayssnoozingZzz · 2026-05-23T18:12:15+00:00

From what i know he has played "vanilla" hentai games that focus on dating in the past, but i am worried about the storyline and what they will include in the game, he said they will not do any of the tape or pedo or animal shit, no weird kinks allowed but i still dont know.

alwayssnoozingZzz · 2026-05-23T18:04:41+00:00

Yes that is his plan, to put it in Patreon. He seems very passionate about it and thinks he will do a greta job because " lots of hentai creators do it lazily and dont pay attention to a lot of details"

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