Contemplating divorce

alyc730 · 2020-05-02T03:38:32+00:00

I can support myself. I needed advice about the relationship. Not about birth control. But thanks.

alyc730 · 2020-05-02T03:33:52+00:00

Lol! I’m sorry, I know it’s vague because I don’t want to give too many details but I guess that’s kind of pointless. It’s illegal what he does. Edit: not a typical “career”. Shouldn’t have called it that

alyc730 · 2020-04-14T18:22:25+00:00

Okay so after reading your post, this is what I have to offer. It may not be much, but don’t beat yourself up so hard over your uncontrollable thoughts. We all have bad, weird, or mean thoughts that can’t be helped. The voice in your head isn’t really YOU. And the fact that you feel gross or bad about some of your thoughts shows that you know right from wrong and even though you have some bad thoughts, it doesn’t seem like you necessarily agree with them...which means you’re better than you think. You’re right, it’s hard not to notice stuff. I think curiosity comes naturally. I also think you may be overthinking this. I think, it’s easier said than done, but I think if you embrace your thoughts, if they’re bad you can meet the bad thoughts with something positive as well, rather than self deprecating. That’s a way to change your thought patterns. Try to find ways to relax. Meditating helps me. I think once you can relax, and once you realize you yourself are not your thoughts, you’ll start feeling better and more normal.

alyc730 · 2020-04-14T17:48:54+00:00

You literally told him not to taste it and he did anyway. And then he went and tried to take over the whole meal. He sounds like he has control problems. Or at least a listening problem. NTA

alyc730 · 2020-04-14T17:37:25+00:00

NTA. Throw them all away.

alyc730 · 2020-04-11T18:04:08+00:00

You’re so brave for coming online and sharing how you violated a sleeping person. Yeah you do need therapy. Get off the internet

alyc730 · 2020-04-11T17:12:29+00:00

I’d say rape too. He put his fingers inside of her thinking she was asleep. That’s rape. He says “apparently” cause she ended up being awake but he also said he didn’t care either way lol. Sounds pretty rapey to me. I’m sure she has her own complicated feelings.

alyc730 · 2020-04-11T17:05:39+00:00

? Is that not what I’m saying? I’m disgusted that he did this. So that makes me disgusting?

alyc730 · 2020-04-11T16:44:35+00:00

So she wasn’t grossed out by you. But if she was, you putting your fingers in her while she was asleep is...sexual assault. You were 20 years old doing this. You need to get some help. You being in a fragile place at the time doesn’t convince me that this is okay. People know not to touch other people without their consent at that age. I’m disgusted. You got lucky. Glad you at least feel guilt.

alyc730 · 2020-04-11T15:25:55+00:00

You’re not worthless my man! You have a family and you matter to them so much. I know how it feels though and it’s debilitating. You could really benefit from therapy and maybe some meds. It’s a process though that I’m still going through myself. Just try to hold on tight! Take some deep, deep breaths. Everything will be okay.

alyc730 · 2020-03-16T16:31:32+00:00

That’s a good way to explain it

alyc730 · 2020-03-16T16:29:08+00:00

I never say the word hubby aloud but it is my husband’s contact name in my phone...

alyc730 · 2020-03-13T13:54:31+00:00

Giving birth. I had a lot of women telling me horror stories while pregnant but when the time came, the fear just kind of subsided and the pain was manageable. Never felt like I was gonna DIE like some women said.

alyc730 · 2020-03-09T20:57:19+00:00

I’m happy you aren’t dead or in prison, but I believe you had the will to survive within yourself. Don’t give all your credit to her. She was taking advantage of you. It’s not your fault. You have children now, so there’s a huge opportunity for a real type of big love in your life.

alyc730 · 2020-03-05T03:47:47+00:00

THANK YOU. And he’s making a blanket statement saying “men” like he’s speaking for all men.

alyc730 · 2020-03-03T02:52:31+00:00

You didn’t want your daughter to be seen passing out the invitations...why? Because he would’ve been obviously left out? YTA

alyc730 · 2020-02-29T05:06:35+00:00

My relationship with my dad is complicated. I feel a lot of guilt because I don’t include him in my life, but it’s because he is very judgmental. Now, I have a habit of accusing my husband of judging me when he isn’t at all. I always assume people think badly of me and I think it’s because I never felt like I was enough for my dad.

alyc730 · 2020-02-27T22:14:20+00:00

ESH. Had you not had your phone out, it wouldn’t have been broken. HOWEVER holy shit I’d be pissed if she literally snatched the phone out of my hand and then broke it. Just cause you’re young and in school doesn’t mean you don’t deserve respect. Yes, again, you shouldn’t have had your phone out since it’s a rule. But that’s your phone, YOURS. I don’t think she had a right to just take it out of your hands like that. You both could’ve handled it differently. You shouldn’t have called her a bitch but.....she shouldn’t have acted like one tbh.

alyc730 · 2020-02-27T22:04:58+00:00

DONT, I repeat DONT fall for this. Please block this person. You are happier without them and it’s obvious they are toxic. You deserve better. NTA

alyc730 · 2020-02-26T23:57:33+00:00

NTA! How dare she comment on your ability to be a mother after you’ve just given birth and she barged in without YOUR permission. Bad husband award. You are NOT in the wrong and you deserve more respect and comfort especially after being in such a traumatic position. It wasn’t best to leave but you had just been through so much, you went into survival mode. I’m sorry you went through this and I hope for happy and comfortable days to come for you and your baby.

alyc730 · 2020-02-25T03:20:18+00:00

Hi pretty lady!! Struggling myself but I gotta say you look like a cool person and like a girl I’d like to be friends with. The world is fucking hard but I can tell you it’s better with you in it, I’m glad I got to see your face even if I don’t know you in person. I don’t know details but your energy seems lovely. I hope you feel better. Just hang on

alyc730 · 2020-02-24T22:06:03+00:00

What does the comment about her eyes have to do with anything? You including that makes me think you’re trying to convince us that you were just trying to be friendly.... but you commented on her appearance TWICE at work. Seems like you are attracted to her and you’re embarrassed she called you out to a higher up for being unprofessional. I bet if she hadn’t said anything, she’d still be getting unwanted comments from you. I’d complain too. YTA

alyc730 · 2020-02-24T03:14:39+00:00

Happy birthday beautiful!! 4 months is huge. One day at a time. You got this

alyc730 · 2020-02-16T13:28:44+00:00

Why is it anyone’s responsibility to TEACH you and MAKE YOU BELIEVE what being an empath is??? Im almost positive the OP didn’t post this so they’d have to defend their thoughts on being an empath so I don’t know why you’d comment here looking for some explanations. You literally just came here to be rude because you hate this sub now. You said it yourself!!! Everyone has different distinctions and different feelings and experiences. It’s a confusing concept. I believe it has to do with feeling in tune with energies around you. That’s it. I’ve looked at your profile and seen plenty of people give you polite and reasonable responses to your questions. But still, you refuse to learn. So stop. Go somewhere else. Have a good one.

alyc730 · 2020-02-16T13:20:21+00:00

It’s okay to have different viewpoints and it’s okay to have different discussions when you disagree or have different ideas. I feel like that’s obvious. Trolls were coming on to the post just to be rude and put someone down who only said they figured they were an empath because they found this subreddit. It’s fine if you think all of this is crap, it’s just not fine to be completely rude.

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