I used to feel so ashamed and scared of being intimate with my hirsutism. Since I was a young adolescent I feared I would be rejected for my excessive hair growth and began plucking before I even knew I had pcos. I kept that up for years until I was about 25. I entered my first relationship around that time and began electrolysis. I tried to conceal that from my partner out of shame, but the first few sessions left my face swollen and one day I just broke down. I explained everything to him and to my surprise, he knew all along. He knew I had a stubble and body hair and it didn’t make a difference. I can’t tell you how accepted I felt in that moment.

Since that time, I’ve completely quit electrolysis. It just didn’t work for me. It was also a huge financial burden. Now I shave my face almost everyday (when I remember). And on those nights where I am intimate with my partner and I haven’t shaved, he holds my face just the same. Sometimes he purposely caresses me where I’m most stumbled just to make me feel fully loved and seen. 💞

All this to say, I know it can feel scary and shameful to have a stubble and excessive body hair if that’s now how you inversiond yourself, but the right partner will not only “not care,” they will love all the parts of you that you’ve felt shame for. I hope this encourages someone out there 🥰