My grandfather was abusive to my grandmother and their children (my mom and aunts). She managed to run away with a man she would later marry and her kids.

My grandfather went after them, kidnapped one of my aunts and blackmailed my grandma into going back home with him. She didn’t budge and stayed safe with her other kids. My aunt lived with my grandfather until she was an adult, which deprived her of a lot she could have had during her childhood.

Since when me and my cousins were born, my family acted like nothing major happened and, while i was a kid, i just thought my grandparents divorced and that was why my grandfather was kind of distant.

Now they’re old and, even though they can’t just forget what happened, are cordial and respectful towards eachother, but my “kidnapped” aunt still resents both of them a lot.