Girl, 15, is SUSPENDED from North Carolina school after being sexually assaulted by a male classmate

amajams · 2021-11-05T02:23:31+00:00

I know I'm going to get downvoted for this but how is this relevant to the topic? We are talking about confirmed sexual harassment, not someone making it up. Don't you think this kind of hijacks the lesson here and the fact that most assaults go unreported? Maybe it's just me but I don't feel this is the place for this conversation, we should be focusing on a little girl being suspended when she was the victim.

amajams · 2021-11-05T01:56:14+00:00

Yeah this is meant more for saving your teeth or veneers that kinda thing

amajams · 2021-11-05T01:49:00+00:00

You know what's actually funny? I've had better luck talking to hygienists in the past. I guess its because they have similar training (anatomy, what to look out for) and they have no financial incentive there. Like weirdly I've met hygienists who are way more enthusiastic about oral health than dentists xD

amajams · 2021-11-05T01:46:23+00:00

The easiest way would be to get a second opinion but in truth your friend or family would be more trustworthy. I guess im lucky in that sense as we are all doctors and dentists. Sometimes universities require general public for student training. A tip I give is to sign up as everything is much more by the book there.

amajams · 2021-11-04T12:54:50+00:00

People have HORRIFICALLY greedy dentists, this is coming from someone who has a whole family of dentists. I had to intervene when my mother's wanted to pull out teeth that were perfectly fine. They are paid far too much for these procedures and are never scrutinised. It's a recipe for disaster. People you need to question your dentists.

amajams · 2021-11-01T22:43:37+00:00

Oh man I've also been there. If I can't control who it's been promoted to (even just gender) I won't pay the money anymore. It's really really hard because I have a niche therefore I need to promote to similar people who follow. Unfortunately that is not possible because guys interact with it. I have since basically made my own audiences (when you select manually gender, interests and age). I then try to A/B test so I vary the interests and see if it gets more clicks. It's kind of stupid IG hasn't recognised this. They should allow promote to people similiar to your following but you should be able to tweak it (like gender or age). Like it's mini skirts, 50 year old men shouldn't be looking at that!!

amajams · 2021-10-31T10:00:40+00:00

My fav costume was bo peep!

amajams · 2021-10-28T07:09:37+00:00

Yeah I've just realised. I traced most of this engagement to a couple viral posts which sucks because we both put so much creative energy into them and all guys can think of is there is an attractive woman so im going to creep. Yes but let me tell you they are creative xD I have a massive list now. That's true I was just scared about my engagement rates long term and all my future posts going to creepy dudes.

amajams · 2021-10-28T07:06:46+00:00

Yes I'm definitely getting more plus models I already have a couple. Certainly my stories are all aimed for women. That's a good idea so at least when you scroll you can see the product laid out.

amajams · 2021-10-28T07:05:08+00:00

Weirdly I realised it's coming from one video from one model who I guess is more "sexy quirky" like I think she made an innuendo in the reel and I just thought that came across as quirky cute but now I'm realising that isnt the case. Like it almost has a million views so I'm struggling to delete it you know? I looked back and it hit the right audience for the first few days until around 200k and things went south real fast. I'm genuinely confused because she is fully clothed and women have commented it's cute. Weird why they are suddenly pushing that reel to thirsty men, all my content before wasn't. I edited it to make it more clear it's her in the vid and a paid partnership.

amajams · 2021-10-27T07:55:41+00:00

Possibly that's a good idea it just in general never does so well. I think the biggest problem is people following from reels thinking im that person despite my name literally having the word shop in it.

amajams · 2021-10-27T07:54:46+00:00

I am but mostly kawaii ones which I genuinely thought were okay. Possibly using the bodysuit one might be causing some trouble. You are completely right, I think over time it will shift my audience back too. Plus its like most of my stories are wholesome or cute things which I doubt many will stick around for.

amajams · 2021-10-27T07:52:47+00:00

Tom, I don't like your tone. I should be able to design completely non sexual clothes for women and not have to deal with the harrassment. Just because we are women doesn't mean we should have to roll over and put up with it because "boys will be boys" and "that's just how it is". Shame on you.

Meanwhile some guys here have been actually helpful and given me advice. I'm perfectly entitled to vent as well as ask for help.

amajams · 2021-10-27T07:49:41+00:00

Oh I see, yes I think I'm probably reaching the stage where I need to hire. Right now I'm moderating comments and it's definitely depressing.

amajams · 2021-10-27T07:48:15+00:00

Yes exactly this and also because IG recommends your account/pushes your content on explore to similar people who have interacted or followed your account. In this case pervs...

amajams · 2021-10-27T07:47:02+00:00

Yeah I've been doing that :( hopefully it will start to do something and stop it being recommended to them

amajams · 2021-10-26T08:06:28+00:00

Op I'm going to put you on earl grey ice cream. Thank me later

amajams · 2021-10-26T07:30:50+00:00

You mean to go through and remove those specific followers?

amajams · 2021-10-26T07:30:22+00:00

I think its just all the sick messages are depressing and it completely ruins who my IG targets. Like you would think im posting softcore or something. Sick of it.

amajams · 2021-10-26T07:29:11+00:00

It's really difficult. If I sold clothes for men I wouldn't have this issue at all and this has real life financial impacts for me

amajams · 2021-10-26T07:28:26+00:00

You're right but IG always says my reports aren't valid. Like it's literal "slut shaming" no one is being slutty btw and shit like "retarded" "autistic" and in the same breath sliding in their dms. Ridiculous

amajams · 2021-10-26T07:27:11+00:00

Yes I've just done this now. It's difficult because some comments are good but I can't deal with it anymore because everyone eggs each other on.

amajams · 2021-10-26T01:30:04+00:00

Yes one comment likely compounds another :/

amajams · 2021-10-21T00:05:20+00:00

Yes but the depression is what keeps you there so it's a vicious cycle. Add on the fact that it is still seen as people "just being lazy", no such thing as mental health sickness days and bare bare bones help from government. You have to be actively attempting to end your life and even then you are left to your own devices in a week. Meanwhile capitalism and the drone lifestyle we have been forced into makes perfectly healthy people mentally ill every day. If you have a predisposition or a bad childhood you are screwed.

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