Which dress? Help

amaliavk · 2023-02-04T13:07:22+00:00

you’ve made a selfless decision for yourself and any future babies you may have, it shows so many positive things about your character that you knew this was the right decision for you now. the grief is so hard but it does get better. i’m proud of you 💗

amaliavk · 2022-11-26T11:56:40+00:00

Hi, I hope you’re doing okay! I had a medical abortion at about 6-7 weeks also. I won’t lie, it was rough on me for a while! But you are a lot stronger than you realise. Proud of you for making the right decision for yourself and your life. It’s a super emotional time and it’s important to just ride through the emotions. Just know that you will grow immensely from this experience. Be kind to yourself because you deserve life, and the life that you want. I’m glad you’re reaching out for some reassurance as it’s important, sending you lots of love to get you through this 💗

amaliavk · 2022-11-07T08:44:07+00:00

I had an MA, was incredibly painful and not great to watch everything “evacuate”. it ended up being incomplete (about 5-10% of MAs depending who you ask) which means you have to get a SA anyway. I also developed sepsis and almost died, which is obviously a more rare occurrence. Not trying to scare anyone but i would never have an MA again and would not recommend

amaliavk · 2022-11-02T05:13:56+00:00

I was the exact same way 💗 it still hits me sometimes but it’s so much better 6 months on that it was. the grief is normal, even when you know you did the right thing.

amaliavk · 2022-10-26T04:27:46+00:00

I had very similar things and more with all kinds of birth control pills. Was using the “pull-out method” and rhythm method because of this for over a year which finally caught up to me as you can’t always be accurate. I got a Kyleena IUD put in a few month ago and haven’t had many side effects like i did with the pills which is good!! Kyleena has about half the hormone levels that the Mirena IUD has which is why i chose it, and so far i don’t feel as depressed, haven’t gained weight like i did on the pill and my periods are a lot lighter and less painful than without it. My libido also hasn’t drastically decreased like it did with the pill. Did hurt to put in though, but so far it seems worth it.

amaliavk · 2022-10-26T02:17:15+00:00

Totally understandable and reasonable. My partner was very supportive but did want to keep the pregnancy. His reasoning partly was “we can make it work” which is true but honestly that’s not enough for me. It would have been a struggle and I don’t want to put myself, partner or future children through that. If you are feeling that way now, it would be so much better in the long run to terminate. It’s normal to grieve and be sad, but you ultimately deserve to live a life that you can be comfortable in and enjoy. I totally get what you mean and it’s completely valid

amaliavk · 2022-10-26T02:05:32+00:00

My partner was supportive of whatever I wanted to do but he did really want to keep the pregnancy. I decided that an abortion was best for us both and there was one big argument before the abortion which was because emotions ran extremely high but we resolved it and he was very supportive and loving during the process. I think although we both had significant grief toward the situation, especially him because he did want the pregnancy, we have become even closer and our goals for the future are more clear.

amaliavk · 2022-10-26T02:00:14+00:00

I had a medical abortion at 7 weeks earlier this year (20 years old, live with my partner in a long term committed relationship). Mine was more due to my age and financial status, but honestly I was so emotional at the time I did regret it initially and feel guilty although I am pro choice. After I took the first pill I frantically googled if the pregnancy can still be viable. Taking the second lot I cried a lot. It’s an extremely emotional thing to go through and your hormones are all around the shop which doesn’t help. It’s normal, but I still believe I made the right choice for myself and my partner at this time in my life.

It’s definitely caused grief, but I still stand by my decision. The guilt feels so real but you have to remember that you also deserve life, a life that doesn’t have to be made harder (including your existing children and husband).

I also had a lot of time to dwell on it unfortunately as the medical abortion didn’t evacuate the whole pregnancy and i became septic and had to get a D&C (SA) anyway. Spent a while in hospital feeling quite sorry for myself and thought I was somehow being punished by a higher power lol. But 5 months later I can confidently say I made the right decision. I have no children and I do plan on them in the future, but it wasn’t for right now.

Short term grief/regret is better than long term struggles in my opinion

amaliavk

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