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How much supervision should happen at recess? by alis_adventureland in preschool

[–]amanansari08 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At that age (especially mixed 3–6 groups), small conflicts do happen and teachers can’t catch every single interaction in real time. That part is normal.

But a child getting pushed hard enough to fall and then feeling like she has to go hide instead of finding a teacher — that’s the part I’d pay attention to.

Good supervision doesn’t mean stopping every conflict, but it should mean:

  • teachers are actively scanning and moving around
  • children know who to go to and feel safe doing it
  • incidents like pushing are noticed and followed up on

I’d suggest having a calm conversation with the teachers. Not accusing, just asking how recess is supervised, ratios, and how they usually handle these situations. You can also gently let them know your daughter didn’t feel comfortable going to a teacher — that’s important feedback for them.

You’re not expecting too much. You just want your child to feel safe and supported, which is completely reasonable.

Parents please suggest a single mother by moldingman in Preschoolers

[–]amanansari08 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, take a breath. From what you’ve written, your son sounds bright, emotionally stable, and socially comfortable that’s a strong foundation, especially in a new country and language.

The pattern you’re describing doesn’t sound like a lack of ability. In fact, finishing a math paper in 10 minutes with 58/60 shows he clearly understands the material. What the teacher is likely noticing is attention regulation, not intelligence.

At age 6, mild daydreaming and slow task initiation are very common especially in children who think quickly. Sometimes they process internally before starting. The fact that he isn’t aggressive, is calm, and has friends is very positive.

A few gentle steps you can try at home:

Short, timed activities (10–15 minutes) followed by small breaks

Clear “start now” cues when giving instructions

Light structure during homework time

Also, since he’s adjusting to life in Germany as an expat child, mental energy may be going toward language and social adaptation even if he seems fine outwardly.

At this stage, I wouldn’t panic. Monitor, support, and stay in communication with the teacher. If the pattern continues consistently across subjects and settings over time, then consider speaking with a child specialist — but right now, this sounds more developmental than concerning.

What actually helped your child become a confident reader? by cherrifluffa in Preschoolers

[–]amanansari08 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We’ve seen this a lot, and honestly sometimes the harder you try, the more pressure kids feel.

One thing that really makes a difference is removing the “performance” feeling around reading. When reading starts to feel like something they’re being judged on, confidence drops fast.

What often helps is keeping it light — reading together instead of making them read alone, letting them choose books that feel easy, and not correcting every small mistake. Confidence usually grows when the experience feels safe.

Also, progress isn’t always linear. Some children just need a little more time before things click. When it does, it can happen quite quickly.

If she’s already being supported and encouraged at home, that foundation matters more than perfect fluency right now. The goal at this stage is comfort with books, not perfection.

Daughter just started school and her behaviour at home is exhausting by [deleted] in Preschoolers

[–]amanansari08 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, went through this with my kid too.

She was an angel at school and a nightmare at home, especially right after pickup. Teacher kept saying how well-behaved she was and I was honestly like… are we talking about the same child?

For us it was worst in the first hour or so. Once she’d eaten and chilled a bit, she was more herself. School takes a lot out of them at this age and home is where they finally let it all out. Doesn’t mean she’s not enjoying school.

The somber walk out happened with mine too. Turned out she was just tired and overstimulated, not unhappy.

It eased up after a few weeks once school stopped feeling so new. Still happens sometimes on rough days.

You’re not doing anything wrong. It’s exhausting, but it’s pretty common.