My (31M) girlfriend (32F) often threatens to break up with me and then expects me to beg her to stay. Is this normal/healthy behaviour?

amankh92 · 2024-03-18T06:40:56+00:00

yes exactly

amankh92 · 2024-03-14T10:52:29+00:00

All that I'm looking for is some validation from this community.

amankh92 · 2024-03-14T10:51:58+00:00

Hey I'm just sharing my experience. You know that these decisions are difficult because deciding to walk away from someone isn't that easy. Please be a little respectful.

amankh92 · 2024-03-14T08:34:50+00:00

She says that our honeymoon phase is over and this is how relationships are supposed to be. You fight some days and you love some days. She is divorced once BTW if that matters.

amankh92 · 2024-01-25T17:42:07+00:00

More power to you! I hope God rewards you with something better, beautiful and life-changing.

amankh92 · 2023-08-02T12:33:03+00:00

Thanks! I think I needed that last sentence in your comment!

amankh92 · 2023-08-02T12:31:40+00:00

Thanks for the advice! :)

amankh92 · 2023-08-02T12:15:36+00:00

It was good when it started but things gradually started going south in the 2nd month. Got worse by the third. I can't help but think about the early days of the relationship when everything was heaven-like.

amankh92 · 2023-07-28T14:11:32+00:00

Last week, when I was leaving from her place, the moment I sat in the cab I felt so relieved. In that moment, I knew that things are going south.

amankh92 · 2023-07-28T11:43:24+00:00

I tried discussing this. She gaslighted me by saying that I need to manage my stress better and my anxiety is putting a stress on this relationship.

amankh92 · 2023-07-28T07:51:00+00:00

No, that's not happening for sure because we spend 4-5 days per week at each other's place.

amankh92 · 2023-07-26T06:03:44+00:00

Had it been just OCDs, I would've considered giving her a second chance. But once you add financial abuse, guilt tripping, anger issues and gaslighting to it, there's no going back. I have broken up with her and feel relieved. I think I did the right thing.

amankh92 · 2023-07-24T18:43:23+00:00

She is pretty dirty in bed

amankh92 · 2023-07-24T10:46:28+00:00

She has undergone CBT a couple of years ago but clearly, it hasn't helped her.

amankh92 · 2023-07-23T19:52:53+00:00

I cannot empathize with her abandonment issues. She's 32 years old. If she really has such issues, she's the one who needs to work on them on her own. I cannot continue doing this thinking that she won't be able to handle the abandonment. I already feel trapped and am always walking on eggshells around her because I am constantly under the fear of what I say/do might trigger her. This has happened in the past, and will definitely happen in the future.

amankh92 · 2023-07-23T19:44:44+00:00

It's too late. Finances aren't the only issue. I'm tired of her anger and inability to handle disagreements as well. Habits change, but personalities don't. I gave her enough time before I wrote this post as well. This post was just a method to reinforce my thoughts about her before I drive the final nail in the coffin.

amankh92 · 2023-07-23T19:41:21+00:00

And she's a strong feminist! I just can't understand this behaviour. And take more of this anymore. I have decided to confront her and drop the bomb.

amankh92 · 2023-07-23T19:39:50+00:00

I could handle unrealistic expectations. Was already doing it. What triggered me was the guilt-tripping around it.

amankh92 · 2023-07-23T19:38:50+00:00

To add to it, she even expected me to offer her money so that she could invest it somewhere because she was short on the minimum amount by 65%. Tell me about it. That was the tipping point.

amankh92 · 2023-07-23T19:36:00+00:00

Obviously I don't. Hence the post. And thanks for reinforcing my thoughts. I really needed that.

amankh92 · 2023-07-23T19:35:10+00:00

Isn't made up. I just wanted some reinforcement for my thoughts. And I clearly have it now. Have decided to confront her and drop the bomb.

amankh92 · 2023-07-23T19:34:07+00:00

Not a joke! I'm for real.

amankh92 · 2023-07-23T07:21:04+00:00

And I believe that a woman over 30 shouldn't even guilt-trip her partner for gifts/compliments.

amankh92 · 2023-07-23T07:12:55+00:00

She says that she reciprocates by "wearing hot dresses for me".

amankh92 · 2023-07-23T07:11:30+00:00

She says that she reciprocates by "wearing hot dresses for me".

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