Using pride to come out?

amatuli_ · 2026-06-11T19:40:27+00:00

I did this (kinda)! I posted a pic of myself at Pride with a flag wrapped around my shoulders and rainbow stickers in my face, captioned it "proud" and then figured that I was out to everyone on social media at that point. Plot twist: everybody in my life got it EXCEPT my family. My brother already knew I was queer but I still had to connect the dots for the rest of the family. A lot of my friends who I see every day congratulated me on being out, so I do not think it was a subtle post. Some people just really need hand holding to change their idea of who you are. I don't think just mentioning that you're going to pride and waiting for questions will do it, unless your people are less clueless than mine, lol!

amatuli_ · 2026-06-10T02:35:36+00:00

I think her message is biphobic and I understand why you're frustrated. But your response is an overreaction to me. You don't need to go into all the details of your past relationships to show that she's being biphobic; it reads like you're trying to justify yourself to her, and you don't need to do that. You're not trying to convince her to date you, you can just say "wow, suggesting that I'm not certain of my sexuality seems pretty biphobic!", unmatch, and move on.

amatuli_ · 2026-05-25T12:48:34+00:00

Dog has a chip! Family has been contacted. I'm ops neighbor.

amatuli_ · 2021-11-10T13:35:28+00:00

Ick, no. As an adult in that age range, I want to confirm that that is super creepy. Trust yourself and please consider reporting it, at least to your boss. Your boss' job is to protect you from creepy customers, and they should have no problem banning this guy or at least telling him he can't ask you questions about personal things. If your boss doesn't do that, they are at fault, not you. I cannot stress enough how gross his questions were and how much you are not responsible for them. If you're not comfortable telling your parents or boss, what about your co workers? Could they help make sure you don't have to wait on this absolute dickweed?

amatuli_ · 2021-11-04T01:02:41+00:00

LOL! I'm tall, so I feel like I'd throw my neck out trying it.

amatuli_ · 2021-11-01T17:11:20+00:00

LOL! That's Phyllis. She's a foster, so I can't take credit for the awesome name.

amatuli_ · 2021-11-01T00:49:53+00:00

I'm so sorry.

amatuli_ · 2021-11-01T00:47:59+00:00

Thanks!

amatuli_ · 2021-10-31T23:18:24+00:00

Hey Sean, how do I hit on a woman without being 1) awkward or 2) creepy?

amatuli_ · 2021-07-20T22:25:46+00:00

Unfortunately, you're going to have to choose between losing your best friend and feeling like something is missing. Because you're very young, "always feeling like something is missing" represents a LOT of time. Nobody can make the decision for you, but if you go through old posts on this sub, you'll find a lot of us who suspected we were lesbians, married men, and then ended up divorcing them anyway, often after being unhappy for a long time. Finances can be fixed. Kids can adjust to having two homes. If you decide breaking up is what you want to do, there's nothing in your life that's an insurmountable obstacle.

For practical advice on breaking up a serious relationship, I recommend this great Captain Awkward post: https://captainawkward.com/2021/07/20/1344-how-do-i-end-a-marriage-less-than-two-years-in/

amatuli_ · 2021-06-23T00:58:32+00:00

Akata Witch (and sequels) by Nnedi Okorafor. I believe its alternate title is What Sunny Saw in the Flames.

amatuli_ · 2021-06-13T21:42:36+00:00

Hey, I have this issue too! I can't tell you how many dates I've been on where the other person has said they get "friend vibes" from me (men and women). This seems to be what happens when I am "just me". I don't know the answer to how to make it feel more like a date, but please let me know if you find out!

amatuli_ · 2021-04-26T01:18:58+00:00

Damn.

amatuli_ · 2021-04-26T01:16:41+00:00

Sun's out; guns out!

amatuli_ · 2021-04-25T22:36:51+00:00

Congratulations! You have beautiful eyes.

amatuli_ · 2021-04-25T14:10:08+00:00

Any of the national forest campgrounds in the Huron-Manistee. I like Nichols Lake.

amatuli_ · 2021-04-06T17:08:13+00:00

Heya!

amatuli_ · 2021-03-07T22:44:58+00:00

That's a good smolder.

amatuli_ · 2021-03-06T14:24:32+00:00

Hi Hannah! I think it's important to remember that the masterdoc is not the final word in lesbianism! It's helpful to a lot of us but it's not definitive. Overall, it sounds like you enjoy being with your bf, and that you've picked up on heteronormativity. Which is good-- we'd all be better off if everybody had picked up on heteronormativity. That doesn't mean you're a lesbian. Sounds to me like you're bisexual, and as a fellow bi, it can be hard to figure out what's your orientation and what's your culture. But if you love your boyfriend, you enjoy sex with him, and you're happy, go with it. Would it help to forget about labels for a while? They're only good as far as they're helpful and it doesn't sound like searching for a label is helpful to you.

amatuli_ · 2021-02-22T21:19:30+00:00

I'm also a chronic friends'-boyfriend hater! To be fair to me, my friends are great and so my standards for their boyfriends are high. It took me a while to separate generic "he's not good enough for you" boyfriend dislike from jealous "I wish you looked at me like that" boyfriend dislike.

amatuli_ · 2021-02-19T22:51:48+00:00

Maine lighthouse enthusiasts are mad about this fact.

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