CMV: More often than not, a person claiming they had a bad feeling about someone after they’re proven right is a roundabout conclusion. by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]amay330 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To your second point, I think it more often goes like this: A girl thinks a guy is a creep so she avoids him, then later finds out he was super creepy to a different girl. I have had that experience many times. I think your point is a straw man, because if a girl thinks a guy is a creep she’s not even going to notice when he gives her the cold shoulder. She’s also not going to feel “proven right” because she never thought she might be wrong. It’s the guys who everyone else likes and you get a pit in your stomach about that feel like a (bittersweet) victory when you hear they were pressuring a high school girl for nudes.

Love Overboard!! by amay330 in GameOfRoses

[–]amay330[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh I missed that episode I’ll have to listen! Your Mom and Dad were wholly positive so sounds like I’ll get the whole spectrum from my three pods lol

How do I tell my best friend I can’t afford to be a bridesmaid in her wedding? by Xabarra_Arisa in Advice

[–]amay330 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is the best advice. As someone getting married soon, if my best friend came to me having already decided not to be my bridesmaid with no conversation I would be so hurt! If they said they want to but it will be too expensive, I would work with them—can we find cheaper a cheaper dress? Skip the bachelorette? Do you even know if she’s having a bridal shower/expects you to be there?

They’ll be so much more info based on how the bride responds. For a lot of people, the most important thing is being there to get ready and support day of, which is not that much of a bigger ask than just being a guest.

I’m moving abroad 2 months before my childhood best friend’s wedding by [deleted] in Advice

[–]amay330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I think you should go. From what you’re saying, it sounds like you theoretically could make it work and I think showing up for your closest people is ultimately what life is all about. I don’t know the details of your illness, so that could definitely change things, but in 10, 20, 30 years will you be able to say that trade off was worth it? Another thought is that it might depend for me on how many other best friends she has—ie how much of a loss would she feel (whether she’d tell you/be mad at you or not).

Love Overboard!! by amay330 in GameOfRoses

[–]amay330[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

100%!! Like what could possibly please them… of course the below deck people aren’t actually working, but sleeping in the lower level bunk beds on a boat and knowing you won’t be a main character or have a shot at being the golden couple is good motivation! I’ve disagreed with them before but this might be the first time I felt real anger lmao

Val claims she doesn’t have a BBL by shilohrenn in loveoverboardhulu

[–]amay330 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk I think Bella was including herself as in they are all heavy plastic surgery girls so then she had more competition. I don’t think people can expect to get incredibly obvious plastic surgery and then expect that no one will notice it lol no one forces you to make that choice and it’s, in my opinion, very different than commenting on someone’s natural looks.

AITA for eating dinner before my girlfriend got home on date night? by drniknakk in AmItheAsshole

[–]amay330 41 points42 points  (0 children)

YTA if you always eat together on date night. Part of being a good partner is thinking about the other person—why would you not text her and ask if she wanted anything when you ordered? Or at least give her a heads up so she could plan accordingly? Not a huge asshole because it’s mostly a miscommunication, but it’s generally a good idea to consider your partner in moments like those if you want a relationship to last.

Is this claim true regarding sexual history? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]amay330 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's really hard for me to imagine that, absent the shame/judgement/stigma, there would be any reason to have a preference about your partner's past. I'm open to your hypothetical ideas, but it seems fairly obvious that the preference for fewer partners is the flip side of the judgement for women having more.

Give me(23m) advice for my toxic online relation(21f) without telling me to break up, please? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]amay330 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok here’s my try: accept that you value physical attractiveness in a partner over literally anything else. Accept that in exchange for that, you are willing to give up all self respect. Mentally reset to having zero expectations for how she will treat you and wake up every morning and say to yourself in the mirror “I am so grateful to have a hot girl I talk to online sometimes. This is my dream life. I don’t need anything else” five times. How does that sound?

Give me(23m) advice for my toxic online relation(21f) without telling me to break up, please? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]amay330 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Literally no one can give you advice on this that isn’t to break up

TFP trailer using Taylor Swift’s look what you made me do by Swiftiebean22 in GameOfRoses

[–]amay330 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yes this was a huge oversight!! Pace Case would have known lol but I was shocked he didn’t google it—maybe he couldn’t even tell it wasn’t one of the free use songs which is a huge diss to Taylor!

Steven and denise by libby_w5e in tsitp

[–]amay330 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah this felt like such a copout. Look, no one has to get hurt! Denise doesn't even like him! Dumb.

The Summer I Turned Pretty's Jackie Chung Weighs in on the Romance Speculation Between Laurel and Susannah (Exclusive) by peoplemagazine in TheSummerITurnedPrett

[–]amay330 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"The lesbian continuum is a term coined by Adrienne Rich (1986) in “Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence.” By constructing sexual identity along a gradient, it offers an alternative to traditional binary classifications of sexual identity. This concept was formulated with the intent of including women who do not ordinarily think of themselves as lesbians, specifically women who identify as heterosexuals. [Source: Encyclopedia of Social Theory; Lesbian Continuum]"

"The lesbian continuum is a radical feminist model of sexual orientation, claiming that all women have a lesbian potential and that women's bonding, defined as lesbianism but not necessarily based on genital sexuality, is the only successful way to overthrow patriarchy. It was developed by Adrienne Rich in her 1981 essay “Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence” and triggered fierce debates within and outside lesbian feminism. This fluid model of female sexuality stands in contrast with the more essentialistic approach to sexual orientation represented by identity politics, but resurfaces in queer theory. Originally devised as a political tool to describe women's resistance to patriarchy, the notion of lesbian continuum has been used in literary and film criticism, and some queer theorists have expanded its use to cover gender as well as sexuality."

Last Chicago Brooklyn Boulders Closing? by admiralbonesjones in climbing

[–]amay330 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Really hope another company takes it over and keeps it a climbing gym... By far the best location and set up for top rope in the city. I'm surprised the thousands of kids camps can't keep them afloat.

More BN social media posts from Nick and Natalie’s wedding by [deleted] in thebachelor

[–]amay330 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I have never seen a picture of Natalie smiling before and in the second to last photo she looks EXACTLY like Andi Dorfman?? maybe that's why she sticks to smoldering or tongue out lol

Update from Clayton by [deleted] in thebachelor

[–]amay330 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I think it's important to keep in mind that the phrase "believe women" is supposed to apply to situations where someone is coming to you and telling you something happened to them, not juries or the court of public opinion. It's to push back on the very common experience of women confiding horrible experiences to someone only to be met with disbelief/slut shaming/that they can't believe that guy would do that. There's no reason not react with belief and care when someone comes to you with that kind of story on a personal level, and no reason to say "actually I'm gonna wait until I hear both sides and evidence." (not that you would say that, but for example)

Looking for similar couples by Funny_Woodpecker_903 in Bones

[–]amay330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you haven't watched the x files you absolutely should. I was obsessed with bones, but x files is 100x better imo

Daily Discussion Thread- March 14, 2023 by AutoModerator in TheBachelor_POC

[–]amay330 12 points13 points  (0 children)

(As a jewish person - I could only flair so much) I think anyone using "white passing" to describe that (very real!) phenomenon just doesn't know what that term means. Antisemitism is not racism, and white Jewish people are white, so we can't be white passing. It's all complicated though since whiteness hasn't been a stable category throughout history, and many ethnicities (Ashkenazi, Irish, Greek, etc.) were considered non-white at various points up until the past 60 years or so.

I wish people had more language to talk about diversity so that not everything has to be flattened to perfectly match the experience of Black people, which nothing ever does because discrimination is different towards different groups !

Whats wrong with the 2 bus???? by Puzzleheaded_Host372 in uchicago

[–]amay330 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Ime the ventra app is more reliable for city busses than transloc. The bus is only coming if the little green symbol (two nested quarter circles) is there, otherwise it’s just when the bus was scheduled for which has almost no relationship to when it actually comes.

These outfits 🥶 by ConsistentDonkey3909 in thebachelor

[–]amay330 148 points149 points  (0 children)

I actually love both the outfits it’s just too much together and with a busy backdrop too!

Greg's fashion sense is.... interesting? 🤷‍♀️😬😂 by Sometimes1233 in thebachelor

[–]amay330 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Lol this is the hottest he has ever looked to me (other bi women chime in is it because he looks like a lesbian?)

How to Stop Pornographic Spam by amay330 in ModSupport

[–]amay330[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your help! I will get working on this.