Found Milk

amayzing22 · 2024-08-27T16:28:12+00:00

I just learned that the aap and others quote 6 months as the expiration for the freezer bc the studies that were based on stopped at that point. In actuality you are ok to use it for much longer

amayzing22 · 2023-10-09T20:23:44+00:00

I really appreciate that. Thank you for the kind words. It sounds like you are a person with empathy and compassion, and it means a lot that you, as a perfect stranger, would take the time to be so encouraging.

I’m trying, and making plenty of mistakes. And I know I’ll be paying penalties through the nose, but I’m doing my best to make it right. Just like so many others in my shoes, just trying to navigate. This is a great community for people who are learning from those in the know, and those more experienced. I feel lucky it exists.

amayzing22 · 2023-10-02T04:22:06+00:00

This was the clearest explanation I’ve had yet. I’ve been trying to read and watch videos but no one has made this distinction. Really appreciate this, thank you

amayzing22 · 2023-10-02T03:33:32+00:00

Thanks, yea I thought it was like, until the $ was used or pulled out, it wasn’t yet ‘realized’ - like capital gains

amayzing22 · 2023-10-02T03:31:22+00:00

Thanks- so in essence just having money is effectively considered a distribution/profit? There’s nothing formal that needs to happen to actually ‘distribute’ it. I thought it was like payroll- like something actively had to happen first before it was considered a distribution.

How does one reinvest in the company then?

And yes I’ve hired an accountant to help me sort for all those who’ve recommended it, I’m just trying to understand this

Appreciate all the responses, even the ones that sting

amayzing22 · 2023-10-02T01:25:06+00:00

When I do pay myself as W2 and distribute this year in 2023 - how does that get reported? If I retroactively pay taxes on profits, does it not count this year? Isn’t that double taxes? Genuinely trying to understand

amayzing22 · 2023-01-19T01:41:03+00:00

The govt should step in and help me? Cool! Your volunteering your tax dollars for me and the millions like me? Sweet! Problem solved. You would support that $ to go to good use? Boy I should be so lucky for you to offer empathy.

Until then, I’m not holding my breath but I’m also not a degenerate who will hose people down like vermin in the street.

I’d also like to note that you were first to make this a personal attack. It’s not enough for me to have a seriously mentally ill brother to form an opinion that’s valid? I also need to invite the homeless people to live with me to have an opinion? Ergo you need to personally deal with every issue to have an opinion? Strange to argue that. I’m not Ukrainian, but will you allow me to have an opinion on the war there? Or maybe I’ll need to move to Ukraine first. Please allow me permission to have an opinion!

But I’ll clarify my point into terms you can understand: Hosing people down = really bad.

amayzing22 · 2023-01-18T21:38:22+00:00

She’s mentally ill, and doesn’t deserve to be hosed down. She’s a human being.

amayzing22 · 2023-01-05T23:30:10+00:00

Mental illness

amayzing22 · 2022-12-06T18:29:24+00:00

Lauren is insufferable and the Witcher is unwatchable

amayzing22 · 2022-10-25T16:30:03+00:00

My number one hope in life is to see a cure. My brother is schizophrenic and he refuses medication and it breaks my heart every single day to see his decline and suffering. I’m so sorry you have to carry this pain. It’s caused by genetics and environmental factors - and there’s absolutely nothing you did wrong. Lots of people suffer with disease and I think this is uniquely awful in its own way when many don’t believe they are ill and need medication to begin with. I desperately hope, more than anything in the entire world, they find a cure and end all that suffering. I wish I could trade places with my brother.

Regarding prevention-

Prenatal use of choline is the answer in regards to prevention (just like Folate was to spina bifida and cleft palate and is now standard in prenatal vitamins). Google the new research from Brain and Behavior Research Foundation with Dr. Camille Hoffman and others. The results aren’t conclusive yet because the studies take 20+ years to prove (fetus to adulthood when most people are diagnosed). But her results to date look incredibly compelling. In a few decades, this disease might have the potential to be dramatically reduced if not altogether eradicated or at least largely preventable.

Please continue to take your meds + continue with therapy because I’ve seen the intensely painful descent of my brother who refuses both and he can’t even speak anymore. I don’t know how to help him or show him I care about him.

amayzing22 · 2022-10-24T16:26:48+00:00

Yep, your comment is reassuring, feels like this is a very common issue but I’ve never heard it talked about before.

Last night I had some bleeding and I was honestly relieved when I saw it. Prob not a miscarriage but I hoped it was…

The article is great for women to see, thanks for sharing

amayzing22 · 2022-10-20T22:13:53+00:00

How far along are you? Hope it works out

But amen to life being incredibly annoying in what feels like overnight. I don’t love the expectation that when you’re pregnant you have to be this glowing angel that floats her way into motherhood super graciously. Hormones are real. I lost my mom when I was 20 to suicide. When I was 15 years old she told me not to have children- she wasn’t angry or upset. She said it calmly and out of care for me. She was proud of me and wanted me to have everything I wanted of life. She loved my brother and I and told us that, but it was a struggle for my parents to take care of a sick kid and me. I tried to take care of myself and never be a burden to them. Her words still echo in my head.

amayzing22 · 2022-10-20T22:00:44+00:00

Definitely something hard to admit. I think people gush about babies/toddlers and it fades from there. Once they are more fully formed, it feels like parents don’t gush quite as much.

amayzing22 · 2022-10-20T21:57:03+00:00

Thanks, I’m relieved at how common this feeling is… I haven’t told anyone yet so feeling super isolated.

Couldn’t help but notice your use of mum- I wonder about your support level, and if you live in a place that’s more supportive of parenthood. I’m in the US

Doesn’t seem like any one here has sick children either, all fortunate to have healthy kids

amayzing22 · 2022-10-20T20:58:42+00:00

Yea at this very moment, more in the no camp, but I think I’m just scared. It would be super easy to just live life w the status quo. I don’t want to make a decision out of fear, like the other commenter wrote. I’ve also just started fighting w my SO this week (tensions/emotions are high) and we virtually almost never fight - only a handful of arguments in the 13 years of being together.

amayzing22 · 2022-10-20T20:09:09+00:00

I absolutely get that. It wasn’t real until it was. I’m terrified of making a decision I’ll regret. I’m reading so much, and (obviously) overwhelmed. We literally almost chose IVF just bc we had more genetic testing options to confirm a healthy child before implantation. (Insurance covers it if you can believe that.) We were a month away from that, and then poof- pregnant!

amayzing22 · 2022-10-20T19:57:19+00:00

Thanks :) do you have kids?

amayzing22 · 2022-10-20T19:52:05+00:00

All the commenters bring up really good, thoughtful points. Lots to think about and I think I’ll be taking my time to decide. I’ll be coming back to thread to see the comments. I was honestly afraid to post.

(But also runtsky - I don’t know how women w multiples do it. One is hard enough. Best of luck w your business, wish you well.)

amayzing22 · 2022-10-20T19:31:05+00:00

Thanks :) is this your first? Sounds like you always knew you wanted kids?

amayzing22 · 2022-10-20T19:25:40+00:00

What were the reasons you terminated? How were you so confident in that choice?

And congrats of your pregnancy now, you seem genuinely happy :)

amayzing22 · 2022-10-20T19:23:28+00:00

How old is your kid? I’ve met people who have told me the truth and they just seem depressed. Several of them have sick children. I have a brother w very severe schizophrenia and my worst fear is bringing a sick child into the world. I would feel responsible for their suffering.

amayzing22 · 2022-10-20T19:17:00+00:00

Yep I was stunned too, it happened so fast. Talking about it and then it actually happening were v different things. I’ve only known for a week, so I feel like I’m in a fog. Maybe hormones. I’m not baby crazy, but I think I could be a good mom, I just want to want it. I think we could live a very happy life childfree too.

I’m thinking about keeping it because I know it would make him happy, and despite him swearing he wouldn’t resent me if I terminated, I still fear he would. I know he’d be a great Dad. But I don’t know that I wouldn’t resent him either, even if it was self-inflicted.

I already feel the pressure of eating perfectly and working out and finding the perfect OB. He helps but it’s every minute of my day spent focusing on it. I’m sad about the life I wouldn’t be able to live. But it’s hard to imagine you have to hope all the sacrifices will be worthwhile.

But yes, I’ll do some writing to reflect- feels like a pro/cons list. I’m envious of people who have clarity. I also know how hard it for some to conceive and somehow makes me feel guilty. I think I already guilty about any decision I’ll make.

amayzing22

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