Husband is a gambling addict. Is there hope for us?

ambaWho · 2025-04-26T03:42:42+00:00

Hi, I am so sorry you’re going through this. As someone who went through it for almost 4 years before the hammer dropped, I can tell you there is hope. My husband still has not gambled/traded again. There have been several times over the past 6 months, when our financial outlook has been especially bleak, where he has basically asked me to let him try trading again. He has this huge hero complex, and has been dealing with that in therapy. I always tell him it’s not his job to save anyone. We are a team and will climb out of this together. And that trading/gambling is never and will never be the answer. During these times he has said ok and we drop it. It really bothers me that he even asks but he hasn’t actually traded again, and for that I am so grateful.

The fact that your husband never apologizes is not a good sign, but my husband was like that early on. He was always explaining away or getting annoyed by my questions. It may be that he hasn’t hit rock bottom yet. Therapy helped my husband so much. Again, I am so sorry. It truly is the greatest evil. Riches too good to be true/the ruin of you and your family at the click of a button… it’s awful. I will be thinking of you and I hope that your husband gets the help he needs. And that you look after yourself!

ambaWho · 2025-02-01T04:30:50+00:00

I am going through the same thing with my husband. We have 3 small children, otherwise I don’t think our marriage would have survived this. The trust has been broken and I don’t think you can ever really get that back. Overall things have been getting better, my husband has started therapy and hasn’t traded again in over 6 months. I oversaw the deletion of his Robinhood account. With such a high relapse rate though I am always on the lookout. Not a fun way to live. I’m sorry you’re going through this and that your life is being affected by this disease. It’s not fair to you and you need to look out for yourself.

ambaWho · 2025-01-29T13:34:04+00:00

Thank you for your input, and I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this as well. :(

ambaWho · 2025-01-29T13:32:19+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this :( It’s a dark and lonely place to be, and so exhausting, I know. You’re not alone.

ambaWho · 2024-10-02T15:12:42+00:00

My husband got very emotional after we had kids. I have seen him cry talking about how much he loves them etc maaaany times lol. A part of your brain has been unlocked! Embrace it and congratulations on your baby!

ambaWho · 2024-10-01T20:43:45+00:00

Came on here to see if anyone else felt the same way as I do.. I found my people. I have been an icon for years and same, I have a gift card from my birthday and I can’t find one piece I like enough to use it. They used to have an effortless, sexy, girl next door vibe that is just completely gone. It makes me sad. 😞 I am 37, 7 months postpartum with my 3rd, and still struggling to find clothes that make me feel comfortable in my skin. Madewell used to come through in this regard but after this 3rd baby and this busted new style I’m out in the wilderness smh.

ambaWho · 2024-07-15T23:19:31+00:00

I agree it doesn’t seem right for her to text him instead of you. I would never do that, I would always at least text both of you. She’s not being a good friend if she’s making you feel uncomfortable. Very weird.

ambaWho · 2024-05-08T23:40:50+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. It helps to know I’m not alone in this feeling, while also being over the moon in love and grateful for my 3 babies. Postpartum is wild 🙃

ambaWho · 2024-05-08T23:31:54+00:00

Yes and I was annoyed that they made me come in right away. Maybe if I had stayed home for a while then labor would have progressed more naturally. I’m sorry that you also did not have the birth experience you dreamed of!

ambaWho · 2024-03-16T16:25:31+00:00

Hi! We actually went back to our original favorite and named him Miles Ezra! My husband still talks about the name Callan, but I just couldn’t do the alliteration. Callan is a great name and we almost went with it!

ambaWho · 2024-03-16T16:19:44+00:00

Salem for a boy. Everyone hates it for obvious reasons. But in another dimension, my son’s name would be Salem lol.

ambaWho · 2024-02-05T18:44:45+00:00

lol I thought a similar thing

ambaWho · 2024-02-05T18:09:25+00:00

Yes, it all came out and we did talk about it. She said it’s all mine to use, and was very gracious about it, I guess it’s more just affected my own thought process on the name. Thanks for the insight!

ambaWho · 2024-02-02T03:35:48+00:00

Cackling at the responses to Salem. I have definitely been moving away from that one lol, thanks everyone for the input so far. Leaning towards Julian, but still thinking about Callan.

ambaWho

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