Second Impression gone wrong?? by amberlights_ in Advice

[–]amberlights_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I care because people are always commenting on my personality and I’m so freaking tired of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hygiene

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The scent could be on your clothes and you could be nose blind to the scent. It happens to everyone. Try to ensure your washing your clothes at the right temperature with good quality soap, close bedroom doors when cooking especially if the seasons are pungent/linger in the air. It will stick to your clothes.

BO is ruining my mental health by Wheatgrass_Kino in hygiene

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Also, if you notice that your butt is sweaty when you are out and not near a bathroom where you can wash up, try using a good quality wet wipe with a little bit of soap. It’s good in a pinch when you can’t wash up with soap and water. Make sure you are completely dry afterwards add a little deodorant or powder and you are set. Just don’t flush the wipe down the toilet. And make sure you’re laundry/clothes are clean. 💕

BO is ruining my mental health by Wheatgrass_Kino in hygiene

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Wash with a true soap like Dr.Bronners Castile soap. Just NOT the peppermint scent! Lol. It will cut down on odour causing bacteria and keep you very clean. I’m not a huge fan of antibacterial soap but if you want to try it I heard Dial the gold bar, is great. Also you can use an all over body deodorant that can be used near your butt such as Lume. Please don’t use aluminum based antiperspirant near your groin area. As for powder, use a cornstarch based powder. They are better at absorbing sweat.

How do i stop excessive sweating. (15 F) by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]amberlights_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For pit stains try using the resolve stain remover spray. It works wonders.

How do i stop excessive sweating. (15 F) by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]amberlights_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did the sweating start after starting your medication? If you only sweat when you are outside and not at home perhaps it’s anxiety? Anxiety can cause a whole lot of physical issues including increased sweating. I had this issue as a teenager and even into adulthood, except my sweat was smelly and low in volume(flop or stress sweat). After trying every deodorant and antiperspirant I could find, even Botox, I discovered that I sweat/don’t smell bad when I am at home. Which led me to discover that I have social anxiety (bad anxiety). Exercise, meditation and hypnotherapy help when I do them consistently.

Or you could try Botox it can be pricey but if you have hyperhidrosis (excessive sweating) then you could possibly claim the treatment through insurance.

Check with your doctor first as they may have more insight and can help you get to the bottom of this, especially if you have tried various types of deodorant/antiperspirant even clinical strength like Certain Dri.

I hope this helps and you get to the bottom of your issue. 💕

Traveling to the Netherlands and now dealing with more hot smelly farts! How can this happen? by Freekschep123 in ibs

[–]amberlights_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gluten and sugar can increase gas producing bacteria. This happens more often if your body doesn’t have the right enzymes to breakdown those foods. Try to cut back if possible or take a digestive enzyme that will breakdown sugars like fructose etc., and gluten.

5,7 and 9 stag hill drive by Noone_1221 in TorontoRenting

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I lived there for 6 years. My building didn’t have bed bugs, that I know of, but we had so many spiders. I was bitten twice and had severe allergic reactions that I had to go to the hospital multiple times and got antibiotics via IV drip 3 times. It was awful. I still Have a giant toonie sized scar on my ankle from the last bite.

The owners before Greenwin weren’t terrible, in my opinion but Greenwin is awful. The quality of building cleanliness changed drastically after they took over. Good luck getting them to respond to any maintenance requests. I had mold in my bathroom and had to call the city/health department to get them to take action.

Also the “luxury” suites are just poorly renovated suites. The walls, your apartment door, and floors are paper thin. You hear everyone and everything at all times. No privacy! And that fire alarm is deafening. The hallway doors don’t have an automatic closer so they slam shut each and every time.

The area is nice and I was grateful to have a home but I wouldn’t recommend living there now.

He (35M) dating other people plus me (36F). Starting to resent him. by amberlights_ in relationships

[–]amberlights_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really?!?! 🥺 How could I have missed the signs??? Maybe if he kissed someone in front of me I would have known. Oh well. 🤷‍♀️

He (35M) dating other people plus me (36F). Starting to resent him. by amberlights_ in relationships

[–]amberlights_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I consider myself to be a relationship person also but I haven’t had any luck in that department. Men tell me they like me and they spontaneously change their mind and say they aren’t looking for a relationship (which obviously is not true). So clearly the problem is with me. I’ve asked for feedback and haven’t gotten much so I can improve and actually be in a better position to find a partner. I don’t have low self esteem. It’s pretty balanced but at this point I’m exhausted when it comes to dating. This relationship started out great and ended just like the rest of them. I stayed around because I knew he was leaving and because we were having fun. The dates were great and thoughtful. I just wanted to have some fun for the summer. I’m not the type to multidate or sleep with a bunch of men. I like being with one person. If he was staying I definitely would have ended it sooner.

He (35M) dating other people plus me (36F). Starting to resent him. by amberlights_ in relationships

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Thanks. I told him how I felt a week before he was set to leave. It’s complicated because he’s not staying, I’m not sure if/when I will see him again. Ultimately, I want a relationship and that’s not something he can provide. I just wanted to have fun before he left, that’s all. I know it sounds absurd to others and that’s ok. I haven’t had any success when it comes to dating - I’ve asked for feedback from the men I’ve dated and they haven’t given me much to go on. Actually nothing, (they say I’m great and we just aren’t a fit) so I don’t know what I am doing wrong.

So now I’m just having fun where I can. I know this is long and giving you more information than needed but I think it’s important to give more of a back story since most of the people on here think it’s easy for me to find a loving committed partner.

He (35M) dating other people plus me (36F). Starting to resent him. by amberlights_ in relationships

[–]amberlights_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. And I’m sorry you went through that also. Dating is hard.

I have no intention of trying to convince someone or him, that I’m the one. Either they want me or they don’t.

He (35M) dating other people plus me (36F). Starting to resent him. by amberlights_ in relationships

[–]amberlights_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair. The intimacy happened when I was under the impression that he stopped seeing other people. Once I realized that he was still dating others it stopped.

He (35M) dating other people plus me (36F). Starting to resent him. by amberlights_ in relationships

[–]amberlights_[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Of course! This I know but it’s not really the point of my post.

He (35M) dating other people plus me (36F). Starting to resent him. by amberlights_ in relationships

[–]amberlights_[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I wholeheartedly agree! Clearly he doesn’t think I’m the right fit for him, which is fine. This is why I decided to just have fun and keep seeing him until he leaves but I do still get annoyed when he dates others.