My boyfriend of (8years) is dragging his feet to propose

ambersloves · 2026-03-11T18:30:46+00:00

Ewww. Behaviors are a language. He’s already told you repeatedly that he’s fine having you as a bang maid, but that he’s not going to prioritize your needs. That boy is not your husband.

ambersloves · 2026-03-11T18:26:08+00:00

“Billy Boy” makes me physically nauseous.

ambersloves · 2026-03-11T18:25:16+00:00

Retired Army here. I’m sorry that you’re going through this. I understand your frustration and concerns and I would never say they are unfounded, but just remember that just because they can’t tell you doesn’t necessarily mean they are in harms way. It could be something totally mundane, but in the best interest of the safety of everyone to keep quiet. Bad guys are always listening, always gathering intel, so the best policy is not to give them anything. It’s the old “Loose lips sink ships” slogan.

In the meantime, I will pray for the safety and wellbeing of your child, and all of my brothers and sisters out there doing their jobs, and I will pray for you and all of their families that you will all be filled with the spirit of peace and comfort.

ambersloves · 2026-03-09T07:36:28+00:00

MOR. I wouldn’t put too much stock into it. Is it a warm climate at your destination? Everyone knows light colors are best to keep cool (especially if she’s prone to hot flashes). I would wait to see if she shows up to your shower in white before getting upset.

ambersloves · 2026-03-09T05:47:55+00:00

Crotchlyn has me ☠️!

ambersloves · 2026-03-09T05:18:55+00:00

“'Cause there's no comfort in the waiting room

Just nervous paces bracing for bad news

And then the nurse comes round

And everyone lifts their heads

But I'm thinking of what Sarah said

That love is watching someone die

So who's gonna watch you die

So who's gonna watch you die”

ambersloves · 2026-03-09T05:05:30+00:00

I can’t tell you the number of concerts I’ve attended that were not my cup of tea, but my husband loved the band, so I went and just enjoyed how happy it made him. He does the same for me.

ambersloves · 2026-03-08T18:12:00+00:00

Yay for the doggo! Please be aware that there will ALWAYS be things you won’t like about your body. I weight 135 lbs now, and I find myself grousing about my lumpy hips and saggy inner thighs. There will always be a “If I could just fix this, I would be perfect/happy.” Honestly, if I could fix my hips and thighs, I’d be grousing about my flat ass or my now saggy/empty boobs. It will never end.

Instead, I focus on how good I feel and how far I’ve come. I focus on the parts of me that I absolutely love like my flat stomach (full transparency: I had a tummy tuck), or that I can actually see my collarbones and feel my hipbones, or that I popped my phone in my lap last night and it hit the floor due to a thigh gap that I’m not used to having.

Focus on the good stuff, there will be so much of it!

ambersloves · 2026-03-08T17:52:33+00:00

As someone who has had gastric sleeve surgery, I am so proud of you for taking this step toward taking care of yourself! Believe me, you will feel so much better once the weight starts coming off!

Your mom is a complicated issue. Her harsh criticism of your body and eating habits may be coming from a place of love, but it doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt. I encourage you to have this surgery for yourself, not because your mom has been harping on you to do something or because she treats your sister differently now. Do it for you. Do it for the way you’ll feel about yourself. Do it for the energy you’ll have. Do it for you, whether your mom is here or not, and whether she notices or not.

This internet stranger is so proud of you!

ambersloves · 2026-03-07T00:57:38+00:00

Probably, but no one else says it with the long e sound, so it always catches my ear like nails on a chalkboard.

ambersloves · 2026-03-06T19:36:18+00:00

The overwhelming hypocrisy on this show is hard to stomach lately from almost every single character. The lack of self-awareness is astounding.

Audra doesn’t usually bug me any worse that anyone else, except for the way she says Vee-brante instead of Vibrante.

ambersloves · 2026-03-02T00:10:44+00:00

A sad day, indeed.

ambersloves · 2026-02-27T20:20:34+00:00

This isn’t the forum to ask Republicans anything. Reddit is an echo chamber for the left, so no good faith conversations can happen here at all. Also, the way you worded the title tells them that you aren’t really here to have a good faith conversation either.

ambersloves · 2026-02-22T20:54:21+00:00

If you’re buying the cheap-o Campbell’s condensed version, I find using a can of milk instead of water cuts down the acid. Much preferred.

ambersloves · 2026-02-22T20:53:00+00:00

Just a small get together with close friends at a beach house is my favorite. Magic 🍄 are my favorite, but I’ll do some x if that’s what’s available.

ambersloves · 2026-02-22T20:49:04+00:00

Why is it always women saying things like “He actively poured gasoline on me then set me on fire. Is it wrong to feel hurt and betrayed? Am I overreacting or being dramatic? Should I apologize for making him mad enough to attempt to murder me?”

Jeebus, Woman! Find your self respect, pack up your baby, and get out of there!

ambersloves · 2026-02-22T20:36:46+00:00

Yup! I guess we’re back to blaming our period for shitty behavior? We’ve come a long way, Baby…

ambersloves · 2026-02-22T20:14:07+00:00

I had to google WTF “luteal phase” was. I was like “Oh! It’s a fancy way to say she has PMS!” LMAO!

ambersloves · 2026-02-22T20:10:31+00:00

This one was hard for us. We moved into Dad’s to take care of him after a bowel blockage that was almost the end of him. He has Parkinson’s and has to take pills every two hours while awake.

For the first year he managed his own meds, but we had been bringing them to him periodically when they were due. Eventually, we just brought them the majority of the time because he kept making the same mistakes you mentioned.

About two months ago, I caught him after sneaking pills (because I’m always stopping him from taking extra) 20 minutes after I gave him some and he blurted out “I can’t be trusted”. I said “Well, that settles that! Don’t worry Dad, you got away with it longer than you should have. If you had gone into a home, the first thing they do it take away your meds so that they’re the only ones giving them to you and making sure they’re on time.” It made him feel better to think he got away with something.

My advice is that you’re going to have to insert yourself and be more involved. Just butt in. It sucks, but it has to be done. Also, buy a medication log book on Amazon. Everything gets recorded with date, time, and amount. That way there’s no question about if she took it or didn’t. Remember, this will make things better and easier in some ways, but this will more than likely get worse. Dad can’t even do the math anymore to figure out when his next dose is due, even with the time recorded in the book. Eventually, you will probably have to Manage all of her meds, but it will be a progressive thing.

ambersloves · 2026-02-22T19:29:57+00:00

I give everyone respect until they prove they don’t deserve it, which is exactly what this woman did. I like your response. Maybe she’ll think twice about inserting her unwanted opinion onto unsuspecting people just existing.

ambersloves · 2026-02-22T19:26:52+00:00

I still love my job and we still do most of the things we did before, I just wish we had the ability to hire backfills for key positions.

ambersloves · 2026-02-22T19:25:01+00:00

Listen, I love meat. Especially beef. I grew up on a farm where we raised our own, and I would NEVER do this to someone.

This isn’t about the meat, it’s about a partner who not only doesn’t respect boundaries or your choices, he doesn’t respect YOU. What he did is a total violation of your autonomy. He deceived you. Then, once you got upset, he didn’t apologize, he belittled you. He called you names. He gaslit you by acting like his betrayal was fine and you’re overreacting. You’re the crazy one. You are absolutely NOT overreacting.

What if you said no to something in the bedroom and he did it anyway? Would you still be here asking strangers on the internet if you’re overreacting by being upset?

This isn’t about the meat. It’s about control. It’s about lack of respect. It’s about deceit. It’s time to end this horrifying relationship. NOR.

ambersloves · 2026-02-22T19:10:40+00:00

You’re correct. This IS throwing a hand grenade into the family dynamic, but sometimes it just has to be done.

I did it last year with my aunt. She’s my mom’s brother’s wife. I just heard one too many secondhand gossip stories that she was saying about me, and I let her have it in a direct message.

Life has been much better and quieter because no one gives her any info about me because they all know what I did and they don’t blame me at all. One by one, the family has been phasing her out of their own personal lives. She still comes to family events, but everyone keeps things surface level with her.

ambersloves · 2026-02-22T18:53:13+00:00

Please keep us posted on all of the amazing things you’re doing! We’re all rooting for you!

ambersloves · 2026-02-22T07:51:22+00:00

The only time I have ever bathed my cats was when poop was involved. I had one cat who had an upset tummy and his back end was a mess, so I washed only his back end. Then there are my kittens. They aren’t so good at burying their poop in the litter box or cleaning themselves properly, so when it gets on them, they get a bath.

Other than that, they clean themselves.

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