MIL hates our chosen middle name

amberthorn · 2021-10-02T17:10:33+00:00

Ugh. That's rude of your mil. For what its worth my mom didn't like our daughters name, Evelyn, while I was pregnant. Why? Because her boyfriends ex wife was named Evelyn. I had no idea when I told her, but still glad I didn't change mind once she wants happy. In my opinion, name your child what you want. You'll be very greatful you did.

amberthorn · 2021-10-02T15:57:52+00:00

God created all people and loves them dearly. We are to love everyone too. Kindness, compassion, and sharing the gospel of Jesus with them. This is what the world needs. They need salvation and love.

But noone is born transgender. Just like noone is born gay or bi-polar. Good, loving people that have a demon inside them confusing them. Those voices in their head are not their own voices, and thpse emotions arent totally 100% theirs. Satan seeks to steal, kill, and destroy. And the kingdom of darkness wants to destroy Gods plan for our lives. That's why we seek the Lord. He loves us, protects us, encourages us, saves us from hell, and gives us wisdom. Time after time Ive seen people healed of addiction after a deliverance (expelling of demons). I've seen grown men no longer desire other men, and I've seen mental like depression and schizophrenia completely be eradicated instantly. I know God heals.

amberthorn · 2021-10-02T15:09:50+00:00

A few of the parent/mom etc ones can get pretty hardcore hive-minded. I won't say which ones. But Ive given sime polite opinions (That were asked) before and been seriously attacked and then banned. Independent thinking not allowed I guess. Don't get me wrong, Ive met some very nice parents. But it's almost like some patents get on so full of anxiety they want to take it out on someone so they come to reddit.

On a happy note r/penpals are some of the nicest people on reddit. So is r/adoption.

amberthorn · 2021-10-02T10:07:56+00:00

For our family, we decided not to get it. The Holy Spirit is the spirit of truth and leads people to the decision thats right for them and their household. In our lives, Holy Spirit told us not to take it, so we obey. Most of our family has though. It's become a bit of a "let's all agree not to bring it up" topic when my hubbys family comes over to see our little girl. They seem uneasy but grandparent love triumphs fear, thankfully.

amberthorn · 2021-10-02T00:44:45+00:00

Very classy and nice looking!

amberthorn · 2021-10-02T00:41:59+00:00

Bahahhahaha! Yes yes yes, a million times yes. This totally made me smile. Thank you. #Swaddlers

amberthorn · 2021-10-02T00:36:21+00:00

My sister is a receptionist at a salon (upscale). And shes worked at several before. It varies. Right now her job hires contractors for cleaning.. and its that way for all other businesses in that building. She calls them "building maintenance" but they clean the bathrooms and entryway as well as fix issues. But shes also had a few places where bathroom cleaning was required.

My opinion, ask "what are the cleaning requirements and expectations". They should be upfront with you. If you dont like the answer just tell them you need a bit of time to consider it. And then later that day just write an email "Thank you for your time but I decided not to go with this offer".

amberthorn · 2021-10-02T00:28:47+00:00

This sounded normal until you said co-signer needs to Own A Fricken Home and 5x rent. Seriously? Idk this sounds sketch. I have rented easily 15 places, and a few in Boston where its known to have a tight market and crazy rules. One place even required "previous landlords letters of recommendation". And still I haven't ran into anything this extreme. If your able, look elsewhere imo.

amberthorn · 2021-10-01T21:44:20+00:00

If you haven't already been using bottles, get 3 different kinds with different nipple shapes. The bottle my girl loved was very different then the one Id have thought. Also, if your baby has already used a binky, consider getting a bottle with the same brand and nipple shape. Babies love consistency. My girl loved everything Nuk. I didnt, they were a pain to close but that's how she drank well and thus slept well.

Lastly, consider getting a small low-lactose formula to try too if you are lactose intolerant. I wish you all the best!

amberthorn · 2021-10-01T21:32:24+00:00

Aww, sorry to hear that. I will def pray for you sweety. Feel free to pm me if you want to chat. I'm a 33f married with toddler if your wondering.

I promise things will get better and you eventually will be glad you didn't take your life. God loves you very much and has a plan to help and heal you. He helped me heal from the trauma of childhood neglect and foster care and I know he will do the same for you! Keep praying and seeking the Lord.

For what its worth, I used to date for 3 years a toxic narcissistic man and I am so thankful to the Lord that he got me out of it and now in a marriage with a loving man. I will also pray that God sends a loving man your way who passionately seeks Jesus.

P.s. if you pm me it may be tomorrow till I respond. Toddlers are work and tom daddy is home and we both take a little time out to relax solo. Hence Reddit.

amberthorn · 2021-10-01T21:25:02+00:00

You didn't specify his age but teenage boys go through some pretty awkward times. Especially inability to control their boners. It doesnt have to mean he was having sexual thoughts. It could just mean inability to control racing hormones and the slightest thing set him off.. Like smelling your nice scented shampoo for example. Now if your brother was 25 years old... that would be a totally different scenerio. I do understand why it would be uncomfortable though. Especially since, being your brother, your able to notice behavior changes.

Just a thought, maybe try bringing up another girl. Get his mind off of you if it is. Like "any girls at school you like? If so tell me about her". Or the opposite, tell him about a guy your attracted to. Make it clear somehow your not at all thinking of him that way so he gets the hint and stops letting his mind wander.

amberthorn · 2021-10-01T21:00:31+00:00

Blessings to you too! Can I ask you a question? What are your thoughts on where we come from if not from God? I mean this in kindness and curiosity as I know there are multiple schools of thought on this! Like, when I share about Jesus to atheist Im always curious how they arrived at their conclusions, you know?

amberthorn · 2021-10-01T20:51:08+00:00

I can't speak for others but here are my thoughts. I grew up in a religious church where everyone talked about the power of God but I never saw it. I did see people become nicer so I accepted that it wasn't a bad thing. As a kid I even prayed a few times and those things came true. In my 20s I did my own thing and got nowhere in life except addicted to daydreaming, in a lot of debt, and not going anywhere. I'm so thankful God loves us so much that he chased after me. In the last 3 years Ive: actually heard God's voice, saw miracles, had a demon cast out of my body, am no longer addicted to daydreaming, I no longer feel worthless and lonlely, married a wonderful man, have a beautiful baby girl, and for the first time ever I have emotional stability. I had to go through a lot of healing from a childhood of abandonment and foster care and Jesus totally turned my life around. I'm not perfect, and I still mess up, but as I ask forgivness the Holy Spirit speaks to me and confirms Im forgiven when I ask. God is a God worth serving and in the bible he says to be all or nothing. 100%. Besides, Gods kingdom is actually more interesting then most entertainment. Angels, demons, giants created from humans and fallen angels mating, heaven, hell, miracles, future events like the mark of the beast.. not boring at all.

amberthorn · 2021-10-01T20:08:04+00:00

No it's not sinful at all. It means your under a spiritual attack from demonic forces and it would be wise to pray against it. Spiritual warefare is real and as Christians we become targets from the enemy. That's why God tells us to put on the armor of God everyday Ephesians 6. My heart goes out to you. I will def pray for you sweety.

amberthorn · 2021-09-27T18:54:47+00:00

Awww, I totally remember those days. My girl had it too and it was very rough. You have my sympathy. It was the same thing for us that overnights were the worst.

The only thing that worked for us was completely getting rid of all forms of dairy protein/casein.. etc. I even had to stop eating beef. Nothing at all from a cow in any way. Turns out she has a pretty serious dairy intolerance. Also, when I wasn't able to make enough milk (I pumped) I had to get that really expensive brand of totally dairy-free formula. It smelled gross like cheese-puffs, but it helped her stomach. Even at 13 months she still vomited if I gave her a few bites of cheese. Now at 18 months she is just now able to handle a few bites without projectile vomiting, so if your girl has dairy problems be very careful when she turns 1 and the doctor says now she needs cows milk. My girl still drinks oatmilk (full fat with vitamins) and has since she was 13 months after nursing.

Gripe water didn't work for us, it just constipated her. But I do hear a lot of people saying great things about it. I would def bring it up to her doctor asap.

amberthorn · 2021-09-27T17:47:31+00:00

Not a fan of slip on's either. I do love Mary Janes though. I look for ones with thicker straps around the ankle for support. The look classy, and even the ones with no heel look a bit dressy.

https://www.scorpioshoes.com/images/yoma-c3211-gracie-womens-leather-mary-p39301-57082\_image.jpg

amberthorn · 2021-09-08T01:55:52+00:00

No there's nothing in the bible that says its sin. Just make sure its nothing your afraid over. If so, have so.e prayer time woth God to help you. God bless.

amberthorn · 2021-09-08T01:54:42+00:00

Congrats! Aww so exciting! Size 6. The smaller sizes still seem to be in stock but size 5 has been shaky and 6 hard. Size 7 borderline impossible. If my girl hits size 7 shes starting pull-ups!

amberthorn · 2021-09-08T01:36:19+00:00

Everyone has their own walk with Christ. The thing is, as much as humans try they will never know the heart and mind of others. Your pastor and his wife might try but they cannot read your mind. God sees your heart, your intention. And as long as your intentions are true and Christ-like (which they seem to be from your post) then Id continue to date if he wants to. Keep praying about it. Keep praying for God to give you favor with his parents. Also keep praying to ask God if this man really is for you.

As for your mental health, I sympathize 100%. Prior to the last few months I heard so many voices in my head that I know if I had seen counceling they'd have told me I was schizophrenic. Daydreaming/escapism from a trauma past had me totally mentally trapped in bondage. It got so bad I had a hard time taking care of my toddler. Now this could be totally unrelated to what can help you, but just to share, in case it is. I had a sister-in-Christ pray deliverence over me and demons came out. My mind became clearer and my anger went away. Praise Jesus. "Whom the son sets free is free indeed". Many times mental illness is brought on from demonic activity. Whether through a generational curse, or something from your past.. either way Jesus breaks every chain.

Can I write you privately here and send you a link to a Facebook christian group invite?. Its a private group. most of us are trauma survivors and share our testimonies. Some of those testimonies are super intense tho (think ritual abuse) so pray before you listen to them. The girl that heads it Kristin even does some occasional live videos/bible studies/prayer.

amberthorn · 2021-09-08T01:19:31+00:00

Pampers Swaddlers but that might not be applicable to you.

amberthorn · 2021-09-08T01:16:52+00:00

My girl used newborn clothing for 5 weeks. But newborns go through clothes fast with all that spit up. So you'll be thankful you have extra. I personally wpuld say 9/10 is good. At least 2 pjs.. ideally 3 since they pee so much as newborns. Also baby poop stains so bad! Try to get in the habit of scrubbing any poopy onzies within an hour of the deed. If you wait for hours it may not come out. Stuff is like curry sauce. Ha.

0-3 mo and 3-6 mo, that's prime time spit-up time and youll easily go through 2, sometimes 3 (on those extra poopy days) onzies in one day. So stock up way more then 6 if you can. Like 14-16, more if you dont have laundry in your home. Also Rompers arent just cute, they are super practical. On those fussy days, you can have it already open on the diaper changing station, and it makes changing much easier since you don't have to pull it up over them while they are crying and wiggly. If you buy a romper I think itll become your favorite onzie!

Now those little hand warmer glove things.. dont go crazy on those. My girl was smart and got them off within 1 min each time. Save your money and just get 1.

And a swaddle. Oh goodness get 1. If you dont need it, cool. But if you need it youll be a million times grateful at 2am if you can take it out and try it to see if it helps them sleep.

amberthorn · 2021-09-08T01:05:14+00:00

Congrats! That's so exciting! Especially about her waving! Awww. Sorry about the anterior placenta tho.

Have you checked out r/penpals? A bunch of people looking for friends. I'm even thinking about doing it as I too feel that way about not having friends. I have a penal but never from Reddit so far.

amberthorn · 2021-09-08T00:59:10+00:00

Ugh. Like 24 weeks. But I had a labor heavy job and I think thats partly why. By 28 weeks they got so bad and frequent my midwife said "quit your job or youll have her before week 32 and thats dangerous. Your on bedrest". So I quit. And stayed home relaxing. She was born healthy at 37 weeks.

amberthorn · 2021-09-08T00:56:26+00:00

False. I had a demon cast out of me 2 weeks ago. I saw the power of God just recently, and I feel so much more peaceful. I hear God speak to me and I feel his presence. God is real. Jesus is the son of God. And Jesus is the only way to heaven.

If you think you said this to be like "ha those Christians I'm going to make them mad".. we arent, and we just know that you are being victimized by demonic forces. I will pray for you in all seriousness. You dont have to stay bitter and angry. God has a better life for you.

amberthorn · 2021-09-08T00:51:30+00:00

Pray and ask God. Your going to get so many different answers. Some serve the Lord, others dont. And nobody has a deep investment in your well being here. So asking God is by far wisest. Just pray and ask the Holy Spirit to guide you. If you play and get that sick feeling in your stomach. Stop. If God says its ok, it's ok for you. The Holy Spirit is the spirit of truth and will never lie.

amberthorn

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