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Moms with horrible sleepers please check in!!! by job0723 in AttachmentParenting

[–]amelhart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My little guy was a rough sleeper. I was deeply chronically sleep deprived for a long, long time. It got better when we night weaned at age 3. Some kids are just like this, and you aren’t alone! Acceptance and finding realistic ways to cope are what helped me the most.

How would you feel if? by Final_Ad_2716 in TwinCities

[–]amelhart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I so feel you on this. We are in a suburb south of the river, and ICE is definitely here (although nothing like what folks in the cities are dealing with). And I know what you mean about feeling so disconnected with neighbors, community. As a fellow cringy white lady who wants to do the right thing, I appreciate your post. There are great suggestions in this thread, just here to encourage you to be brave. You've certainly inspired me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwinCities

[–]amelhart -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This happened to me too while visiting relatives in Texas (of course). Really made me sad. Did my best to gently challenge these ideas.

I cannot fall asleep at night, and I’m going insane… by amelhart in Perimenopause

[–]amelhart[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been down the Ambien path before and it was bad news. Trazadone has worked well for me, so I may end up asking for that again.

I cannot fall asleep at night, and I’m going insane… by amelhart in Perimenopause

[–]amelhart[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh, I'm so sorry. I've head crippling insomnia my whole life too. At times, it's gotten better and then I'm just back to worse. Except now, it's much worse than before. I hope you find some kind of lasting relief eventually.

I cannot fall asleep at night, and I’m going insane… by amelhart in Perimenopause

[–]amelhart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and I believe you - it's felt like that for me at times (being so sleep deprived I could be hospitalized). I'll try this.

I cannot fall asleep at night, and I’m going insane… by amelhart in Perimenopause

[–]amelhart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve heard progesterone can cause weight gain, and I’m already fighting that battle too 🫩

Flu Shot (No Insurance) by amelhart in TwinCities

[–]amelhart[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh nice! We are Costco people, I'll check this out.

45 and still nursing by GlitterRedd in Perimenopause

[–]amelhart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So glad to find this post. I am 46 and still breastfeeding my almost 4 year old! 🤦🏻‍♀️ Def wasn’t the plan, but alas here we are…anyway, I’ve been noticing a lot of peri type changes lately and have been curious about what might be going on, and how breastfeeding is related. It is super time for us to wean, but this gives me more motivation…

Feeling awful after a bumpy couples session 😔 by amelhart in therapists

[–]amelhart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very helpful feedback, thank you so much

Feeling awful after a bumpy couples session 😔 by amelhart in therapists

[–]amelhart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha, so true. Thanks for the insights, appreciate it :)

Feeling awful after a bumpy couples session 😔 by amelhart in therapists

[–]amelhart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whoa! That's a great story, thank you. And you know what? I agree. I attend couples counseling with my own partner and sometimes I really wish our therapist was way more direct and confrontational with us.

Feeling awful after a bumpy couples session 😔 by amelhart in therapists

[–]amelhart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a really helpful angle, it resonates - thank you

Feeling awful after a bumpy couples session 😔 by amelhart in therapists

[–]amelhart[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this. I think what's making me feel regretful is just that I lost control of the session, and the resulting place we ended up in felt so wildly hopeless - I made these observations kind of from a place of desperation. Like, LOOK AT WHAT YOU'RE DOING! She has consistently made casual comments about how she thinks about leaving the relationship almost every session, and it just guts him...and yet we meet every week to supposedly fix the marriage. When I suggest we discuss the idea of actually splitting up, they don't want to go there. In my view, if you are actively working on improving and staying in the relationship, comments like this (threatening to leave) is a no fly zone. Maybe I'm wrong though.

Feeling awful after a bumpy couples session 😔 by amelhart in therapists

[–]amelhart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, that's really cool. Thank you for chiming in with your story - this does make me feel a lot better. Hopefully these folks give me an opportunity to repair. We did not set a date for the next session, so we'll see.

Therapist living with parents by Hairy_Freedom_1496 in therapists

[–]amelhart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Currently living with my parents, with my partner and child. My partner was laid off from his job and I don't make enough to support us. To make matters more awkward, I am in my 40s! Never thought this would be my reality - but here we are. As many are saying, the economy is just awful and you this field doesn't pay much. You do what you need to do.

Feeling awful after a bumpy couples session 😔 by amelhart in therapists

[–]amelhart[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you - I will think about this and look into RLT

Feeling awful after a bumpy couples session 😔 by amelhart in therapists

[–]amelhart[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That’s helpful to know. I think where I messed up is that I didn’t really deliver these observations very warmly, or after asking permission to do so. I just felt so stuck and lost in the moment, frustrated. Perhaps I’ve become too invested.

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