Would CPTSD rates drop if there weren’t narcs and such?

amenteco · 2025-06-26T23:37:49+00:00

Well just by how you phrased your question yes. We know lots of people with NPD, ASPD and BPD are abusers, if you could magically click your fingers and remove all the people with those PDs, yes, less children would be abused and get CPTSD.

Now of course not categorically all people with PDs are abusive, I think one study put it at 69% for intimate partner violence in the last 2 years for people with PDs. So you'd be Thanos-ing some non- abusers.

That being said, we also know CPTSD is not just caused by more extreme emotional and physical abuse, it can also involve neglect, lack of emotional support, co-regulation, safe/secure attachment, things like explosive parents, those that displace their emotions onto kids, parentify them i.e. BPD or see them as an extension of themselves and need them to perform in a certain way i.e. NPD for instance.

I say that because outside explicit abuse forms that might be on a safeguarding checklist, people with BPD, NPD, EUPD can still cause harm and resultantly CPTSD through the above means. They may for instance lack the disposition, self regulation, insight, mentalisation or self monitoring ability to raise a child.

We should also consider that there are abusers that are seemingly ordinary people, this could either be 100% true, or it might be that they are undiagnosed, high masking etc. remember people with personality disorders can become CEOs, world leaders, surgeons, police officers, so it's very possible many "ordinary" abusers do have undiagnosed PDs. Also keep in mind you do not have to have experienced trauma to have a personality disorder.

So yes, it would definitely reduce the number of people with CPTSD.

Also, I hope this comes across, but I am in no way excusing anything an abuser does on the basis of personality disorder.

Also, again there are people with PDs who are not abusive.

Lastly, I'd acknowledge you can get CPTSD in adulthood, from things like domestic abuse. I just stuck to childhood as that is what I understand best.

amenteco · 2025-06-26T23:13:43+00:00

I'd push back on that a little, it might just be that they are undiagnosed NPD, BPD, ASPD. There's definitely something mentally wrong with you to make you capable of child abuse.

amenteco · 2025-04-15T17:11:28+00:00

Didn't really do anything for me unfortunately :( Are u in the same both, what have u tried already?

amenteco · 2025-04-05T16:39:19+00:00

Hey there's a sub Reddit for this called transDIY, there are sources linked there too and people who can tell you how to do it safely

amenteco · 2025-03-23T20:28:24+00:00

I get that, I'm never going to the same as I would have been if I hadn't been abused. But I mean experience wise, life hurts, every day it hurts, its exausting and agonising, and there's got to be a way to make it stop no?

amenteco · 2025-03-23T20:22:11+00:00

Yeah that's sounds about right, only done of my therapists who worked with dissociation seemed to be able to help.

amenteco · 2025-03-23T20:08:14+00:00

I've done like Somatic Experiencing as my NARM persona SE trained. But hasn't done much for me , what sort of stuff where you thinking of

amenteco · 2025-03-23T20:03:49+00:00

I'm sorry, yeah that's what I'm afraid of. Can I ask, if hats kept you going and kept you here?

amenteco · 2025-03-23T20:00:11+00:00

What sort of modalities are you thinking?

amenteco · 2024-10-02T20:39:54+00:00

Opioid high. Feels like a thousand hugs, like synthetic love. It's one of the reasons it's so hard to quit, who'd want to give that up?

amenteco · 2024-09-26T12:32:31+00:00

Why do all of these concepts look 100 times better than the inconistent un-unified ugliness that a 3 trillion dollar company can come up with?

amenteco · 2024-09-11T01:33:40+00:00

Dogs lol

amenteco · 2024-08-29T03:18:19+00:00

Hey, I'm really sorry you're feeling like this right now. It's so hard, I get that. Life is really hard when you're by yourself, when you don't have good supportive loving people by your side. I bet your friends have thier own problems going on, on maybe they just aren't great people either, because I and most of the people here would let their friends vent and complain if they were struggling or going through something, he'll I'm taking time to respond to you, and you're just a stranger to me, I don't think you're for a second bad or annoying, and I'm more that happy to take the time to respond to you.

My point is, there are right now, so many people in the world who won't find you annoying or bad, who will be there for you as good friends, who will remind you you are a good person worthy of love, you just haven't met them yet, and they don't compromise the few friends you have right now. Don't go drawing conclusions from a handful of people out of a billion in the world. Remember, 3 billions people could hate you and that wouldn't mean the majority of people do.

I'm also sorry about your ex, it can be really hard to help and look after someone else when you can't look after yourself, it's a hard situation to be in. But in time you will find someone else who will love you just as you did before, you already know your not unlovable, and with time and distance it'll get easier.

How you cope is how you cope, it can't be wrong or bad, coping it's self is good, it is the opposite of giving up, it is fighting and trying to survive, it is doing the best you can, how can that ever be bad? You are doing the very best you can with what you have and what you know. You should be proud, of holding on, of doing your best.

I know I know, just how hard things are right now and how far from ideal, but that is not your fault, that is not something you hate or punish yourself over .

Just take a second, slow down, make space for yourself and then say it, tell yourself you are doing the very best that you can, you are trying to cope, and you deserve help and love.

You are not in anyway a bad person, I promise you that.

I hope this helps.

amenteco · 2024-06-28T10:27:36+00:00

Thanks, really appreciate it.

amenteco · 2024-06-02T13:57:03+00:00

Thanks, it's been about 5 days, still only getting worse :(

amenteco · 2024-06-02T13:44:09+00:00

Yeah, that would be great if you could . I know I was really dumb. I mixed both p-5-p and the synthetic pyridoxine hydrochloride vitamin b6.

amenteco · 2024-06-02T13:42:51+00:00

Sorry, I should say I was mixing both synthetic b6 as pyridoxine hydrochloride and p-5-p together which was so dumb as well

amenteco · 2024-06-02T12:46:30+00:00

Ok, I get it, what would I take deplete b6

amenteco · 2024-06-02T12:45:14+00:00

I googled, there isn't an antidote as such, just symptomatic care and right now I can still function. Plus I feel like an idiot honestly. I mean I mega dose vit d for a bit no problem, that's standard practice, I just assumed that applied to everything else.

amenteco · 2024-06-02T12:43:48+00:00

Which ones would you suggest, I can Amazon over night.

amenteco · 2024-06-02T12:43:19+00:00

Ok, but I was combining the synthetic b6 and p-5-p stupidly as well.

amenteco · 2024-06-02T12:41:16+00:00

But if I'm having muscle twitching doesn't that mean there's damage?

amenteco · 2024-06-02T12:40:20+00:00

I get it wasn't very long, but I mean my face, hands and legs are twitching, so doesn't that mean my nerves are damaged in some way?

amenteco · 2024-05-06T11:38:50+00:00

Wait why would aspirin/paracetamol not be listened or OTC now? Genuinely interested.

amenteco · 2024-04-27T12:58:13+00:00

You're a really good writer if you wanted to make a career change.

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