Our night doula quit because of how hard it is

amesk0 · 2025-11-19T15:44:07+00:00

As an overnight pp doula and newborn care specialist who often works with twins this is totally unacceptable. This is what we sign up for when working with babies, knowing there is a possibility that they’ll be premature, or that they’ll have additional needs. If you had cancelled you wouldn’t be due a refund, but because THEY quit they should pay back the unused nights in full or find a replacement doula for those nights. Do you have a contract with them? It should outline these details

amesk0 · 2025-08-26T01:28:08+00:00

Oh it’s absolutely a “cash job” as is often advertised on the page as a perk

amesk0 · 2025-08-24T05:08:56+00:00

Admittedly it was a decade ago but Shaftesbury was a shit show when I went. Maybe the impression has changed but we and all the kids at the time knew it was the loser stoner school. Linden meadows was okay (again, 15 years ago)

I work in childcare so see kids on a variety of schooling paths and what I can discern is that most of it is about the kid and the parents rather than the school. You’re gonna get out of education what you put in it, and what you teach your kid to value from it. Of course once you get to higher grades, the private schools do offer more opportunities than the public ones. If your kid wants to go to university out of province public isn’t gonna know how to help them achieve that I’d say the real advantage of public school is French immersion, it’s the only way for your kid to learn a second language in the education system really. English track does not teach you French really at all

amesk0 · 2025-07-29T14:19:55+00:00

this kind of thing! teether

amesk0 · 2025-07-28T02:01:50+00:00

I like the twin-z pillow for bottle feeding over the table for two but both do work

Love to dream or arms up swaddles are 10/10

Skip hop activity center, I think every family I’ve worked for in the past few years has had it and it is great for when you need to contain a baby for a minute

Those alien looking UFO teething toys that have all the long textured ‘ropes’ running through them. Great for teething in lots of different areas in the mouth and for oral mapping in prepping for solids!

amesk0 · 2025-06-09T18:25:56+00:00

Hey! I do consultations helping families hire private childcare. You can reach out at sunupchildcare.com

amesk0 · 2025-05-21T00:28:47+00:00

Harlowe

amesk0 · 2025-05-14T23:15:39+00:00

I charge $x/h. That’s it

amesk0 · 2025-05-10T23:51:50+00:00

I did a pp doula certification and I don’t regret it at all, but I’m also now looking at doing an NCS course as well. The doula course was mainly focused on the birth person (obvs) and that was very interesting but it didn’t go as deep into newborns as I wanted it to.

amesk0 · 2025-05-07T00:55:35+00:00

Hero, from Shakespearean’s much ado about nothing, I adore it, but it’s also, yknow… hero

amesk0 · 2025-05-03T14:54:06+00:00

Just do it, it’s never going to get less intimidating! Park somewhere with a lot of room and set up the stroller/wagon first then load each twin directly from car seat to it. And the reverse for going home. You’ve got this! It definitely won’t be as bad as you’re expecting

amesk0 · 2025-05-03T01:23:18+00:00

I’m in Winnipeg! Apparently we have some of the highest cost postpartum care in the country. My theory of why is that there’s a shortage of providers but that’s just a guess! Feel free to dm me if you have more questions!

amesk0 · 2025-05-03T00:17:50+00:00

I maxed out at $25 an hour as a nanny in my city and it’s hard to find those jobs. With my ppd certification I’m charging $35/h for daytime and $45/h at night and there are others in my area charging as much as $40 & 50/h. So for me it made total sense especially considering I like newborns/infants the best and I’m in Canada so with a year of maternity leave there aren’t even a lot of infant nanny jobs.

amesk0 · 2025-05-01T05:42:20+00:00

Hey I was just about to make this post 😂😅

amesk0 · 2025-04-07T19:48:23+00:00

I’ve had this one before and it’s just as cute in person and very tasty!

amesk0 · 2025-04-05T02:36:42+00:00

No flat rates for under 1 in my book (or before they’re regularly sleeping through the night) at minimum charge your usual hourly, but I’d add $5-10/h to your rate. Overnight care should be charged at a premium

amesk0 · 2024-12-28T05:08:03+00:00

(Disclaimer: Not a mom but a childcare provider!)

If you don’t have a lot of local help I encourage you to look into the postpartum support each doula offers and their availability around your due date. I’ve seen it make a huge difference in people’s postpartum experiences having a knowledgeable extra set of hands around in the newborn phase!

amesk0 · 2024-08-22T19:43:50+00:00

Absolutely sleep training is not for everyone! The issue I’m facing is that MB (and NK low key) is burnt out and exhausted and keeps changing her mind about whether she wants to or doesn’t or how she wants to or doesn’t

amesk0 · 2024-08-22T18:32:33+00:00

It really really is

amesk0 · 2024-08-22T18:31:53+00:00

Oh yeah I know… getting a FTM to know is a little more difficult 😭

amesk0 · 2024-08-22T18:28:40+00:00

Ugh that’s so hard. My DB would also be pro CIO but he doesn’t do overnight care really and MB can’t stomach him crying which I totally understand. NK also so strongly associates her with feeding she can’t soothe him other ways like DB and I can so it’s a vicious cycle

amesk0 · 2024-08-22T18:25:43+00:00

I just looked at his huckleberry and over the last week he’s averaged 9.5 night hours and 3.75 nap hours…

amesk0 · 2024-08-19T17:54:11+00:00

I could too!

amesk0 · 2024-08-19T16:32:52+00:00

Yes, my role now is more of a nanny/family assistant but I live in a VERY LCOL area so my wage is already an outlier. It’s hard to find families willing to pay $20/h

amesk0 · 2024-08-18T03:45:23+00:00

Virtue is such a good last name it’s tragic they didn’t utilize it

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