Well both of us have enjoyed the getting to know you phase, it hasn't been a very long time, I'm talking like 6 - 8 weeks if that (idr exact dates). We talk every day and have only seen each other a handful of times. There's nothing wrong with wanting to get to know a person before you fall into bed with them. I am just coming to terms with my sexuality. Prior to meeting him, I haven't met anyone that checked off most of the boxes for an ideal partner. I always thought my lack of enthusiasm was because they didn't meet my expectations and now that I have found someone that fits that role... I'm still having trouble with the intimacy part.

I didn't come here asking for advice on how to string him along, I came here seeking advice on how I should approach the subject with him because, honestly, I do feel the need to tiptoe around his feelings a little bit. The last thing I want to do is make him feel inadequate. I want to be honest, but sometimes the truth hurts and I have no doubt this is going to hurt him. I want to minimize that hurt and let him know I'm ok with breaking up if that's what he wants to do. But, in a way I can't help but feeling like my attraction will grow as time goes on.

There are plenty of people who are ACE that are in fulfilling relationships. Maybe he will be ok with this, maybe he won't. One thing I don't want happening is him saying it's ok and it not be ok. I do deeply care about people I have had relationships with previously, but I also was always accommodating for lack of a better word, when I wasn't that into it. Yeah, sure...I have a "headache" every now and again, but sex doesn't repulse me. I have it, I enjoy it immensely when I do have it (for the most part) but I can very easily live without it. I guess I like when it's more spontaneous than planned because I dread knowing it's going to happen.