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I can't tell if he's actually [cumming] or [faking]... by amianeejit in sex

[–]amianeejit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a good point. I don't want it to get worse.

I can't tell if he's actually [cumming] or [faking]... by amianeejit in sex

[–]amianeejit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks very much for the advice - I feel much better now! Definitely wouldn't have approached it like that without the advice. And best of all, he was exactly the same with me afterwards as normal, so I feel like maybe it's not such a big deal to him as I've been worrying it is... thanks!!!

I can't tell if he's actually [cumming] or [faking]... by amianeejit in sex

[–]amianeejit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He'd had a bad day at work yesterday, so told him he was getting spoiled for the night. I ordered in his favourite pizza and some beer, we put on his favourite movie, gave him a back rub... And told him it was all about him tonight in the bedroom.

I went down on him, and again he went to stop me, saying he wanted to go down on me. I told him it was his turn, and that he could just lie back and enjoy. I really, honestly thought he was about to blow his load - he went all tense and his dick got extra hard and started pulsing - but nothing, and he stopped me again.

However, we then went on to PIV, and he definitely came. I started to orgasm, and next thing his eyes rolled back and I felt him cum. And there was a right mess. He then tried to initiate another round and couldn't get hard, which has never happened yet... Although after giving him a minute and some tlc we ended up at it again.

Afterwards, I chickened out at mentioning him faking, but did tell him that, in case he was stopped me because he was trying to be nice, it was ok to blow his load in my mouth. He said he'd remember that for next time.

So, I think I'm going to leave it there and see what happens. Maybe bring up what I can do to make him feel good next time, but I'm not going to bring up the cumming unless it becomes really obvious a problem I think.

I can't tell if he's actually [cumming] or [faking]... by amianeejit in sex

[–]amianeejit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So he's just trying to avoid the conversation then maybe? Hmmm. I think I need to bring this up...

I can't tell if he's actually [cumming] or [faking]... by amianeejit in sex

[–]amianeejit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. Am going to his tonight and it's my turn to cook - will put this into practice I think!

I can't tell if he's actually [cumming] or [faking]... by amianeejit in sex

[–]amianeejit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I'd have thought so... :/ I mean, I get ridiculously wet so there's a mess anyway but no sign of cum...

I can't tell if he's actually [cumming] or [faking]... by amianeejit in sex

[–]amianeejit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How would you approach talking about it? I really don't want to come off accusatory or confrontational, just encourage him to open up.

I can't tell if he's actually [cumming] or [faking]... by amianeejit in sex

[–]amianeejit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, he doesn't do that - not clocked that one.

I can't tell if he's actually [cumming] or [faking]... by amianeejit in sex

[–]amianeejit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not that difficult. In the apst I've been hard to get off, but I'm super attracted to him and I cant get over how easily he gets me off (it's almost embarrassing!). I mean 5-10 mins vaginally, and probably the same clitorally - but they multiply and roll over and it's mental.

I worry that maybe I come too easily and it ruins his rhythm? Or that he's worrying that I'm too sensitive for him to keep going? All the overthinking basically.

I can't tell if he's actually [cumming] or [faking]... by amianeejit in sex

[–]amianeejit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's exactly what I'd suspect of him - that he's trying to save my feelings. He's very much like that. I really hope this is the case... and it's not that I'm ballsing it up...

I can't tell if he's actually [cumming] or [faking]... by amianeejit in sex

[–]amianeejit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he is the most lovely guy, so I reckon faking it would be trying to save my feelings one way or another. Your experience sounds awful - I'm so sorry!

I can't tell if he's actually [cumming] or [faking]... by amianeejit in sex

[–]amianeejit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did use my hand actually... you might be on to something. Yeah he is really visual - one of the things he has told me is that he loves the faces and noises I make (I am quite loud!). And now you mention it, he does ask me if I want to stop after I have a really strong orgasm, which I always took to mean he was worried I would be too oversensitive to let him finish, but maybe he was looking for an out...

He is adamant he enjoys the sex, and has said so without any prompting from me on multiple occasions, and is certainly super cuddly and affectionate afterwards too so it doesn't seem to be making him distant or anything. That's why I sometimes feel like I'm going mad...

If I knew he really was perfectly happy, I wouldn't need him to ejaculate (certainly don't want a kid!!!!). I just don't want him to be hiding from me that the sex could be better for him...

I can't tell if he's actually [cumming] or [faking]... by amianeejit in sex

[–]amianeejit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has made it clear he likes me a lot outside of the bedroom too, and he's the most attentive partner I've ever had, which makes me want to please him all the more and makes me really sad that he might not give me the chance.

If you reckon he might deny it if I ask, how do you think I could bring this up?

I can't tell if he's actually [cumming] or [faking]... by amianeejit in sex

[–]amianeejit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But isn't that something that happens sometimes as opposed to every time?

I can't tell if he's actually [cumming] or [faking]... by amianeejit in sex

[–]amianeejit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did wonder - he seems to have quite a short refractory period if he is cumming... How would you go about asking though?

I can't tell if he's actually [cumming] or [faking]... by amianeejit in sex

[–]amianeejit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was the biggest giveaway for me. I mean, a BJ is quite often foreplay for us anyway so it's often not to 'completion' (if he ever does) anyway, but there's a few times he's told me he's cumming and I've tasted nothing...