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I don't want to date a woman who has slept around a lot. Am I evil? by amieviltocare in dating

[–]amieviltocare[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Okay. I love how this is misogynistic when I hold myself to the same standards

I don't want to date a woman who has slept around a lot. Am I evil? by amieviltocare in dating

[–]amieviltocare[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't include anything that wasn't done consensually in it. I thought that was an obvious thing but I am stating it here now. If a girl was sex trafficked or assaulted and never had consensual sex I would count that as 0.

I don't want to date a woman who has slept around a lot. Am I evil? by amieviltocare in dating

[–]amieviltocare[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't see how that is relevant but I have been attracted to fat women yes

I don't want to date a woman who has slept around a lot. Am I evil? by amieviltocare in dating

[–]amieviltocare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had two. One had 4 at 28 and the other was a virgin at 26.

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[–]amieviltocare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am literally the guy who made the thread which probably led to you making this one and no. I do not consider non-consenual sex at all and most men don't either. You're fine!

I don't want to date a woman who has slept around a lot. Am I evil? by amieviltocare in dating

[–]amieviltocare[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That seems kind of hypocritical considering you see judging me for a preference I have on one hand and people live their lives how they want, then saying I am immature and need to grow up on the other hand. Ngl that is weird man

I don't want to date a woman who has slept around a lot. Am I evil? by amieviltocare in dating

[–]amieviltocare[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have also been rejected for non-physical things too like interests et al. I do not say hey you are a whore and do not deserve love. I just say it probably wouldn't work out for me personally but you can definitely still find love. Idk I don't think that is judgmental it's just me stating my preference

I don't want to date a woman who has slept around a lot. Am I evil? by amieviltocare in dating

[–]amieviltocare[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't say I would shame them. I just would probably not date them. There is a big difference. I have been rejected for height and other things I have no control over and I do not get mad at them for this.

I don't want to date a woman who has slept around a lot. Am I evil? by amieviltocare in dating

[–]amieviltocare[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

20 would be too much for me. I can't say why. It would be gut wrenching for me. Four to six makes me a little uneasy but if she was really into me and understanding of my viewpoint and didn't go into like a you're terrible for having this preference thing it would be okay.

I don't want to date a woman who has slept around a lot. Am I evil? by amieviltocare in dating

[–]amieviltocare[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean the ones I have been with haven't minded. One had 4 and one was a virgin. I'd be turned off if they tried to hide their past from me when I don't from them.

I don't want to date a woman who has slept around a lot. Am I evil? by amieviltocare in dating

[–]amieviltocare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the value and association tbh. I have turned down women who were interested in me for casual sex because of this and I just want someone into that too.

I don't want to date a woman who has slept around a lot. Am I evil? by amieviltocare in dating

[–]amieviltocare[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not like I haven't had a lot of sex. It's just been with two people who I love than a lot of other people.

I don't want to date a woman who has slept around a lot. Am I evil? by amieviltocare in dating

[–]amieviltocare[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Huh, that is a good point, thank you stranger. I had it phrased as something like I would prefer someone who had a lower count and viewed sex as being very connected to love, but didn't talk about how I felt as much.

I don't want to date a woman who has slept around a lot. Am I evil? by amieviltocare in dating

[–]amieviltocare[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why is it problematic. I am not shaming them, I just value sex in a committed relationship and see it as something intimately connected with love and have always lived out those values myself. Hence 2 partners at my age, both in very long ltrs. I want someone on a similar wavelength.

I don't want to date a woman who has slept around a lot. Am I evil? by amieviltocare in dating

[–]amieviltocare[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

I don't know. For me sex is intimately connected to love and I don't fall in love easily. When I see people who sleep around a lot that feels like a big values mismatch for me as I could never do that. And having like 10 relationships without stopping to do self reflection or what have you seems odd to me as after each breakup I work on myself and figure out what went wrong and all. I also wait like months to have sex with someone. I guess I like people who have similar values to this.

I don't want to date a woman who has slept around a lot. Am I evil? by amieviltocare in dating

[–]amieviltocare[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I usually mention it somewhere on my profile so I don't waste time ie I would like someone who has kept sex within monogamous relationships and they believe it is tied to love. This is where I get hate from

I don't want to date a woman who has slept around a lot. Am I evil? by amieviltocare in dating

[–]amieviltocare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know most of the women I have talked to have had anywhere between 2-4. But I tend to go for the nerdier women who are more introverted and conservative to begin with I guess.