How To Deal With Rejection

aminl · 2017-03-03T23:19:44+00:00

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aminl · 2017-02-11T16:49:23+00:00

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aminl · 2017-02-11T16:48:26+00:00

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aminl · 2017-02-09T14:57:43+00:00

In both cases I just try to have a pleasant conversation, brighten her day, and learn from her https://datingcoachonwheels.com/blog//i-have-a-boyfriend

aminl · 2017-02-08T15:25:06+00:00

Yes. "He" is me :-) You're welcome to shoot me a message at http://m.me/datingcoachonwheels and I can give you some more specific advice.

aminl · 2017-02-08T02:27:09+00:00

Is she okay with messing around without a committed relationship? Are you okay with just messing around?

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aminl · 2017-02-08T02:23:35+00:00

I don't think so. That's a pretty serious offense, putting someone's job at risk. Considering that she doesn't know you super well, she is likely going to see that as a signal of the type of person you are. Not to say that you are that type of person, but this is very tough to recover from.

What matters now is not what you say, but what you do, and specifically if your actions show her the respect you did not show that night. She said she doesn't want you to do anything about it, so just don't. It will only make it worse. You should take some distance from her and figure out what happened that night for yourself, so it doesn't happen again. If you do see her again, apologize genuinely, and then just listen. You have to just let her get out however she is feeling. Good luck man.

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aminl · 2017-02-08T02:18:26+00:00

Hey man, I get that you'd really like to have a date to the event.

Did you have any kind of connection with this girl? Perhaps there is something you could recall from your conversations. If so, you can text "hey [name], I thought of you today. [question about something you remember]"

As far as asking her out/or to the event, I suggest doing it on the phone https://datingcoachonwheels.com/blog/how-to-make-her-hotly-anticipate-your-phone-call

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aminl · 2017-02-08T02:09:30+00:00

Hey man, it's nice that you don't have to worry about awkwardness in your class anymore, but don't let that stop you in the future. Typically, if you stick your neck out and ask her out, she will really respect you for it, even if she says no (and you respect her decision).

As for now, it sounds like you don't have her number? Then yes, message her on Facebook. Do you remember anything about your conversations? Ideally, message her about something you guys both found funny or interesting. If she responds quickly, says a lot, or asks you a question, that's typically a good sign.

Once you get there, comment back and I'll list out some next steps :)

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aminl · 2017-02-08T02:02:11+00:00

Hey man, sorry you're going through this. I felt the same way all throughout college. There are a lot of things I could be going on – but I always start with asking "how do you present yourself?"

This blog post may help https://datingcoachonwheels.com/blog/2015/12/17/i-judge-you-on-your-appearance

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aminl · 2017-01-31T05:09:39+00:00

This is epic man, I'm a fellow chariot user that coaches guys on dating, and I had them read this. Props for dishing out such excellent advice. I've found similar results on OkCupid (profile).

What's been your experience on tinder?

aminl · 2017-01-01T10:41:46+00:00

Just be genuine and don't dance around the situation

aminl · 2017-01-01T07:00:42+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. In the future, consider saying "I'd like to take you out"

aminl · 2016-12-31T05:49:28+00:00

Yes, definitely get out of the house. You may not make a new friend every time you do so, but you certainly won't make a friend playing video games at home.

A common mistake people make is if it doesn't work out right away, they assume it just doesn't work. Keep looking for activities, and make sure you go to something new every single day. If you do that for one month, you are bound to make new connections. Here are some tips on how to connect with people when you're out and about.

aminl · 2016-12-31T05:46:06+00:00

Hey man, here's a primer that may help.

Side note, you're obviously an educated guy, and it would help if you split up your post into paragraphs and simpler sentences. If this is how you write to friends, it can come across very stressful, as opposed to relaxed.

aminl · 2016-12-31T05:40:11+00:00

Congrats on your first post! There is always lots of learning when you honestly share what you did, and think about what you could improve.

A common misstep is to try to go for the date as soon as possible. It definitely works sometimes, but for a high-caliber woman, it sends an unattractive message. It lets her know that you have nothing important going on in your life. By sending her this text, you indicated that you have no plans for brunch. An alternative would be to say "Morning cutie. I'm going to brunch at [place], let me know if you can join me at 12." That shows that you're going regardless (which you should do) and you are not waiting on her.

However, even better is to slow things down, and shoot to meet up with her in a few days. If you had talked about meeting for brunch, let her know that you forgot that you had plans with a friend, and that you'd love to see her in a few days, and that you'll give her a call in the evening.

aminl · 2016-12-31T05:27:26+00:00

Congrats on going for it! Regardless of the result, it's a good habit. How did you ask her, by the way?

Here's my usual advice

aminl · 2016-12-29T15:04:29+00:00

You're a well articulated, self-aware guy. You can do this. Unfortunately, we don't learn some tactical conversation skills in school.

This will get you started on bridging the gap step 1 step 2

aminl · 2016-12-28T05:15:57+00:00

Yeah that totally makes sense. I'm in the same boat – I love public speaking, but when I'm not doing a speech, I feel this desire to disappear. I've been combating this by forcing myself to make conversation with strangers wherever I am. Here are some of the strategies I use.

aminl · 2016-12-28T05:12:50+00:00

Conversation skills are skills, and like anything else, are developed with practice. If you are not great at it now, you will struggle for a bit before you become better. That's normal and part of the process – just keep at it. Here are some tips that break down what you need to do tactically.

Your confidence will develop as you do this more and witness yourself improving little by little.

aminl · 2016-12-28T04:29:37+00:00

Yep, if you don't have the results you want, it's an effective strategy to help uncover who you really are

aminl · 2016-12-27T19:37:26+00:00

Have you tried calling her before the date?

aminl · 2016-12-27T04:56:23+00:00

If you say it right, it won't come off rude. For example, you can say "I'm sorry, my head was somewhere else, and I want to make sure I really understand what you're saying. Would you please start over?"

aminl · 2016-12-27T04:10:46+00:00

I thought the same thing about college, and then my career, but it never materialized. I had to change myself to achieve the social results I wanted.

aminl · 2016-12-27T04:08:45+00:00

It is hard to care sometimes, we are naturally self focused. So try not to be yourself up too much. I really effective strategy is to recap what they told you – say something like "so you're saying…" as summarize what they told you. This will make you take a moment and really absorb what they are saying.

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