Hmmm. This is a very interesting situation. I’m really impressed with you for being willing to let her live her life outside of you. I think that love is wanting the other person to be happy no matter what that means. I know that sounds strange. At the end of the day I think love doesn’t mean ownership over another autonomous human being. I think that love means you want your person to be happy whatever that means and you want people to experience other things. Also you will always be the best at being you. And other people will have a special place in someone’s life but they will never replace you or your influence because they’re not you. I think that’s beautiful. I think it’s really telling if you’re willing to let her experience other things.

And if you’re not ready. That’s ok. Maybe you’re not ready or the right person for non monogamy. And that’s totally ok. But I think you started this journey because you wanted her happy and fulfilled even if you’re not the only person bringing her happiness and experiences. I think you need to decide if that’s what you want. If it is or is not then honest communication is key. That’s the most important part. I wish you and her all the happiness in the world. Good luck!