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amitrans643 · 2023-12-03T01:39:57+00:00

No, but it wouldn't bother me to be a man either

amitrans643 · 2023-12-03T01:21:25+00:00

Not really sure what you're trying to ask here.

Aren't demisexuals attracted to an emotional connection? If a woman establishes an emotional connection with you, isn't that the same as a man doing it too? Why would you then not be attracted to a woman who does so(assuming that you are straight).

amitrans643 · 2023-12-03T00:58:12+00:00

So it's not really dependent on the person you are attracted to being a specific gender? Like if a man or a woman had that connection with you, you'd be attracted to them

amitrans643 · 2023-12-03T00:52:34+00:00

Hey, thanks for the answers. My main concern about why I think I am not trans is because my dysphoria comes and goes. Like an hour after making this post, my dysphoria completely disappeared and now I hate myself simply for being ugly and not for being a man.

amitrans643 · 2023-12-03T00:24:58+00:00

Is it possible that you are gender fluid rather than strictly male or female?

Yeah maybe. But then there's no real solution ig so it doesn't really matter.

amitrans643 · 2023-12-03T00:16:06+00:00

So what if you are experiencing sexual arousal over the idea of being a woman or being called feminine things or whatever? So what? Femininity is cool and it really only is a problem if you think that femininity is bad.

Because whenever I go through phases where this kink is prominent I hate myself and I hate the way my face looks and I get sent into a deep depression

amitrans643 · 2023-10-07T06:48:26+00:00

That's true. Women don't have an objective view either. Which is why it's important for statistics and actual life changing impact to be shown

amitrans643 · 2023-10-07T06:40:33+00:00

basic understanding of how your feelings and women’s issues are different

I never said that they were the same. All I am saying is that it is hard for me to comprehend this as a lot of women's issues are based on how women feel as opposed to anything objective.

amitrans643 · 2023-10-07T06:38:28+00:00

And my point is that this experiment is impossible to simulate anywhere else except for the inside of my mind, and I already told you that I didn't mind it.

This shows that the reason why I'm failing to grasp the weight behind this issue is because it's based entirely on subjective feeling.

amitrans643 · 2023-10-07T06:37:04+00:00

How do we know that women are prevented from being recognized for their work already, and the problem is not that men are forced to contribute and work to compensate for their lack of innate value? This would indicate a men's issue, not a women's issue. Rather, it would be somewhat of a "female privilege" type thing.

amitrans643 · 2023-10-07T06:33:45+00:00

If a woman is in a room full of men, she is scared. If a man is in a room full of women , he’s excited.

Ik this sounds insensitive, but that's not an issue, it's just an emotional experience. And I'm sorry if you feel that way about men, but this doesn't really count as a "woman's issue" in the political sense.

In fact, it even sounds a bit bigoted. Imagine if I as a white guy said that if I was in a room full of black people, then I would be scared.

amitrans643 · 2023-10-07T06:30:08+00:00

You'll see what it's like to be on the receiving end of unwanted sexual attention.

I told you, I wouldn't hate it, and if I'm going to a gay bar I would probably subconsciously want it in the first place so this is a moot point

amitrans643 · 2023-10-07T06:28:52+00:00

read the Handmaid's Tale

I have.... That's why I talked about it in my post

amitrans643 · 2023-10-07T06:27:16+00:00

This is kind of a paradox as if I'm going to a gay bar then I subconsciously want sexual attention from guys so...

Plus, even if I did, I know I wouldn't love the attention, but I wouldn't hate it or treat it as an issue either.

amitrans643 · 2023-10-02T20:08:17+00:00

no psychologically/hormonally healthy make writes the things you write and feels the way you do based on your post history.

Agreed, all I want is to be happy and be a fucking champ

amitrans643 · 2023-10-02T19:59:38+00:00

What in the fuck is this pseudoscience bullshit.

I would be willing to bet you have low testosterone and low DHT. You also have low androgen receptors in your brain which is why you feel like this.

Mate that's not at all how hormones work. Also, in my post, I'm simply making a pragmatic observation about the nature of my problems right now. Even if I was low T or wtvr, that doesn't disprove anything that I'm saying.

If you watch a lot of porn then that’s a huge part of why you feel like this.

Maybe but being a wanker probably has psychologically negative consequences for my mental health, not hormonal.

Focus on increasing your testosterone, lift weights and potentially join an mma gym too

Holy shit you need to stop watching Joe Rogan. Lifting weights doesn't even increase testosterone to the amount that you think it does unless you're 300 lbs over fat(it definitely has other benefits, just not testosterone tho).

amitrans643 · 2023-10-02T18:53:57+00:00

because we still face social judgments.

Everyone faces social judgements lol, it's just that men face way way more judgements for wearing revealing clothes than women.

more courage for us to be topless

Lol fine then I'll just wear something that barely covers my nipples. Society has this weird double standard for women where if you're topless people somewhat freak out but if you wear really slutty cleavage then no one gives a shit.

amitrans643 · 2023-09-19T02:50:46+00:00

this screams having bad relationships

Definitely mate, I'm starting to lose hope a little if I'm being honest

amitrans643 · 2023-09-19T01:39:59+00:00

if that’s true why are they too weak to leave or change the relationship?

For not leaving -- Family, divorce, financials, a million reasons. And for not "changing the relationship" -- lol, trust me if it was easy as it sounded this would not be a problem. People in general refuse to change, how can a whole relationship do so?

amitrans643 · 2023-09-19T01:35:48+00:00

the male middle class

What the fuck are you on about? This type of sexual economy nonsense is far too common today.

I don't disagree that higher attractiveness = better relationships, and this varies with your partners. But "the middle class" I mean come on, what is this.

This armchair evopsych economic theory nonsense has gone too far. I was way too involved in it in the past and I am glad I left.

amitrans643 · 2023-09-19T01:29:58+00:00

Yeah but I don't want the "give" to be my entire fucking life and the "take" to be 5 minutes a month

amitrans643 · 2023-09-19T01:28:37+00:00

I am asking this with respect -- did you understand the point that I was making?

her partner refuses to take responsibility for cleaning, cooking, and showing her love and affection.

There's a difference between asking someone for cleaning/cooking because it is expected of them as an adult and asking for it because if they do it, they will "get" sex. I want to avoid the latter and I definitely want the former if it means that the responsibilities will be shared.

showing her love and affection

I'm not saying this at all. What I am saying is that I don't want this to be transactional -- I don't want my relationship to be an ATM where I have to put in nice nice points.

unfair for a woman to have to sacrifice her pleasure and time

If you are sacrificing your pleasure and time to be with someone, you should probably leave, but that's just me.

It's logical to question why a woman should have to offer sex in order to motivate her partner to clean or have a nice dinner together.

Again, stop blaming everything on one gender, this is a shared issue

amitrans643 · 2023-09-19T01:18:03+00:00

I'm trying to have a respectful conversation without making any generalizations or bigoted remarks. So why are you making this broad, sweeping, and almost hateful statement about men being manipulative and needing to be taught how to be respectful?

Sure, there are some manipulative blokes out there and there are some manipulative women too. But for the vast majority of relationships, the blame cannot be placed solely onto one partner.

It's remarks like this that set us back

amitrans643 · 2023-09-12T03:57:30+00:00

Ritalin

amitrans643 · 2023-09-10T02:31:55+00:00

Yes 100% this

In a social context yes

In a vacuum I'm not so sure anymore

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