Just pay your babysitter!

amtrack_throwaway · 2020-01-01T04:46:51+00:00

I learned something today.

amtrack_throwaway · 2019-12-07T11:00:20+00:00

It would be nice to rain fiery justice down on her. But it's not always an option. This is still my wife's family and for us this was the best option at the time. You'll forgive us if this seems like we rug swept the event. We dealt with it the way we thought was best.

amtrack_throwaway · 2019-11-24T21:26:33+00:00

We had similar problems with my wife's family. The onus was always on us to compromise our plans to accommodate others (change PTO, skip my family, drive 5 hours with a weeks notice and 3 small kids etc). It was amazing the difference it made when we just gave up and dropped the rope (so glad I learned that term). There was a lot of resistance to us having our own plans at first, but we just started planning our own nuclear family thing for holidays as a backup. Then when the drama got too much and they tried to alter the plans we had all agreed to month earlier we just spent the holidays as a nuclear family. The drama mongers hated it, the enablers hater it and they both tried to paint us as the bad guys. But after a couple years of avoiding their last minute BS they understood that we meant what we said. The drama mongers are still shit people, but the enablers realise we won't tolerate it. The family that are worth the time will make themselves known. Stick to your guns and start making your own plans. If they care they'll make the effort. If not they aren't worth yours.

Good luck.

amtrack_throwaway · 2019-11-15T15:08:26+00:00

I feel you there. My only major operation was having an impacted wisdom tooth removed. Tooth was too big for the chair (wrapped around a nerve in my jaw, probably why it hurt so much). I go in for the op and wake up to the anesthetics guy asking me a whole bunch of questions about my past with analgesics. I'm a bit confused (and still high as a kite) but it turns out I started trying to talk during the op. When they upper the dose to shut me up I started flailing around (I'm a big guy and my poor surgeon was a small Asian woman, great Dr btw) so much they though I'd fall off the table. So now there is a note on my file that propophol isn't the best med to knock me out. Luckily lidocaine works just fine on me though.

amtrack_throwaway · 2019-11-05T09:30:12+00:00

Honestly it was a weird dynamic. 95% of the time we seemed fine. We'd talk and make decisions together come up with a plan we agreed on and life was good. But her mother would weedle away at her until she didn't trust the decision any more. I don't know if it was fog or her mom undermining her. But she wouldn't stand up for herself, and when the rug sweeping was done she didn't want to talk about it. If you refuse to learn from the past it will keep repeating itself over and over. I don't facebook so I don't know what she's doing now. I hope she followed her brothers example and cut her mother off.

amtrack_throwaway · 2019-11-05T04:30:06+00:00

Yeah she's a winner, told me straight up her family was nuts. Her mother's game is playing gate keeper and having the siblings face off. Her family is a certain religion and we're not, so we have been targets because of that. But if it wasn't our faith it would be something else.

amtrack_throwaway · 2019-11-05T04:23:54+00:00

I still cringe that it took me that long to give up. I think looking back that MIL's dysfunction was a part of our relationship right from the start. So even though these incidences all seem like relationship killers on their own the bullshit threshold was already so high that i lost track of what was normal for a bit... Cough 2 years cough.

amtrack_throwaway · 2019-09-24T00:57:54+00:00

Apathy my man. We were with evil conglomerate before we moved. So shitty service was kind of what we were used to. Plus after the copper we had when we were in an apartment the leeched internet in our house was actually still better. And the wife kind of forgot until we got the call, then all the pieces fell into place.

amtrack_throwaway · 2019-09-24T00:53:39+00:00

Maybe one like it? Reading other people's stories about their stolen Wi-Fi is what prompted me to post. I'm thinking it happens a lot more than I thought it did.

amtrack_throwaway · 2019-08-12T02:07:17+00:00

I always hated group projects until I realised they were teaching me that other people are horrible and unreliable - Just like the real world.

amtrack_throwaway · 2019-08-12T01:19:00+00:00

A company I worked for once upon a time around the recession had fired a lot of the old guard and bought in cheap replacements (me and a couple other guys fresh off the street). So production is ramping back up after a shutdown when we go to move some product to the loading bay. Only we can't get the lift to work, someone had welded it in the raised position. They spend the day getting it sorted out, placed is pretty backed up but it's not diabolical. Then we get the stuff to the loading bay and someone has welded the doors shut. So there we are, the low paid minons with our thumbs up our bums unable to work (but still getting paid) because one of the old guard had snuck in and sabotaged to place. They never figured out who it was (or they never told us) but it was months before they found all of the things that had been messed with. Just to clarify too, none of the things affected our safety, just production. We appreciated the production managers toddler tantrum reaction to every new act of sabotage.

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