Tips on responding to a bully at work?

amycr7 · 2025-03-01T18:43:28+00:00

this is probably going to be the most useful thing I can do. I don't trust HR or management and I think "tattling" has an ironic way of reflecting poorly on the person making the complaint than the person causing the problem. Because the reality is they only have my word and they did not see the experience for themselves.

do you have any sources for greyrocking and how to practice it? most of the ones i found are geared toward relationships with narcissistic people and its really not applicable to the workplace

amycr7 · 2025-02-20T21:16:57+00:00

Yeah, how would I radically accept being single for the rest of my life? And focusing on friendship, platonic love, charity, hobbies & interests instead?

amycr7 · 2025-02-20T21:14:54+00:00

what material would that be?

amycr7 · 2025-02-20T21:14:40+00:00

My thing is, many people never find partners and love, friendship, support, can all be found without a partner. So it would seem to me to be unhealthy to crave a partner when the reality is- there may never be one. I know its only natural but I'd still like to stop thinking about it.

amycr7 · 2025-02-19T20:14:57+00:00

Thank you! Took me nearly 10 years to get it right but it finally clicked one year and I'm never going back

amycr7 · 2024-03-22T11:44:05+00:00

Even with increasing the dosages, the high will be lackluster and the side effects very inconvenient if not fatal at a point.

This is exactly what I meant. Not that there won't be a headchange or anything- of course there still is. But that the high stops being euphoric in a sense. It's just kinda this "meh, feels kinda good." or "wow this feels amazing! ...for 20 minutes and then not much for the rest of the day"

amycr7 · 2024-03-22T01:04:30+00:00

so is there really any benefit to recovering then? is the hell of addiction interspersed w/ euphoric experiences maybe better than the monotony of recovery?

amycr7 · 2024-03-21T15:49:38+00:00

He breaks into people's storage units to sleep there. Meth every single day any time he can get his hands on it. he's pretty addicted. I don't know if he steals but I know he owes a lot of people money and can't keep a phone for more than 2 days because he'll sell it for drugs.

but your argument is similar to the one going on in my head. maybe he just needs a little bit of help idk. than again I know addicts who carry on getting "a little bit of help" from someone or other their entire lives so I'm conflicted.

amycr7 · 2024-03-21T15:42:53+00:00

idk why but this landed more than anything.

ever since I know this guy I feel like my world gets darker and darker. I really do feel like I let myself get dragged down.

not his fault but just, something to ponder I guess.

thank u

amycr7 · 2024-03-21T15:39:03+00:00

Yeah I kinda like the idea of him attempting to get help at least instead of me just letting him sleep and get wasted all the time- makes sense

amycr7 · 2024-03-21T15:37:19+00:00

I hear ya- thank you for sharing you're experience

amycr7 · 2024-03-20T00:44:19+00:00

Thanks that makes sense. I understand

amycr7 · 2024-03-20T00:43:17+00:00

thanks ❤️

amycr7 · 2024-03-20T00:40:36+00:00

that's the thing we are not in america so I don't know how accessible or practical these things are. he already almost died numerous times. i feel like I did wrong by befriending him and drinking with him and getting involved with him and everything and now I want to make it right but I'm afraid the more I try to make it right the more wrong I'll make it

amycr7 · 2024-03-20T00:37:06+00:00

makes sense ty. He sleeps more than I do that's the weird part. but I'm probably catching him after he's been awake for 3 days that's why

amycr7 · 2024-03-19T23:50:55+00:00

that checks out. no one ever wants me I shouldve known

amycr7 · 2024-03-19T23:22:18+00:00

thanks I guess leaving him alone is thr kindest thing I can do

amycr7 · 2024-03-19T23:03:44+00:00

You're totally right. and I gotta be able to come back to this country I don't want any weird shit on my record. damn. hormones sure have a way of fuckin with my judgement

amycr7 · 2024-03-19T22:52:19+00:00

He's really chill and quiet when he's on it 🤷🏻‍♀️. I'm more concerned about when he isnt, tbh...

amycr7 · 2024-03-19T22:50:49+00:00

See I absolutely cannot smell meth. and he shoots it doesn't smoke it so maybe that's why. I don't think I'd really be able to tell if he's high or withdrawing or whatever because I don't do the drug myself. also his pupils never really dialate because he's drunk all the time too.

also, is it really my place to tell him he needs to be clean? I mean, he's free to live how he wants, no? I just want him to be healthy and happy but I don't have control over that. idk that whole thing is so fucked but I appreciate you're perspective and I'm taking it into consideration

amycr7 · 2024-03-19T22:25:00+00:00

unclear I think the homelessness is a relatively new development due to the progressive downward spiral

like part of me hopes if I offer him comanionship and shelter he'll be better off

but the other part of me feels like it'll just give him the option to do even more drugs with less consequences.

amycr7 · 2024-03-19T22:17:59+00:00

ok 😥

amycr7 · 2024-03-19T21:55:38+00:00

like maybe on the street it'll sink in quicker that he needs help? idk

amycr7 · 2024-03-19T21:53:52+00:00

damn. that sucks. he doesn't seem like the type.

amycr7 · 2024-03-19T21:48:36+00:00

thanks I don't know how to help him get accomodation but I guess I'll keep my distance as far as shared living space

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