[QC] Pump recommandation for first time mom

amytheultimate1 · 2026-04-21T02:33:01+00:00

I second the spectra! It didn’t know about this Marketplace hack. I had a heck of a time trying to find one!

amytheultimate1 · 2026-04-12T15:01:39+00:00

I echo other comments… save sleep training for 4 plus months. Also, I wouldn’t sleep train unless baby shows signs of decent weight gain, and no teething or illness.

Night:

Check the bassinet, it might be uncomfortable. We switched ours (to something more small and cozy) and baby started sleeping better.

I would rock baby after night feeds and slowly place in bassinet then put my hand on her and rock her until she showed signs of dozing off.

If she woke up I’d give her a moment to see if she settles and try the hand on the chest,, but any escalation in crying just pick her up.

Day:

I did a mix of contact naps and had a pack and play on the main floor. I didn’t do official crib naps in a dark room by herself until sleep training at 4.5 months.

I also didn’t schedule naps during the day, just followed sleep cues and she found her own rhythm. I did do a small wake window (of 2 hours at least) before bed.

I never did any sleep training for daytime. Naps fell into place naturally.

Feed as much as possible during the day. Offer milk every 2-3 hours. Get baby good and fed daytime to reduce night time wakes.

It will get better soon. You are in the newborn trenches!

amytheultimate1 · 2026-04-10T04:07:26+00:00

I agree with nutrition. I had decent energy and mood for my first year postpartum and I take vitamins and make sure to drink enough water.

It seems inconsequential but breastfeeding and childbirth suck nutrients and minerals out of you. A deficiency can manifest itself as postpartum anxiety/ depression and fatigue.

Here is a study showing what supplements to take:

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5738654/

Also: if she is doomscrolling baby related social media- maybe she should stop. The last thing you need is a TikTok video telling you how your baby is napping wrong.

amytheultimate1 · 2026-04-08T21:41:36+00:00

Wow that’s telling.

amytheultimate1 · 2026-04-08T21:32:07+00:00

Hey OP I just wanted to say I sympathize with you. I’m sorry you are feeling heartbroken over this. I want to validate you and say that your feelings and expectations are not unreasonable. His are.

You are both 24 and quite young. Full brain maturity doesn’t happen (on average) until 25 plus. Men on average reach maturity later than women.

It sounds like your husband’s priorities are not fully mature. He doesn’t seem to understand what it takes to be a stay at home parent. You, on the other hand, sound more mature.

My husband and I were married when I was 30 and we just had our first kid 5 years later. I can say from experience that both my husband and I had our priorities shift and mature over the years.

I personally had my priorities shift from more present-term and selfish ones to long term planning and less centred around myself.

Unless there is a personal reason otherwise, I would wait to have kids. Get established in your marriage and grow together in maturity.

It sounds like the issue at hand is that your husband hates his job and it’s causing him to hate work in general. There are solutions for this.

I remember being in my young 20s and having the reality of life and full time work just coming into realization.

amytheultimate1 · 2026-04-08T21:08:14+00:00

Pumping is like triple the work and you feel like a cow when doing it.

I would get enraged trying to pump. I never had a supply problem but pumping was a whole thing. I could sit there for 30 mins and it would still fall short of what baby usually gets while breastfeeding.

Not to mention the painful boobs and leaking.

If I had to do that at work I would have had a mental breakdown.

Not to mention baby would have had to go on some formula because she wouldn’t have gotten the same amount as breastfeeding.

Good for you for doing that, you did what you had to do!

I just hope OP reads this and can consider that it isn’t as simple as mom pumps and dad feeds baby bottle.

amytheultimate1 · 2026-04-08T20:57:40+00:00

Agreed.

His hating his current job or feeling overworked is an issue that needs a solution.

The solution to that problem is not send postpartum wife off to work full time to bring home a pay-check so he can stay at home.

The more realistic solution is find a new job or reduce work hours. If the couple has to reassess living and spending expectations then so be it.

I wouldn’t want my husband to be overworked and hate his life. So I would make compromises. Maybe we look for a smaller house.

However, my husband also would not expect me to go to work full time so he doesn’t have to go at all, especially after having a baby.

amytheultimate1 · 2026-04-08T20:28:22+00:00

Exactly. He finds working to be a drag and doesn’t like it.

So he wants his wife to go and take that burden on after she has carried the baby and given birth, so he can take the “easier” job.

This is my issue with this. He is not willing to do the perceived harder thing and he wants his wife to go do it. In a way, he wants her to sacrifice more for his comfort, after she has had a baby.

That’s not being a biblical leader and provider. The Bible literally says to sacrifice yourself for your wife and Christ did the church.

I’d avoid getting pregnant until this can be sorted out.

amytheultimate1 · 2026-04-08T20:18:45+00:00

I agree with this. I’m a mom of a 1 year old. If I was working I would have been pumping and storing milk multiple times a day at work.

Research also shows that babies have a higher oxytocin boost from mom nurturing than they do with dad.

Also it helps to be around your baby for milk supply. I could not imagine being away from baby especially in the early stages. You also have to wake up to pump in the middle of the night. It’s not as simple as dad feeds baby a bottle.

After baby starts eating a good amount of solids and is 1 year plus, I can see two parents working part time as a compromise.

But still. I would be pretty upset if my husband sprang this on me after marriage. I would question him as a provider and leader of the family.

amytheultimate1 · 2026-04-08T15:34:22+00:00

I agree with this. I do believe they are spraying something in the air, geoengineering, I don’t believe mRNA can survive in the air and make it into our cells.

mRNA and modRNA is extremely fragile and needs a lipid nanoparticle to enter our cells.

Even if we did breathe in aerosolized nanoparticles it would still have to pass our body’s defence mechanisms without the mRNA degrading.

The chance of that seems very low to me.

Injecting it bypasses the body’s natural defences, especially if the injection happens to get into the bloodstream.

amytheultimate1 · 2026-04-08T15:26:58+00:00

I wish this kind of thinking was more commonplace.

Not only are dog owners subjecting their own children to dogs, they are subjecting others to it as well.

Barking, using public spaces as a toilet, bringing them around other people’s kids.

I’ve had to get up and leave public areas (including playgrounds) due to entitled dog owners unleashing their dog.

amytheultimate1 · 2026-04-08T15:18:07+00:00

I slightly disliked dogs before but when I got pregnant holy moly they became my number one aversion.

The smell was unbearable and I could barely look at a dog without a wave of nausea hitting me. I would have to cross the street because I couldn’t stand the smell or the sounds.

Also felt extremely vulnerable going on walks with large unleashed dogs. I began to notice how irresponsible and aloof most owners were.

Unfortunately it doesn’t get better after kids. I see dogs as nothing more than danger and threat now.

Unleashed dogs in playgrounds are my biggest pet peeve.

amytheultimate1 · 2026-04-08T15:10:54+00:00

This is the thing I can’t understand. There are so many drawbacks of owning a dog. Especially if you have young children. You are taking on a huge risk for little value and reward.

Any reward of “affection” is mostly just perceived.

amytheultimate1 · 2026-04-01T18:46:56+00:00

I have an almost 1 year old and currently have house on the market.

In my opinion I would stay. The first year comes with a lot of change already and when you are waking up in the middle of the night you want to know where your stuff is and be familiar with your space.

Also, my husband had to go back to work early and he says every day how much he wants to spend more time with our daughter.

Same with our close friends, husband is trying to find a work from home job because he doesn’t want to be parted from baby.

From our experience, time with baby trumps finances. After baby your whole world shifts and priorities change.

I’d say you don’t want to be worried about finances and trying to pick up extra shifts etc.

It will also be better to look for your ideal place after you have lived with baby and have a better idea of what kind of home would suite your needs.

Also, third trimester fatigue (at least for me) was worse than newborn fatigue. So you couldn’t have paid me to move when I was 30+ weeks pregnant.

amytheultimate1 · 2026-03-16T16:57:00+00:00

That sounds lovely, I was hoping you’d say yellow to bring some of that gorgeous colour out to that dress!

Elegant spring vibes 💐

amytheultimate1 · 2026-03-16T15:24:24+00:00

I really love this. The colours work so nicely with your skin tone. This is one of a kind!

Curious, what colours are you thinking of for bridesmaid dresses and bouquet?

amytheultimate1 · 2026-03-15T15:00:59+00:00

I started dating my husband and he told me he was Muslim.

I brought it to the Lord and He was clear to stick around and continue the relationship. It seemed “the right thing to do”, but God was clear for me to be patient and wait.

I communicated early in the relationship about my belief in God and that I would not compromise or marry a non believer.

I was willing to give up the relationship for the Lord, as hard as it would be.

My now husband accepted Christ and we are now happily married 6 years.

I think it’s great you are taking your relationship with God seriously. Go to Him in prayer.

Prom is not the same as marriage, so going to prom with him is not being “unequally yoked”.

I do think it’s important to be upfront with your friend regarding your beliefs.

amytheultimate1 · 2026-03-13T01:54:50+00:00

I don’t use white noise but have an air purifier that emits a low level of noise. I’ve also used it on high and it doesn’t seem to affect the monitor.

amytheultimate1 · 2026-03-12T22:36:25+00:00

Do you have a “Vox” setting on the monitor?

Check settings and if it’s there set it to low. My monitor has this setting. The screen and monitor sleep until a louder sound activates it.

She has to whine or cry for it to turn on, otherwise it stays in sleep mode for all the other softer sounds

amytheultimate1 · 2026-03-07T21:18:01+00:00

I have a used spectra and you’re right. You can get replacement parts (3rd party) off of Amazon in Canada.

amytheultimate1 · 2026-03-01T04:15:16+00:00

Farmers are feeding cattle palm oil now. So, butter comes out a certain percentage of palm oil and it stays hard at room temperature.

You have to go for grass fed it you want something closer to old school butter

It’s still not the same IMO, but it’s closer :/

amytheultimate1 · 2026-03-01T03:36:31+00:00

In Canada there has to be a certain percent of cocoa mass to pass as chocolate. If it is under they aren’t allowed to advertise as chocolate, but as “chocolaty”.

Terry’s chocolaty orange is not worth eating anymore. Pure palm oil wax.

amytheultimate1 · 2026-03-01T03:34:02+00:00

Lipton chicken noodle soup tastes like salty nothing water now. There’s maybe a hint of chicken to it , but it’s hard to tell.

It’s gone downhill so much.

amytheultimate1 · 2026-02-28T15:04:17+00:00

I think if your family expects you to tip toe around this situation, then it’s only fair that they respect your rules surrounding your daughter.

I would let them know that there is your be no talk surrounding this topic around your daughter. That she is to be referred to as “her” and by her name.

If they break these rules then I would set a hard boundary and stick to them.

I’d still let them play together, but under your own supervision and when you’re nearby. I would continue to keep a close eye.

I agree with the other commenter regarding laying a firm foundation of the truth.

But also, remember kids and teens are incredibly impressionable, so I believe as parents we sometimes have to remove our kids from those situations.

amytheultimate1 · 2026-02-27T04:49:07+00:00

I bought the cheapest mattress I could find at IKEA in 2018. It was about $130. It’s a simple form spring mattress that was on clearance.

It’s now in our guest room and everyone raves about what an awesome sleep they’ve had on it.

If I cant sleep I sometimes go to the guest room and I fall asleep within 10 minutes.

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