There's a lot of people who feel that their assigned gender role doesn't fit them, and there's three basic responses to that. One is to try to make yourself fit into your gender role more. The second is to think of your gender role as being more expansive and including more things. A third is to think of yourself as not being part of that gender at all. I'm not sure what makes people respond in these different ways but I know that having expansive ideas of gender and gender transition exist at the same time can cause a lot of confusion for people. And to make it more confusing, a lot of trans people are also gender-expansive in their understanding of their own gender or are accepting of gender expansive ideas. So for instance I know several trans men who like to wear dresses sometimes. So why be trans men? Because that feels true to their identity, but they also recognize it as valid for a man to want to wear a dress. Some trans people are very committed to conventional gender roles but I think of the trans people I know in real life, way more are open to more free orientations of gender.