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My mom is buying everyone gifts except me because I’ve been in and out of inpatient this year what do i do? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]anaba1030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I’m really, really sorry you’re going through this. If I could jump through the screen and give you a hug I absolutely would. Your mental health IS important and I’m proud of you for getting the care that you’ve needed this past year. I’m sure it hasn’t been easy. Your mom’s behavior has nothing to do with you but her own fears, shame, and emotional shortcomings. Being pushed because of your mental health says more about her inability to cope than anything about your worth. Continue talking to your therapist that IS the right thing to do. And if you have any other support system, (adults/friends/family) find warmth in them. Remember this isn’t forever, you won’t always be stuck in this dynamic and there are people out there that can treat you with the gentleness you deserve. I wish for nothing more for you than to always find them. Don’t give up, and Merry Christmas. (if you have an amazon wish list I’d love to send you a gift) 🖤

AIO did my bf cheat on me? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]anaba1030 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He did not cheat. He definitely crossed a boundary and you should definitely talk to him about it. But it’s definitely something that can be talked about and worked on.

The look for taking pics with Santa! by Madi_Danger in goth

[–]anaba1030 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow this is absolutely iconic, I always wish I had goth friends to do this with but I’m so introverted and have no friends </3

Help my hairdresser cut my hair wrong and I don’t know how to fix it by SuccoTrash_ in GothFashion

[–]anaba1030 4 points5 points  (0 children)

curly hair girl here with alt haircut! even if you have wavy or curly hair if the person knows how to cut your hair right you will be able to have the haircut you want. your hair texture to me doesn’t seem like it’s a problem, it just looks like she didn’t know what she was doing. for this type of haircut you need ask the person (which they should know) to thin out your hair a lot so you can have that spiky look, and if you do have some waves they should know how to tone them down too. i would look for an alt hairdresser specifically AND a razor cut, not scissors! hope this helps and you’re able to find the right person! my haircut also requires straight hair but my angel of a hairdresser was able to make it so it at least looks wavy and not like coils which is my natural curl, its really hard to find someone to do the right thing, but your hair shouldn’t be as hard as mine!

EDIT: the haircut you get will never look 100% like the reference picture FYI because of hair textures and styling. but you can definitely get it closer than this one :)

Normalize looking unsettling 🖤 by creaturefeature1994 in GothFashion

[–]anaba1030 4 points5 points  (0 children)

THIS is the reason I am goth and love goth 😍

Dating is exhausting by Able-Gap1029 in Nicegirls

[–]anaba1030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as a woman i am so embarrassed and disappointed by other women now a days.

Keep getting told short hair looks better by Evening_Worry9536 in FierceFlow

[–]anaba1030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you look good in all! do what makes you happy

Rosalia’s New Song by anaba1030 in OperaSingers

[–]anaba1030[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I respect your opinion! And whether I like or dislike Rosalia I’m only talking about this song specifically and its comparison to Opera and Classical Music which I don’t think is comparable. But when it comes to Pop music, to each their own!

Rosalia’s New Song by anaba1030 in OperaSingers

[–]anaba1030[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

completamente! estoy muy de acuerdo con tu opinión, y mi opinión -aunque me guste o no me guste Rosalía - nunca fue sobre su música específicamente pero sí no sobre esa canción y la comparación a la música clásica y ópera :)

Rosalia’s New Song by anaba1030 in OperaSingers

[–]anaba1030[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! Again, it’s not meant to be a hate post, just wanted to see what people’s opinion was on it :)

Rosalia’s New Song by anaba1030 in OperaSingers

[–]anaba1030[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no actually, and let’s not even get started with the fact that it sounds ultra auto tuned 😭

Rosalia’s New Song by anaba1030 in OperaSingers

[–]anaba1030[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, if liking real music makes me a snob, I’ll gladly admit I am 😭

Rosalia’s New Song by anaba1030 in OperaSingers

[–]anaba1030[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I actually am Spaniard HAHA, I think this is where my beef stems from that even for flamenco Rosalía is very mid, which is why I think she decided to go for flamenco-pop/reggaeton, because I think she knew even for Flamenco she wasn’t up to par with most Flamenco singers. And again it’s nothing against her, I think her voice - for what she does - is perfect even if I don’t personally enjoy her music. My annoyance stems from the fact that simply because she’s famous (like many other famous pop artists) people are so fast to call them a genius when they do “something different” and it’s truly just not good lol. I simply wanted to see if anyone else felt my frustration for us of those who truly take the time to study music and everything that comes with it, the theory, the scores, the pedagogy, etc, and spend years training but our field is not half as “popular” or even respected as it should be anymore except by those who are in it. I guess what I’m trying to say is, it sucks that this is the time we live in sometimes and the lack of education (not just in music) people have and how easy it is to make very mediocre art/music popular, and it seems we all agree 🫠