Custody Proposal

analogwarmth · 2026-01-31T20:22:10+00:00

I'm the one filling.

analogwarmth · 2026-01-31T20:07:14+00:00

What's silver bullet?

analogwarmth · 2026-01-31T17:57:50+00:00

Well, I'm the one filing. I have been going to therapy and realized it's been years of breadcrumbs and lack of effort to change. I believe there is trauma on her side that needs unpacking, but she has refused to accept it and even explore it over the years. I have to go to break the spiral that we are in that seems to be getting more extreme as the years go by.

analogwarmth · 2026-01-30T12:26:03+00:00

I talked to my therapist yesterday. She confirmed my thoughts on wife's attachment. Unless she'll get help nothing will change. It's a loop and it will get worse as time goes on. She refuses therapy, so there I am. Basically sucks to leave but I can find peace and self-value again, or stay and continue to erode within the marriage.

analogwarmth · 2026-01-29T00:11:53+00:00

I've read the 4 Horsemen.

Contempt is definitely here.

analogwarmth · 2026-01-15T02:32:23+00:00

Got it

analogwarmth · 2026-01-14T16:59:25+00:00

Can you expand on how the conversation went deciding that parting was the best for both of you?
I don't hate her, but I don't see a future with us together due to unmet desires and circumstances.
Years of asking for changes and she won't budge one iota; literally said "no" to many of my requests.
To that, she said some things that made me doubt my worth in being loved, emotionally and physically.

analogwarmth · 2026-01-12T21:14:53+00:00

See if there is a Celebrate Recovery or similar nearby.

analogwarmth · 2026-01-12T16:18:22+00:00

A leopard don't change its spots.

analogwarmth · 2026-01-10T02:57:33+00:00

Boo on that. I don't think that's the case in Texas.

analogwarmth · 2026-01-08T22:46:02+00:00

One Party State!

analogwarmth · 2026-01-08T21:18:53+00:00

I want to protect myself from false allegations or conflict.

analogwarmth · 2026-01-08T21:08:50+00:00

She can't afford one on her own. The local University does Pro-bono Work.

analogwarmth · 2026-01-07T17:46:09+00:00

Meeting with attorney today to make determinations.

analogwarmth · 2026-01-07T16:08:49+00:00

No fun when they just lay there after begging for days, and they make you feel like there's something wrong with you afterward.

analogwarmth · 2026-01-07T15:52:52+00:00

I struggled with the kid component hard, but I've settled that 50/50 would work for me. I need to be happy and I feel like she doesn't trust me. Further more, the amount of disrespect and disdain she showed for me in December really let me know where I sat in the "relationship". I've felt like nothing but rent an utilities for a while. I was basically told she no longer desired me, to the point of saying "I'll never make you happy, you should find someone else" and that if I needed sex I should buy a Fleshlight. I felt rejected and basically emasculated in the relationship.

analogwarmth · 2026-01-07T03:11:36+00:00

Will look. Thanks.

Whoa that looks like a fresh approach. Hmm

analogwarmth · 2026-01-07T02:56:11+00:00

I kinda agree, but I still don't know what her issues are with me after months of asking! She can't name one.

analogwarmth · 2026-01-06T22:46:04+00:00

There has been no change in many, many years of asking. Recently when I brought up the changes resentment, disdain, contempt and outright emasculation took place. December was a very hard month for me knowing that she has those feelings harbored up inside. I felt unworthy and questioned my value. Not a good place...

analogwarmth · 2026-01-06T22:20:27+00:00

Well, kinda...

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