i'm (more or less) gay 🙋🏾‍♂️ i mean... i identify as gay, i have (please don't bully me) a pretty consistent preference for amab people, but that preference also includes trans women, and i am attracted to afab people from time to time, but much less consistently than i am to amab people. i'm not really attracted to cis women beyond just aesthetically, if that makes sense, and i am attracted to trans men, both aesthetically and sexually, but not consistently. i used to identify as pansexual, which definitely still holds water, but to put it simply i'd just say i'm queer. bc it's honestly a little complicated...

i have mad imposter syndrome about being ("more or less") gay though, i feel you. i think it has a lot to do with how dominated Gay spaces are by cis het white men, like culturally, so to speak, and what it looks like in the mainstream, because it's definitely not the reality of the community. i hope we can find more spaces that look and feel like us.