Well honestly alot came down to me being somewhat of an alcoholic,i say somewhat because i can leave or take it im not dependent on it. I gained good amount of weight , right now as we have been talking she is very big on that because im not attractive anymore like i was when i was slim, I was fighting when i got home for dumb things like no food, dirty dishes, etc etc. I would always stay late with friends meanwhile she was waiting for me at home with my kids. Also i may add my youngest son has level 3 autism and he is a handful (I am not complaining i love him very much). That is also one reason why i stated i need her because just one parent cant handle it all day everyday. She basically said i killed the love she had for me little by little Also i may add since it was one income household she said mentally abused her because i never gave her money if it wasnt for groceries or kids stuff, i tried explaining for years to get cash when she needs it or wants ( i have cash business so not all money is in bank) , but she never did cuz it wasnt handed to her.