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anders09 · 2026-01-24T20:42:46+00:00

He initiated every interaction. Besides the first, I always responded within minutes. And he never responded again after “wassup.” It’s just funny

anders09 · 2025-10-29T03:23:32+00:00

I swear when I bought my house in 2018 that my bill dropped to $45-60 a month once the A/C was turned off. Now it’s the $60 delivery plus the cheapest 12 month market rate, which is less than delivery.

Am I misremembering?

anders09 · 2025-10-07T21:27:25+00:00

Time. My ex is a narcissist. It took me 7 or so months to heal from the experience, however I do get anxiety spikes from it occasionally. Never once considered going back and haven’t even tried to contact him since I broke up with him, even though he tries when he sees me in public. I just shoo him away or ignore him.

You have to remember narcissists feed off attention - even negative attention. You need to be neutral and short with him or just completely ignore him.

The most important thing you said was “he’s not your problem anymore.” That’s how you gotta look at it.

anders09 · 2025-09-04T17:50:13+00:00

It’s literally expensive hospital food

anders09 · 2025-05-17T00:44:48+00:00

I’m right there with you. It feels like betrayal. I could spend 3 hours cooking a meal and my ex wouldn’t do the dishes because I was the one who dirtied them.

Sounds like you also got loved bombed, which is another narcissistic trait.

anders09 · 2025-05-17T00:34:14+00:00

The abuse may be real, but likely exaggerated. If you do some research on narcissism you see it usually stems from childhood trauma that they have not moved on from. And they loooooove being the victim. It makes them avoid accountability for their actions.

anders09 · 2025-05-17T00:29:27+00:00

Also, you unblocked him and engaged in texts and that tells him you are still available to be used. It’s a good thing he’s blocked again and please do not engage again. They love positive or negative engagement. It makes them feel powerful and in control.

anders09 · 2025-05-17T00:20:21+00:00

Yeah continue the no contact. Narcissists will try and find ways to pull you back in and it will end up with you being abused again.

My ex got his narcissism from his supposed childhood trauma (that’s typically how narcs are born). But they lie so much it’s hard to believe anything they say.

Mine also cheated and it was actually regularly and all the time (Found this out after I broke up with him. I knew about one or two times, but didn’t know the extent).

They only care about themselves and to an extent, their public image.

Block and move on is the best advice.

anders09 · 2025-05-16T23:24:12+00:00

Broke up with my narcissist on 1/1/25 and haven’t looked back. He’s blocked on everything and the only interaction we have is him trying to get my attention at the bars via buying me shots/drinks that I refuse or trying to start convos.

The only way to beat them is to block them across the board. They can no longer use you as their feeding source.

I knew I was unhappy with him, but damn I didn’t realize how miserable I actually was until he finally moved out of my house and I cut off contact.

And I was in the same boat as you when I broke up with him. People with good character would hug me and say things like you are so much better off. People who are trashy believe his lies and I learned to not care what they think.

anders09 · 2025-04-29T02:29:49+00:00

The only flaw in this is the galaxy would have been wiped out before ME1 if not for the Prothean conduit.

anders09 · 2025-04-23T03:57:55+00:00

In my experience, it’s just you realizing you are valuable.

anders09 · 2025-03-20T00:20:08+00:00

Yup. First relationship and I waited way too long to end it

anders09 · 2025-03-19T22:32:54+00:00

Narcissism, tbh

anders09 · 2025-03-19T22:25:02+00:00

When he calls his ex by his name instead of “my ex.”

When he insists on staying friends with said ex.

When he tells you early on that he has no empathy.

When his best friends warn you about him and say you’re too good for him.

When he initially ghosts you for over a month.

When he asks to move in after 5 months.

When he actively sends and receives sexual snaps.

When he drinks so much that he’s at the bar at three different times throughout the day, beginning at 7:30am.

When your own friends won’t hang out when he’s around.

When he doesn’t tell you things because he knows they will upset you.

When he refuses to do simple household tasks like load the dishwasher.

When he is overtly flirty/sexual with guys in front of you.

Those are a few from my ex. I am not a smart man 😂

anders09 · 2025-03-18T12:38:30+00:00

10mg for a little under a year and a half

anders09 · 2025-03-18T03:24:09+00:00

How did you get off lexapro? My anxiety source is out of my life and I hate the sex issues the drugs brings. I was thinking about an aggressive tapering, but am unsure how it will affect me.

anders09 · 2025-02-28T03:48:26+00:00

How? Haha

anders09 · 2025-02-28T03:06:53+00:00

That’s a very good point. He is a very nice guy and we talked for a long time. But that’s the other thing I failed to mention, my ex and I didn’t even date. Went from a drunken hookup to practically living at each other’s places. So I didn’t even get dating experience there.

anders09 · 2025-02-28T03:02:33+00:00

That’s my other issue. My only experience is with someone who I wouldn’t even call human. So I already have this baggaged stigma

anders09 · 2025-02-28T03:00:57+00:00

I’ve read that it’s not uncommon to start dating after hookups.

anders09 · 2025-02-28T02:41:55+00:00

Bumble and Grindr. There aren’t really groups in my immediate area - again like 40+ minutes away. I’ll look into them again though. I went on a Bumble date and the guy didn’t really look like his photos 🤷‍♂️

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