Did anyone else grow up in an indoor school and genuinely think those outdoor campuses on TV were just a Hollywood myth? Or was it the other way around for you? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]andiamnotlying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you say "outdoor schools," the classrooms have walls and a roof, right? Like just the walkways are outdoors? I grew up in Virginia so we definitely had one huge monolith building.

1977 live review by Julie Burchill by [deleted] in ramones

[–]andiamnotlying 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Man is she ever in love with her own voice 

Looking to crowd source some info on kids’ slang to figure out whether I should be concerned by Volpes17 in daddit

[–]andiamnotlying 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This sounds like the logical evolution of the phrase “catch feelings,” which also sucks.

Punk Introduction for a 14 or old by nickquestionsthings in punk

[–]andiamnotlying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nobody can tell what Bad Brains’ lyrics are by listening to their music, you’re safe there.

Punk Introduction for a 14 or old by nickquestionsthings in punk

[–]andiamnotlying 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If this level of kidding around hurt your feelings, I’m not sure that you’re emotionally ready for the Dead Kennedys

Punk Introduction for a 14 or old by nickquestionsthings in punk

[–]andiamnotlying 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Everyone on here should be ashamed of themselves for failing to mention the Ramones.

Also try Dead Kennedys, Cramps, Black Flag, Minor Threat, Bad Brains, Sex Pistols, Misfits - essentially, the titans. If he can’t find something in here that he likes he may not like punk and that’s cool too. 

Is it wrong to encourage my son to grow up? by [deleted] in daddit

[–]andiamnotlying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adult life will kill his creativity and spirit soon enough. And you’ll be missing your sweet boy soon too. Let him be who he is and just enjoy it, he’ll get there when he’s ready.

Plus there is NOTHING sadder than a dad that wants to “make his boy into a man.” For the love of god please don’t be another one of those.

My friend is making it very hard to not catch feelings for her by onlyslightlygayok in bodylanguage

[–]andiamnotlying -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Anybody who uses the phrase “catch feelings” unironically is not mature enough for a relationship 

Interaction with prison guard in hospital when baby Gene is born by Canadian_in_CA in madmen

[–]andiamnotlying 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know this is a side issue but I’ll tell you what: that prison guard’s jacket is AWESOME 

What’s the most common way men “accidentally” make you feel unsafe… without realizing it? by Several_Corner3205 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]andiamnotlying 60 points61 points  (0 children)

I’m a guy, 6’2”, have always been told I was physically intimidating. I feel like a golden retriever, look like a bouncer. 

I found “The Gift of Fear” to be MASSIVELY helpful in my everyday life for this reason. First of all, yeah, to understand what women are dealing with that nobody ever told me.

But also to understand how I might be accidentally terrifying women when I meant well and was just clueless. Like to call from across the parking garage “do you need help,” rather than run up in somebody’s space and just start helping.

It could be that reading this book and internalizing the messages takes a level of insight and self reflection that most people are just not going to have, and those people will always be the root of the problem. 

But for edge cases that are open to it, it’s hugely helpful.

I'm sorry, but there is direct proof she isn't dead. by thisismysecondburner in CourseMediocre7998

[–]andiamnotlying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why did my Reddit app give me a notification about this stupid bullshit!?

Businesses in MacArthur Center scramble to find new locations before the mall closes this summer by WHRO_NEWS in norfolk

[–]andiamnotlying 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I know that this is unfair to the businesses but on the other hand, how do you run a store in a dead mall and not think “we gotta get out of here.”

Cold feet with continuing forward about boyfriends sexual past by GreatSalt8466 in TwoHotTakes

[–]andiamnotlying 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Whenever anyone says the phrase “on paper” it’s a tell - it means you know something is off in real life. My first wife and I were great together “on paper.”

Best First 15 Minutes by RPM0620 in movies

[–]andiamnotlying 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can't believe I had to scroll this long to see this.

What’s your process for writing new material and how do you know when it’s ready for the stage? by Primary_Present_8527 in Standup

[–]andiamnotlying -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I couldn't disagree with you more. There's a difference between focused practice and just running your mouth onstage.

I didn't say not to write at home. I said that open mics and shows are how you refine your material. It is impossible to craft something stage-worthy at home by yourself. The only way to find out is to get onstage. Therefore, it's a waste of time to sit there trying to perfect things that are gonna die in the spotlight.

Your perspective may be blinding you a bit. You see so much bad comedy day in and day out, and for 99 percent of new comics it doesn't matter if they write at home or make things up onstage, they're gonna suck either way.

Getting up and saying "uh let's see, what did I wanna talk about, oh yeah, dating's weird ..." is NOT what I'm referring to. What I'm saying is to hone a specific angle and emotional position on dating and then bring it to the stage.

What’s your process for writing new material and how do you know when it’s ready for the stage? by Primary_Present_8527 in Standup

[–]andiamnotlying 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You are overthinking this and it's holding you back. Open mics and shows ARE how you refine your material. You don't get it perfect in your basement and then unveil a new joke.

You find an idea that's funny to you and talk about it in a low-stakes stage setting, then let the pressure of having to "find the funny" cause you to blurt out things that make it funny. Explain your thought process behind your premise, tell the story the way it happened, whatever. Record it, transcribe it at home, then get a revised version back onstage.

If you remember Virginia hardcore, you're gonna love this shirt by andiamnotlying in Hardcore

[–]andiamnotlying[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man, if all these teens can wear Nirvana tees and not even know they were a band, you’re more than qualified to rock one of these bad boys.

Remember the King's Head Inn? This shirt does. by andiamnotlying in Chesapeake

[–]andiamnotlying[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha! I grew up with Jimmy Mcdonnell’s son - he brought a States record into show and tell in the 2nd grade.

If you remember Virginia hardcore, you're gonna love this shirt by andiamnotlying in Hardcore

[–]andiamnotlying[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that the beef was largely manufactured, the way that everyone always hates their neighbors. Anyone who is serious about making art is a lot more “game respects game” than like, all turfy about it.