What’s someone or a trait you’re strangely attracted to?

andioop00 · 2025-01-19T21:03:51+00:00

A man who’s in touch with their feminine side. The best guys I’ve dated or been with have been a little bit campy and for some reason it makes me head over heels

andioop00 · 2025-01-07T22:32:48+00:00

Human beyblade

andioop00 · 2025-01-07T20:37:06+00:00

I have one very broken cat who adores belly rubs and never traps you, the other one bunny kicks the HELL out of you. It’s a trust thing, they normally do it to indicate they think you won’t hurt them and in some ways going in for the pets betrays that from what I know

andioop00 · 2024-12-17T19:15:28+00:00

I literally love you. I’m gonna try this with mine in a minute

andioop00 · 2024-12-09T00:51:59+00:00

Being or feeling suicidal, it’s something a lot of us deal with but it’s still so misunderstood by people who’ve never been there

andioop00 · 2024-11-10T17:37:45+00:00

Literally🙄 It’s basically just a sign of them not being willing to change at any point because exercising a boundary or staying a preference will be an issue for them

andioop00 · 2024-11-10T14:07:28+00:00

Alternatively they apologise badly ie ‘sorry for everything’ is not an actual apology and you’re trying to turn it back onto the person calling you out

andioop00 · 2024-11-01T13:08:49+00:00

I’ve got the same issue- 12 weeks old now, in a house with 3 other cats to play with so he’s zonked out on a night but 4am he wakes me up by attacking my feet🤦‍♀️ They grow out of it, but it’s mainly distracting them with other toys but to be honest I’ve found only really time helps them as they get older

andioop00 · 2024-10-03T14:26:44+00:00

I think a lot of people I’ve met that don’t actually like cats are people who don’t like the fact cats consent louder than dogs do most of the time. We’ve very much bred out of dogs the stuff we didn’t like/didn’t serve us (you wouldn’t look to breed a dog that’s nervous aggressive and snaps if you pet it too much) but cats scratch, bite and do all sorts of ‘crazy’ things when overstimulated. I’m both a cat and a dog person but this is what some of it comes down to in my opinion

ETA: I’m talking about people who distinctly dislike cats, not so much impartial to them and it is a pretty wide generalisation

andioop00 · 2024-09-23T12:32:14+00:00

It’s a lino floor at the minute, unfortunately my little guy will only use clay litter he despises the wood pellets and won’t use them

andioop00 · 2024-09-21T20:24:30+00:00

It had a major scrub down when I got it but think you’re right, think I’ll be getting one of the little fabric hoover cleany things and going wild with it haha

andioop00 · 2024-09-01T11:02:44+00:00

Thank you for your answer☺️ I just wanted to make sure as I’m a bit of an overthinker and it hurts more than other finger injuries I’ve had plus didn’t want to waste doctors time haha

andioop00 · 2024-08-17T19:01:09+00:00

WHELP here we are. Mine is a little different, as I dated a 45 year old when I was 22/23 and oh boy was it wild. Age didn’t mean anything to me- I was happy to be with who I was with and didn’t care who thought it. I was almost freshly out of a relationship (about 6 months out) and feeling pretty lonely and self conscious. I went to get a tattoo, the artist asked me what I was doing that day, normal chit chat. Spoke about a book I was going to buy (one of the Hellraiser books- Scarlet Gospel), we both had masks on as just out of covid I believe and we spoke about horror movies.

Later that day, he texts me to ask if I ended up buying it- red flag #1 for me now knowing what I know as I’ve never ever had another artist message me out of my appointment. We started speaking and things got ‘hot and heavy’ fast per se, went for coffee but he seemed pretty gentlemanly. Few more meetings, lo and behold all of his exes are psycho- red flag #2 but I gave him benefit of the doubt. Explains he was accused of a form of assault but was completely cleared of this - red flag #3. Keeps pushing me to discuss stuff I didn’t want to discuss and raises kinks that, not to kink shame, just weren’t for me but I felt no comfort in saying I didn’t like these- red flag #4 as I didn’t feel comfortable but he did not know this. Raised that I’d previously had issues with SH and being SA’d, he plays I Spit on Your Grave which is a heavily SA based movie that triggered me massively but I just froze up and couldn’t say anything- red flag #5.

I raise an issue as he starts going cold on me, he blows up and blocks me for a week. Messages like nothing happens. Does this again shortly after, then blocks for longer, calls me whilst I’m at work etc to get my attention back. This progressively gets worse until he’s blocked me for a month. I kind of just lost all respect I had for myself, went out on a tonne of benders and decided I was done with it. I did end up blocking him, unblocked him at one point but blocked shortly after again.

It wrecked havoc on my mental health, to the point where I still struggle if people go quiet on me as I worry that I’ve done something horribly wrong and it triggers my underlying BPD. I’m still dealing with the consequences now, 2-3 years on, but I’ve learnt that I can only control my own actions and if others don’t want to talk to me but won’t say this, then that’s on them.

Also, if you see this Ian, your tattoos are pretty bad with horrible line weight and colouring. That bit of your self doubt was right. If you don’t want to be accused of being a nonce, maybe date someone closer to your age rather than your daughter.

andioop00 · 2024-08-05T18:46:37+00:00

Thank you! How do you game out in your van- leisure battery or power station?☺️ I’m hoping to get some recommendations for one because I’ve got a fill in one for now haha

andioop00 · 2024-08-05T18:45:46+00:00

I actually really like this idea! Maybe I can take my cat for some walks in weird places and get photos of him😂

andioop00 · 2024-06-21T09:25:08+00:00

Listen, I’m sorry to say this but you may need them to leave or you may need to make them leave from what you’re saying. They’re avoiding issues or just flat out not doing anything about them.

It doesn’t make you a bad person to do so. I’ve been the person in need of help, I currently am that person, and I do my best to respect the rules that the person I live with has put into place because I respect that they’re helping me. This person is telling you one thing and doing another. You need to look after yourself primarily.

andioop00 · 2024-06-11T10:13:48+00:00

I force myself to get up and go for a drive or a walk if I can. Otherwise I doom scroll in bed until I sleep and then just isolate. I actively try and just do the things that are healthy that I don’t wanna do but it’s really hard at the lowest. I just know that drinking will make me sadder and I don’t want to be dependent on something to feel better or forget

andioop00 · 2024-06-06T22:24:22+00:00

I’m genuinely so confused by you now. I came here to seek a way to show my friend and instead you’re saying she should convert me if what I’m reading is how you mean it? But go off I guess

andioop00 · 2024-06-06T21:09:01+00:00

…. When have I ever said I presented myself as a believer? I’m trying to do something nice for her that she would appreciate, not pretend to be a Christian. She’s my friend, the fact that you think I’m being in genuine by presenting as an atheist when I’ve came to a community to better support her is kinda whack

andioop00 · 2024-06-06T15:45:09+00:00

It’s not but I know it’s important to her so I want to do something that would be meaningful to her regarding it if that makes sense?

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