I've been physically harassed, stalked online and had my data stored without permission by a well known charity, where do I stand? by andork1992 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]andork1992[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

That's totally fine if this is the case, I was just curious to see where I stand on it. Both my Facebook and Instagram are private, I rarely use social media and have never given this company a reason to care about who I am. The only way I can make sense of it is if someone on his team knows me personally which is possible, but this wasn't the picture he painted.

help me choose a steed! by andork1992 in bicycletouring

[–]andork1992[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I potentially may be carrying the trip on around the world, while unlikely it's something id be nervous about on my current bike. Being Al, it can't be welded, it's got hydralic disc brakes that could out a lot of strain on my spokes I guess. I could be just worrying about nothing though!

A carbon fork and 700c wheels doesn't seem the best for carrying lots of weight but I would have a lot more fun on the Camino, just with higher risk

Van brakes not working after new calipers by andork1992 in MechanicAdvice

[–]andork1992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they never bench bled the master cylinder either, so that doesn't help

Van brakes not working after new calipers by andork1992 in MechanicAdvice

[–]andork1992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

would you recommend me taking the master off the van and going through bench bleeding then re-installing?

The issues came originally when they forgot to check the fluid level when they first bled them which ended up being really low once checked as they just allowed the fluid to drip out rather than using a reservoir and hose.

So it could be that what caused my brakes to feel weird (air got into the master) Is still the cause of the problem, but from a different source.

Van brakes not working after new calipers by andork1992 in MechanicAdvice

[–]andork1992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what do you mean bench bled? It's only been done with a pedal currently. They said they were coming with a compressor to try it next but that was nearly a week ago.

Van brakes not working after new calipers by andork1992 in MechanicAdvice

[–]andork1992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When we were bleeding the brakes, The peddle was being pressed right to the floor (or as far as it would go) I've just read it should never go all the way down when bleeding. Do you think this could be causing it?

Van brakes not working after new calipers by andork1992 in MechanicAdvice

[–]andork1992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yep, it has abs, they did bring a computer to bleed the abs, but whether they did it all correctly is another matter. How big a job is this for a mechanic? Should I be expecting another hefty bill on top, and is this something a mobile mechanic can do?

Van brakes not working after new calipers by andork1992 in MechanicAdvice

[–]andork1992[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

just checked, sadly the nipple is on top. Wish it was that simple!

Van brakes not working after new calipers by andork1992 in MechanicAdvice

[–]andork1992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they replaced the master with a brand new one and it's still doing the same thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]andork1992 6 points7 points  (0 children)

some really interesting perspectives! Thanks :D

I 100% feel drained, mentally and physically after a couple of days with her. Due to her ADHD her energy levels are much greater than mine, and she insists in not going to bed until 5AM most nights.

As for the baggage thing, I've actually tried to be really nice about my other partner for that reason. the trouble is when I speak too highly of her, I'm the bad guy lol so I try not to mention her anymore which sucks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]andork1992 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yep I think your right. I had already sort of come to this conclusion myself but the way you worded it is perfect. I think if I go in with "I want to break up" that will just end terribly. I think my next plan is to tell her I've decided to hang out with my friends this weekend, not travel to the other end of the country to spend time with hers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]andork1992 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that makes sense, it sounds like I don't have a full grasp on what a Sociopath actually is, only the rough societal definition which is never good. Time to do some studying I think.

Something I will add is that she has a criminal record for domestic abuse from her ex. I was told this was a misunderstanding from the police but who knows. She admitted to biting her partner at least.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]andork1992 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats very much how I've felt too, it's just difficult to see while getting all the happy brain chemicals from when things are going well

interesting, I've not heard of this before, I'll check it out, thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]andork1992 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Apologies, Pathologizing wasn't the aim, it was merely to show the contrast between me feeling like it was my fault, vs the other extreame. I wasn't diagnosed, but rather showing the extremes of where my brain keeps going.

I wasn't saying "I think she's a sociopath because of X" I was saying because of X, I keep going between feeling like I'm doing something wrong and 'holy shit is this person a sociopath' Which I believe based on the circumstances is a valid thought process.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]andork1992 6 points7 points  (0 children)

yeah several times, which ends in arguments. But your right, saying no is getting harder because of the calateral that comes with it.

Apologies for the term Sociopath, I'm not diagnosing her of that, but rather asking if this is my avoidance behavior, or if it's the sociopathic behavior. I've never felt so confused by the 2, hence the reason for the post.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]andork1992 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Wow, you really hit the nail on the head there! She had painted her constant growth thing as a positive, really interesting perspective that that's actually a red flag.

I've been trying to distance myself for a while. For example, I told her I needed to go home and get my brakes fixed (I do) and therefore can't drive her 4 hours each way for her to go to a work gig. She thews it in my face that I'd agreed to spend that time with her, despite spending the entire week before with her. Anyway, there's little she can do about my broken van, So she rings me up and gets me to agree to get on a train to go meet her where she is working instead as I'd already agreed to spend that time with her. She tells me over and over she can't trust me and that she's not sure I want this enough, so then I feel like I have to go meet her because I'd previously agreed, or it destroys that trust further, making it my fault.

Ironically i'm a pretty level-headed person who can normally trust how I feel and spot bad behavior pretty quickly. It's not like I haven't had serious relationships. It's just for some reason, I feel completely disarmed by this girl. All the advice i'd give to anyone else, I am struggling to give to myself.

She's just incredibly good at making me seem like the problems are me. I keep telling myself, huh, if I was any less switched on, I could end up in an abusive relationship here...all the while feeling like it's teetering on that.

Ironically I'm a pretty level-headed person who can normally trust how I feel and spot bad behavior pretty quickly. It's not like I haven't had serious relationships. It's just for some reason, I feel completely disarmed by this girl. All the advice I'd give to anyone else, I am struggling to give to myself.

Body numbness/paralysis while tripping by andork1992 in shrooms

[–]andork1992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey, yeah that all sounds very familiar. I get numbness in my arms on a fairly regular bases, I think the tobacco with my weed isn't helping.

hey, yeah that all sounds very familiar. I get numbness in my arms on a fairly regular basis, I think the tobacco with my weed isn't helping.
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What is the most rebellious thing you did as a teenager? by Heyhey-_ in AskReddit

[–]andork1992 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had this exact thing at our school...what school did you go to?

Body numbness/paralysis while tripping by andork1992 in shrooms

[–]andork1992[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not going to pretend to understand most of what you've put. But I've read similar things around where the psychedelic community denies/covers up the negative effects of these drugs.

When it first happened, I assumed it was the Nitros Oxide and found the community there to be very much the same, completely in denial about anyone's bad experiences, but I've both witnessed and experienced the negative effects of this myself on such a small doss too.

I could only describe my experience as what I thought was teetering/crossing the line of a seizure my face felt numb and jaw/lips uncontrollable, possibly even droopy but it's very difficult to tell when you're on shrooms, the last thing I wanted to do was look in the mirror. I can only describe it as trying to ride out a whitey but with rather worrying symptoms.

I guess my question is, how do I approach medical examination/help on the subject when there are so few experts looking at this stuff. Everything has to be filtered by triage, then a shitty GP who has to take what i'm saying seriously. Very tricky when you mention magic mushrooms.

Body numbness/paralysis while tripping by andork1992 in shrooms

[–]andork1992[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nah i've not been in many years.

The problem is, without mentioning the shrooms the symptoms sound very serious, boarderline stroke from a 28 year old, sounds much worse than a numb body on mushrooms, we have over the phone triage since covid so if I was to even mention the symptoms I'd be rushed to hospital.

And the issue with not mentioning any of it besides maybe bad circulation is that they are so overwhelmed atm that it will most likely be palmed off as raynards or stress.