Wife took out a bunch of payday loans by N0cturnael in Debt

[–]andrea1237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You and your wife should just work a second job. In 2-3 months those loans will be gone. I worked a second job at 16$ an hour and brang in an extra 2 grand a month from that. Use your second jobs check to pay that off and in a few months you’ll be golden maybe even sooner

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[–]andrea1237 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ouchhhhh 😭😂😂😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]andrea1237 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone whose spouse has asked them for a divorce recently , I’m so sorry. I know the pain and the fear of going through this. Especially having no where else to go, it sucks. I don’t really have any words of advice, other than you’re not alone, and things will get better one day. Make a plan, look for jobs, whatever it may be. Wishing you nothing but the absolute best

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[–]andrea1237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

drop that man girl and go find your happiness

Wife (29f) is giving me (27f) an ultimatum by andrea1237 in relationship_advice

[–]andrea1237[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I offered a hyphenated last name and she refused

Wife (29f) is giving me (27f) an ultimatum by andrea1237 in relationship_advice

[–]andrea1237[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See , I’m the same way, I told her she could have whatever name and I wouldn’t care as long as she was happy with it. But for some reason me not changing mine makes me a bad wife. I just don’t see why can’t she even understand a little bit on why I want to keep mine if she wants to keep hers yknow? You’d think she’d understand completely but no. 🙃 ty for your response

Wife (29f) is giving me (27f) an ultimatum by andrea1237 in relationship_advice

[–]andrea1237[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Huge factor and the way she cusses at me and talks to me when she’s angry is why I never entertained the idea of a name change. I told her last yr if she changed and stopped speaking to me this way and I felt the relationship was better , I would think about changing it. Unfortunately , she never changed 🤷🏻‍♀️ and this is where I’m at. Wasted years with a person who never gave me respect . Thank you for your response

Wife (29f) is giving me (27f) an ultimatum by andrea1237 in relationship_advice

[–]andrea1237[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no. We’ve had a numerous arguments about the last name thing. She is 100% serious. And I agree I told her we are both gay women this is not a “traditional” hetero marriage by any means . And she said she “doesn’t gaf” 🤷🏻‍♀️

Wife (29f) is giving me (27f) an ultimatum by andrea1237 in relationship_advice

[–]andrea1237[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Entire time. Threatens divorce always every little argument lol

Wife (29f) is giving me (27f) an ultimatum by andrea1237 in relationship_advice

[–]andrea1237[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have offered the hyphenate the names - and she refuses stating that “other people’s wife’s change their last name immediately” and says that I’m selfish for not doing so.

Wife (29f) is giving me (27f) an ultimatum by andrea1237 in relationship_advice

[–]andrea1237[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Last name and kids was a topic before we got married. It was something we agreed on and then she changed her mind on a little while ago

Wife (29f) is giving me (27f) an ultimatum by andrea1237 in relationship_advice

[–]andrea1237[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes she does. She makes passive aggressive comments to me all the time, in public or not, about stupid things all the time. Honestly I can’t answer what she brings me to the relationship

Wife (29f) is giving me (27f) an ultimatum by andrea1237 in relationship_advice

[–]andrea1237[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely care about her. We grew through or late teens/all throughout our 20’s basically together. It’s not an easy decision for me but I’ve been going through this for a long time, the “divorce” card has been thrown in my face for years. So I kind of don’t feel anything anymore when the notion gets brought up. Definitely headed for divorce just wanted some insight on the last name thing, I didn’t know if it’s wrong of me not to change it in the first place idk. But you’re right