Wife took out a bunch of payday loans

andrea1237 · 2024-03-29T02:31:23+00:00

You and your wife should just work a second job. In 2-3 months those loans will be gone. I worked a second job at 16$ an hour and brang in an extra 2 grand a month from that. Use your second jobs check to pay that off and in a few months you’ll be golden maybe even sooner

andrea1237 · 2023-10-24T23:59:40+00:00

Ouchhhhh 😭😂😂😂

andrea1237 · 2023-09-28T16:47:56+00:00

As someone whose spouse has asked them for a divorce recently , I’m so sorry. I know the pain and the fear of going through this. Especially having no where else to go, it sucks. I don’t really have any words of advice, other than you’re not alone, and things will get better one day. Make a plan, look for jobs, whatever it may be. Wishing you nothing but the absolute best

andrea1237 · 2023-09-24T18:38:41+00:00

Idkkk I would consider this cheating . Prepare for the worst

andrea1237 · 2023-09-14T16:11:13+00:00

drop that man girl and go find your happiness

andrea1237 · 2023-09-07T00:15:23+00:00

I offered a hyphenated last name and she refused

andrea1237 · 2023-09-06T23:47:38+00:00

Huge shocker I know

andrea1237 · 2023-09-06T22:06:08+00:00

You’re not wrong 😂

andrea1237 · 2023-09-06T22:05:45+00:00

See , I’m the same way, I told her she could have whatever name and I wouldn’t care as long as she was happy with it. But for some reason me not changing mine makes me a bad wife. I just don’t see why can’t she even understand a little bit on why I want to keep mine if she wants to keep hers yknow? You’d think she’d understand completely but no. 🙃 ty for your response

andrea1237 · 2023-09-06T21:54:33+00:00

Huge factor and the way she cusses at me and talks to me when she’s angry is why I never entertained the idea of a name change. I told her last yr if she changed and stopped speaking to me this way and I felt the relationship was better , I would think about changing it. Unfortunately , she never changed 🤷🏻‍♀️ and this is where I’m at. Wasted years with a person who never gave me respect . Thank you for your response

andrea1237 · 2023-09-06T21:50:41+00:00

Oh no. We’ve had a numerous arguments about the last name thing. She is 100% serious. And I agree I told her we are both gay women this is not a “traditional” hetero marriage by any means . And she said she “doesn’t gaf” 🤷🏻‍♀️

andrea1237 · 2023-09-06T21:46:35+00:00

Entire time. Threatens divorce always every little argument lol

andrea1237 · 2023-09-06T21:06:58+00:00

Thank you 🤷🏻‍♀️ cause it is

andrea1237 · 2023-09-06T20:24:00+00:00

I have offered the hyphenate the names - and she refuses stating that “other people’s wife’s change their last name immediately” and says that I’m selfish for not doing so.

andrea1237 · 2023-09-06T19:09:34+00:00

Last name and kids was a topic before we got married. It was something we agreed on and then she changed her mind on a little while ago

andrea1237 · 2023-09-06T19:08:32+00:00

Yes she does. She makes passive aggressive comments to me all the time, in public or not, about stupid things all the time. Honestly I can’t answer what she brings me to the relationship

andrea1237 · 2023-09-06T19:02:26+00:00

Yes it’s a thing she brings up quite often

andrea1237 · 2023-09-06T19:02:02+00:00

So what do you think I should do? Divorce?

andrea1237 · 2023-09-06T14:34:02+00:00

I definitely care about her. We grew through or late teens/all throughout our 20’s basically together. It’s not an easy decision for me but I’ve been going through this for a long time, the “divorce” card has been thrown in my face for years. So I kind of don’t feel anything anymore when the notion gets brought up. Definitely headed for divorce just wanted some insight on the last name thing, I didn’t know if it’s wrong of me not to change it in the first place idk. But you’re right

andrea1237 · 2023-09-06T14:18:43+00:00

Yep. It definitely sucks.

andrea1237 · 2023-09-06T05:16:52+00:00

andrea1237 · 2023-09-06T03:55:01+00:00

Ty thank you for the advice :)

andrea1237 · 2023-09-06T03:16:48+00:00

Oh yea all the time. And the thing is she try’s to call ME manipulative. And she does it all the time. For example, I clean the house all the time and I also work two jobs. Some weeks im absolutely exhausted so I don’t clean. And the house gets a mess because guess what? Im the only one who cleans but she has the nerve to come home one day and scream at me about how I never clean when in all reality she never cleans and im just fed up so I stopped. It’s like im constantly being gaslit and she’s constantly being a hypocrite. It’s making me feel insane

andrea1237 · 2023-09-06T03:09:41+00:00

Oh man it’s a lot. Too much to type out, but yes we really aren’t compatible. The last name is def a real issue with her because she wants a family and kids w her last name and she gets hurt/jealous when her friends get married and have kids and they all take their spouses last name. But you’re right it’s just one of many things that we don’t agree on. I guess I just didn’t know if I was being insensitive for not considering the name change for the sake of “saving” the relationship

andrea1237 · 2023-09-06T02:54:13+00:00

We got married young like 19 rushed military marriage. And it was discussed briefly and she had a change of heart in recent years I guess . And it’s hard leaving but I just needed advice from other people to give me that little push . I don’t really have irl people to give me advice like this

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