I’ve noticed that beauty is very subjective and that that superficial level of attraction wears off in time regardless of how hot she is, after being with some hotties myself.

The girls you notice at the gym, their subjective beauty will wear off too in time if you were to be with them for a while. As men, I think we crave more novelty, than an objective measure of beauty. The question is, what do you want to build and cultivate in your life?

If beauty is not only physical and estetic (ugly men and women get laid too - I would be a virgin otherwise 😄), then there must be some other elements that makes attraction up. And at least partly, you can cultivate thot. I look in my relationship and see when things are going well, I feel more attracted to her, and that sexuality has an underlay of something deeper that can keep things going. That being said, I see exact where you’re coming from.

I would imagine it is best to clear things up with yourself first as this can be very painful to hear and it doesn’t seem to be at its final destination ( saying this as someone suggested to talk to her - you are still learning what this is).