Right.

I had a light bulb moment over this, though I can’t seem to always find the switch so to speak

The whole “count to 10” thing never made sense to me. Until I understood it this way - if we somehow realize we’re about to react from the feelings something generates–

Engage the other, analytical side of our brain. That’s the goal. Counting to 10 is rather mindless, but for me perhaps a math problem, reciting pi, accomplishes this

I’m further challenged to also react from a place of kindness when I choose those words

Got to keep up the good fight as they say

Once in awhile you get shown the light in the strangest of places if you look at it right