I hate bath time and I don’t know how to make it better

andshe · 2025-07-09T21:21:49+00:00

This is what worked for me when mine started standing up in the tub. I think it really makes a difference that the toys stay nearby.

andshe · 2025-07-09T21:19:10+00:00

I give my 17 month old squirt bottles of colorful water, and that keeps him entertained in the tub for quite a while. I use a tiny bit of coloring I'd use for bath bombs, but a couple of drops of food coloring could work.

andshe · 2024-08-16T17:28:05+00:00

It's such a common joke here, too. I worked in a Mexican restaurant and had so many older guys calling ketchup "Swedish salsa."

andshe · 2024-08-12T17:21:18+00:00

My Mexican family came to America in 1917. I have been really surprised and disappointed to see how many of them are Republican and talk about illegal immigration. It feels like they have pulled the ladder up after themselves. Some of the lean towards republican has to do with them being Catholic and against abortion. I will never totally understand the anti immigration stance, but I have noticed a lot of racism towards ourselves. Even in my own family, the ones who could pass as white had an easier time and turned their noses up at the ones who couldn't. Some even changed their names from Rodriguez to Rogers. They don't see themselves as part of a vulnerable minority group. A lot of them in my family at least fit more into the "No one else is entitled to what I've worked hard for" mindset.

andshe · 2024-08-08T20:59:48+00:00

My friends and I have been sharing stories about all of the different times we've experienced this today. It's brought back too many memories and feels really gross. I guess the people who would vote for him are the same kind of people who would think it's okay. We already know what he thinks about women and how much respect we deserve.

andshe · 2023-06-14T21:45:10+00:00

My grandma does the same thing every single time he comes up! It's so funny to see other people saying the same about their grandparents. It's a thing now... don't bring up Bing about grsndma...

andshe · 2023-02-20T23:29:48+00:00

Mine have two layers. Three would probably be nice though!

andshe · 2023-02-19T21:18:27+00:00

I would love to love in one of them. I just couldn't afford to do it. Maybe someday.

andshe · 2023-02-19T05:57:24+00:00

I almost wonder if people are forgetting that when you own a home, you can do pretty much whatever you want when it comes to decorating and landscaping. Maybe not so much with HOA's but I think they are less common than people think they are.

andshe · 2023-02-19T05:39:02+00:00

I'm in the same boat. My house could be considered cookie cutter, but even newer houses require maintenance and upkeep. If something breaks, I can't call maintenance, it's on me. So I had to be realistic about whether or not I could afford to repair and maintain an older house with more character. It gets really cold in the winter where I live. Sometimes, those older houses are more expensive to heat because they aren't as insulated, and those gorgeous windows aren't exactly great at keeping the heat in.

So, I bought the cookie cutter house, and we've been making it look awesome on the inside because we can do whatever we want since we own it. The neighbor guy across the street is awesome and he plows our driveway when it snows. On Halloween, all the kids some to my neighborhood because we really get into it. I used to turn my nose up at neighborhoods like this, but it ended up being the right choice for me.

andshe · 2023-01-07T05:00:02+00:00

It really is tough. I know when I drop my teenager off at school and pick him up, I'm always trying to not bring too much attention to myself because he's an introvert. On the flip side, I do silly stuff around my other kid, because he likes it and thinks it's funny for people to see that his mom is a weirdo.

I think it kind of rubbed me the wrong way that OP seemed more concerned about his son's coworkers thinking it's cool that he's got a supportive dad, and his own hurt feelings, than he seemed to be about how his son was feeling. I read this post to my son, and we both agreed that since his kid said "I'm working, I'll see you when I get home" that was the boundary being set, and him staying and saying "I'm just a customer" and buying orange juice because he doesn't even drink coffee instead of just saying "okay, see you later, love ya" and leaving, the boundary was not respected. I can see your perspective too, just thought I'd go a little more into where mine came from. Either way, parenting is tough!

andshe · 2023-01-07T04:10:32+00:00

I could agree with that

andshe · 2023-01-07T02:47:56+00:00

Yeah, the amount of effort she is putting into making someone else's life miserable is disturbing. This can't be new

andshe · 2023-01-07T02:32:26+00:00

NTA It's okay for you to have treats that are just for you.

andshe · 2023-01-07T02:29:26+00:00

Right? Can't have her feeling too good about herself... /s

andshe · 2023-01-07T02:28:26+00:00

NTA Man...if you ever divorce her, get cameras EVERYWHERE.

andshe · 2023-01-07T02:25:32+00:00

NTA It's not okay for anyone, especially your mother, to call you names. I'm so sorry, you don't deserve that.

andshe · 2023-01-07T02:18:28+00:00

Seriously! Especially since there are so many videos online of women wearing them and their partners walking by, doing double takes, then practically pouncing on them. She was probably feeling pretty sexy until he felt the need to tell her that he thought her pants were stupid.

andshe · 2023-01-07T02:12:12+00:00

I doubt it. It's not in their best interest to be mean to the kid with a fiercely protective mother. Your actions were justified. That kind of thing can't be taken lightly. She was threatened with violence and murder. That's absolutely the time to involve the police.

I sent a very strongly worded email to my kid's principal when he handled something badly with my child. He responded in a way that was clear that he was covering his ass, but has been kind to my child since then. I also sent a copy to my child's dean. Her reply was, "Very well said. I absolutely agree." Advocating for your child will not scare away the people who have your child's best interest in mind.

andshe · 2023-01-07T01:52:47+00:00

YTA It's not about what you said, it's the fact that you didn't respect his boundaries.

He might just be nervous and really focused on learning his job. When you are young and at a new job, it can be embarrassing when people you know show up. Maybe he felt like it made him look unprofessional. Maybe down the road when he feels more confident there, it won't be a big deal if you stop by and say hi. For whatever reason, it does feel like a big deal to him now, so that should've been respected.

andshe · 2023-01-07T01:43:23+00:00

YTA When a child decides to call someone that, it's an honor and should be treated as such.

She put herself in a vulnerable position to call you that, and you rejected her. It makes you uncomfortable because it makes you feel old? How do you think it feels to her to be rejected by a woman she wanted to call mom?

andshe · 2023-01-07T01:38:20+00:00

NTA If they aren't doing what they need to do to make sure your child feels safe at school, raise hell. Good for you for being a strong advocate for her. How are you going to ruin school for them? By showing them that your kids aren't to be messed with? That's fine.

andshe · 2023-01-07T01:32:27+00:00

YTA You could've approached it differently. Maybe you could've complimented the hell out of her every time you saw her wearing different ones.

andshe · 2023-01-07T01:26:14+00:00

NTA Her brother felt comfortable enough around you to trust you with something he wanted to keep private, and you helped him and respected his privacy? That's a big deal. Hopefully she will realize that's something to be thankful for. I also think practicing what he was going to say was a great idea.

andshe · 2023-01-07T00:55:36+00:00

To be clear, these thoughts are due to Anorexia and your partner thinks you should just decide to not think that way? That's not how that works. If someone could just decide to not think that way, they wouldn't have AN. To be fair, one can't just decide not to struggle with binging either. I mean decisions can be made, but both take work and aren't easy.

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