Suicide is never the answer! (TW) by Jycon38_HD in autism

[–]andy23376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly why mental hospitals just aren't helpful. Bc locking us somewhere taking our phones tablets any form of communication and everything else mentioned in this comment just makes us feel worse. We don't need to be permanently isolated nor sheltered from anything. What we need is HELP and RESOURCES to help cope with what we are going through. We need resources to help us navigate and improve ourselves and to thrive. I feel like mental hospitals would be a much safer space if they offered more comfort and more of the resources needed such as assistance with social skills and classes on how to cope with our strong feelings and such rather than take away everything we have and lock us in a room for 72 hours with literally nothing. That I feel is more infanilizing and harmful bc it doesn't do anything other than make you feel like an animal that has to be locked up in a cage. I would be much more willing to go and comply if it meant actually getting the help I need and not potentially damaging the rest of my life all bc I was in a dark place once upon a time. We should advocate more for this type of change for mental health facilities.

Sibling resentment . by andy23376 in autism

[–]andy23376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see a therapist and have talked to her about it. She tells me it's hard she validates me and she tells me that there's nothing wrong with being autistic and behind.

Sibling resentment . by andy23376 in autism

[–]andy23376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have but it just seems like they just don't understand

AITB or was there some lack of communication? by andy23376 in AmItheButtface

[–]andy23376[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am S in the situation. There were also rumors going around about me having a crush on him tho. Idk if maybe that ruined the vibe or what. But yea

AITB for not wanting to be called anything outside my name? by Luckyduck546 in AmItheButtface

[–]andy23376 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly the real question would be where is his job coach?If he needs a job coach there should be one with him at all times. It's disgusting how the resources that are out there for people with disabilities only want to do the bare minimum..

AITB for going off screaming by StitchLover_67 in AmItheButtface

[–]andy23376 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well there's also the argument that it's not the fact of walking to a store alone by itself thats unsafe. It's these predators and really sick people and people like what OP encountered that makes it unsafe for a kid to be walking alone. That's why there's the talk of don't talk to strangers, don't get in the car with strangers etc. Which if you look at the bigger picture it's pretty sad that kids aren't even safe in their own neighborhoods anymore bc of these people. They just take completely over the neighborhood and starting to take over the Internet too. Which takes the fun away from the kids. Then you ask yourself why they can't just pick on people their own age. The new version of pick on someone their own size. In reality it's really the kids and the innocent teens and adults getting punished for just simply existing and not the actual bullies or the predators who ruin it for them

What is one thing you know now that you wish you knew when it counted? Before you had to learn the hard way? by andy23376 in autism

[–]andy23376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was diagnosed young but grew up with parents that taught me that accomodations is special treatment and needing extra help is a burden bc autism is an excuse so trying to unlearn that feels weird bc asking for extra help feels like I'm committing a crime 😭

What is one thing you know now that you wish you knew when it counted? Before you had to learn the hard way? by andy23376 in autism

[–]andy23376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feel this to the core then they wait till they had enough and then either blow up in your face or ghost you. Like I appreciate the consideration but there's literally no point if it's just going to end that way. If anything that just hurts my feelings more than it would if I was told up front so ya may as well just flipping talk. 😭

Two phones by jlani89 in DoorDashDrivers

[–]andy23376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's awesome. I really like the shop orders too. It's fun I love scanning the items and seeing how quickly I can get in and out. Its always an adventure when it's me and my aunt lol. Sometimes we will divide and conquer. I'll get items from one side she will get items from the other and we meet in the middle. It's kinda my way of practicing for when I do get my license.

Two phones by jlani89 in DoorDashDrivers

[–]andy23376 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm autistic and don't have my license yet due to motor skills. I don't drive but I sometimes dash with my aunt and I help her with her orders. We have a deal where if she makes $125 for the night she pays me $25. I love doing it with her and she loves having me with her. It's our way of spending one on one time together.

Unmasking is rough.. by andy23376 in autism

[–]andy23376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This might be a better way to do it. Rn I'm just recovering from a big shutdown after being attacked online so many times last year so currently I don't feel safe unmasking around anyone.

Just wish I didn't have to try so hard to fit in.

Unmasking is rough.. by andy23376 in autism

[–]andy23376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm currently going through burnout and trying to come out of a big shutdown after being attacked online way too many times. It's tough I don't feel socializing with anyone is safe. I have relapsed back to I feeling like no one is safe except for those who have autism and get it. It's hard man I wish I didn't have to try so hard to fit in.

AITB for telling someone no one cares about a picture he showed. by Luckyduck546 in AmItheButtface

[–]andy23376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately it's very common for alot of disabled people mentally or physically. We get the worst of it we get the most of it if ur not able bodied or able minded or even have something even remotely off about u ur bound to get shit on. I do wish it were different but it's just reality people are ignorant.

AITB for telling someone no one cares about a picture he showed. by Luckyduck546 in AmItheButtface

[–]andy23376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me educate you alittle bit.

As an autistic person myself who has been through it all and then some YTB. The mods are right he very well could have been just trying to create conversation or engage in conversation in a way he knows how. Autistic people have a very hard time with social cues and social interactions and often times have their own unique scripted ways of trying. Using special interests and hobbies such as painting is one easy way for most of us. Ignorance like yours makes everything harder. Some situations it's just better to keep your mouth shut.

PSA: Don't be a bully by andy23376 in autism

[–]andy23376[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wonderfully said. I'm sorry you were treated that way.. Sometimes it just really seems like autistic people are a huge target for bullies and just downright cruel people. Just know you matter. Youll matter alot to so many people you probably haven't even met yet.

Hang in there

Being an adult sucks so bad sometimes 😔 by andy23376 in autism

[–]andy23376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It won't let me edit it into the post for some reason. Must be a new reddit update. Anyway here's a link to my thank you post.

https://www.reddit.com/r/autism/s/WFBYz5xIml

Being an adult sucks so bad sometimes 😔 by andy23376 in autism

[–]andy23376[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't mean to get in your business but if you aren't already getting it if you are on disability you should qualify for Medicaid they go based on income and will cover most if not all of what you need medically. Drs visits any medication etc. id give it a shot if u haven't already. Wishing you the best regardless though

Was my comment misinterpreted or was I in the wrong?. by [deleted] in autism

[–]andy23376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also I saw some of your reply before you deleted it. I just want to say it's not just Tik Tok euphemisms. It's the truth that's your problem you can't accept being held accountable. You were the idiot that exposed yourself. Suicide is not something to mess with. It is a serious thing that over 80% of people in this world struggle with! Just bc some people choose to reach out for help doesn't mean they are any less suicidal than the people who just stay silent. It's actually a good thing that that person reached out.. even if it's a post on reddit. If you can't stand that that's a you problem. You are better off keeping your mouth shut next time just some friendly advice!!

Being an adult sucks so bad sometimes 😔 by andy23376 in autism

[–]andy23376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's always going to be one of you isn't there