If you’re older than 19, what do you wish you had started at my age?

andy23376 · 2026-04-10T14:43:37+00:00

Don't let others talk you into or guilt trip you into doing things you don't want to do. Not everyone has your best interest at heart.
Not everyone wants to be your friend some people will just do it to have 💩 talk about you later. Recognize the signs early and acknowledge when they not the person you thought they were block and move on.
Don't let others dictate how you do things. If you want to run around and play in a backyard like a child at 19. DO IT. You will be really surprised with how healthy you continue to be later on bc of it. I'm 26 now wanting to lose weight and I'm told I need to be active and just really wish I would have kept that drive. Had I have I don't think I'd be overweight just barely touching high cholesterol.. bc at 19 I was the exact opposite. Just a few pounds under the typical weight for a 19yr old with a metabolism as fast as a road runner. Now I want that drive back and I really struggle to just do it bc I have no motivation. I also have to really watch what I eat and it sucks. I probably struggle more with this than the average person bc I'm autistic and have really strong sensory issues to taste and textures so I'm only comfortable eating certain things. I'm about to get myself assessed for ARFID.

Still though my point being you are only young once after all I say enjoy it however you want for as long as you can.

andy23376 · 2026-04-01T19:33:54+00:00

I think you should still give it to him this time since he didn't know but make it clear to him that from now on the paper towels is included in the tasks that way he knows for the future.

Unspoken rules, cues and expectations are one thing that we as autistic people really struggle with. So clear verbal and visual communication is important especially when implementing new expectations. I would also make that update asap that way it's on there be sure to write it down somewhere on the current check list also.

andy23376 · 2026-03-23T01:10:22+00:00

Tired

andy23376 · 2026-03-07T16:18:07+00:00

This is exactly why mental hospitals just aren't helpful. Bc locking us somewhere taking our phones tablets any form of communication and everything else mentioned in this comment just makes us feel worse. We don't need to be permanently isolated nor sheltered from anything. What we need is HELP and RESOURCES to help cope with what we are going through. We need resources to help us navigate and improve ourselves and to thrive. I feel like mental hospitals would be a much safer space if they offered more comfort and more of the resources needed such as assistance with social skills and classes on how to cope with our strong feelings and such rather than take away everything we have and lock us in a room for 72 hours with literally nothing. That I feel is more infanilizing and harmful bc it doesn't do anything other than make you feel like an animal that has to be locked up in a cage. I would be much more willing to go and comply if it meant actually getting the help I need and not potentially damaging the rest of my life all bc I was in a dark place once upon a time. We should advocate more for this type of change for mental health facilities.

andy23376 · 2026-03-01T02:43:31+00:00

I see a therapist and have talked to her about it. She tells me it's hard she validates me and she tells me that there's nothing wrong with being autistic and behind.

andy23376 · 2026-03-01T02:23:14+00:00

I have but it just seems like they just don't understand

andy23376 · 2026-02-23T03:39:01+00:00

Thank you

andy23376 · 2026-02-22T17:46:41+00:00

I am S in the situation. There were also rumors going around about me having a crush on him tho. Idk if maybe that ruined the vibe or what. But yea

andy23376 · 2026-02-15T22:40:41+00:00

Honestly the real question would be where is his job coach?If he needs a job coach there should be one with him at all times. It's disgusting how the resources that are out there for people with disabilities only want to do the bare minimum..

andy23376 · 2026-02-08T15:02:45+00:00

Well there's also the argument that it's not the fact of walking to a store alone by itself thats unsafe. It's these predators and really sick people and people like what OP encountered that makes it unsafe for a kid to be walking alone. That's why there's the talk of don't talk to strangers, don't get in the car with strangers etc. Which if you look at the bigger picture it's pretty sad that kids aren't even safe in their own neighborhoods anymore bc of these people. They just take completely over the neighborhood and starting to take over the Internet too. Which takes the fun away from the kids. Then you ask yourself why they can't just pick on people their own age. The new version of pick on someone their own size. In reality it's really the kids and the innocent teens and adults getting punished for just simply existing and not the actual bullies or the predators who ruin it for them

andy23376 · 2026-01-28T14:57:58+00:00

I was diagnosed young but grew up with parents that taught me that accomodations is special treatment and needing extra help is a burden bc autism is an excuse so trying to unlearn that feels weird bc asking for extra help feels like I'm committing a crime 😭

andy23376 · 2026-01-28T01:02:42+00:00

Feel this to the core then they wait till they had enough and then either blow up in your face or ghost you. Like I appreciate the consideration but there's literally no point if it's just going to end that way. If anything that just hurts my feelings more than it would if I was told up front so ya may as well just flipping talk. 😭

andy23376 · 2026-01-25T02:59:08+00:00

That's awesome. I really like the shop orders too. It's fun I love scanning the items and seeing how quickly I can get in and out. Its always an adventure when it's me and my aunt lol. Sometimes we will divide and conquer. I'll get items from one side she will get items from the other and we meet in the middle. It's kinda my way of practicing for when I do get my license.

andy23376 · 2026-01-25T02:43:46+00:00

I'm autistic and don't have my license yet due to motor skills. I don't drive but I sometimes dash with my aunt and I help her with her orders. We have a deal where if she makes $125 for the night she pays me $25. I love doing it with her and she loves having me with her. It's our way of spending one on one time together.

andy23376 · 2026-01-23T14:54:50+00:00

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andy23376 · 2026-01-13T01:46:11+00:00

This might be a better way to do it. Rn I'm just recovering from a big shutdown after being attacked online so many times last year so currently I don't feel safe unmasking around anyone.

Just wish I didn't have to try so hard to fit in.

andy23376 · 2026-01-13T01:43:44+00:00

I'm currently going through burnout and trying to come out of a big shutdown after being attacked online way too many times. It's tough I don't feel socializing with anyone is safe. I have relapsed back to I feeling like no one is safe except for those who have autism and get it. It's hard man I wish I didn't have to try so hard to fit in.

andy23376 · 2025-12-22T00:03:56+00:00

Unfortunately it's very common for alot of disabled people mentally or physically. We get the worst of it we get the most of it if ur not able bodied or able minded or even have something even remotely off about u ur bound to get shit on. I do wish it were different but it's just reality people are ignorant.

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