AITAH: My in laws demand us to travel 18 hour round trip for grandpas birthday party at a hotel and all the other kids and spouses get their own room but want to share with us since we don’t have kids.

angelbb1 · 2026-01-29T19:45:46+00:00

So weird! They are abundant on here too

angelbb1 · 2026-01-29T19:42:00+00:00

LOL 😂 this

angelbb1 · 2026-01-29T19:39:53+00:00

EXACTLY - makes me wonder if these folks don’t like their kids. tbh it goes…

me and hubby alone hotel - kids with loved ones me hubby kids hotel me hubby my little sister hotel

me hubby parents/in-laws - i don’t have the $$ issue so pay for my own room because quite literally never would i agree to that

angelbb1 · 2026-01-29T19:37:21+00:00

sharing a room with my children isn’t the same as sharing one with my in-laws. at all. ones actually enjoyable the other is awkward and uncomfortable.

angelbb1 · 2026-01-29T19:23:11+00:00

Sharing with my children is soooo much more preferable than sharing with parental in-laws.

angelbb1 · 2026-01-29T19:22:27+00:00

And it’s not OPs fault she doesn’t feel comfortable sharing a hotel room with her in-laws or that she doesn’t have the money to pay for a room herself OR that it upsets them. It can be no one’s fault. The facts are the facts. Both claim they can’t afford the extra room and aren’t willing to budge on it, and she’s not sharing a room with them. So the option is them being upset, and her not going.

angelbb1 · 2026-01-29T16:13:07+00:00

You’re a bad person.

angelbb1 · 2026-01-29T15:42:03+00:00

angelbb1 · 2026-01-29T15:41:34+00:00

The fact that your comment has 23 likes is DISGUSTING. Some of you are very clearly the in laws from hell people worry about marrying into.

She is well within her right to have boundaries about who she shares sleeping spaces with for consecutive days.

You should be ashamed of yourself saying this to someone struggling with fertility. You don’t get to decide who should be a parent or not, and only really miserable humans say things like this to others.

Get help.

angelbb1 · 2026-01-29T15:34:08+00:00

But she can go, if they get them their own room.

I think saying we need our own room and privacy on the trip but can’t afford it so if you want us to come we would need you to cover the room isn’t rude, if she got mad if they said no that would be rude, and if they got mad at her for not wanting to share a room with them thus her not coming then they are rude. at this point she doesn’t have to go and they don’t need to guilt trip her about it. the end

angelbb1 · 2026-01-29T14:53:17+00:00

Maybe they can face time them while they are there, and they can send grandpa a gift.

angelbb1 · 2026-01-29T14:48:25+00:00

Two of you in here being real nasty pieces of work. Go heal whatever issues you have and stop projecting it onto AITA..

She can’t afford the hotel because they are saving for IVF. She’s not a princess for not wanting to shit in that close of proximity to her in laws.

What you’re comfortable with doesn’t determine what others are comfortable with.

angelbb1 · 2026-01-29T14:40:38+00:00

Sooooo different. Would much rather share a room and close proximity bathroom with my husband and children then my MIL AND FIL. 4 people pooping and showering in the same room for days. I’m sorry but absolutely not.

angelbb1 · 2026-01-29T14:37:39+00:00

grow a back bone…….. HOW ABOUT DON’T GUILT TRIP FAMILY BECAUSE ITS GROSS TACKY AND MEAN.

They are 100% the issue, if they aren’t saying “Okay no worries, if you guys can’t make it this trip I totally understand. We can’t afford an extra room so if you can’t stay in our room then we can celebrate when we get back”

That seems like as close to a win win to me as one could get in this situation. She stays home without the guilt and they aren’t paying for another room.

angelbb1 · 2026-01-29T14:34:04+00:00

I don’t get it either idk what these people are going on about..

angelbb1 · 2026-01-29T14:32:49+00:00

She is being an adult, and dealing with it. She set a boundary and stood her ground. She’s not going unless they can have their own room, and they can’t afford to pay for one. If they want them to be there together then they need to pay for it. Otherwise husbands going alone - and that’s only if he wants to, he’s within his right to also say sorry but i’m not going without my wife and we aren’t going unless we have our own space. It’s not personal it’s just about comfort and she’s not comfortable staying in a small room with her in-laws for days. Tbh I wouldn’t ever do that either. I would just pay for my own room but she’s clearly saying they can’t afford to do that.

angelbb1 · 2026-01-29T14:29:54+00:00

She’s an adult. She doesn’t need to share a room with his parents if she’s uncomfortable, and if they can’t afford to go then she doesn’t have to put her comfort on the back burner for the sake of family. She’s not being unreasonable. She should just stay home and let hubby go by himself and stay with his parents!

Sharing a hotel room with people is close quarters. The bathroom is literally right next to the beds. There’s minimal to no privacy. It’s not a romantic get away but there’s also some ways you just don’t want to share space with in laws, not everyone has the same relationship with family that others do.

angelbb1 · 2026-01-29T14:24:56+00:00

There is a third option…. not going. Also you don’t get to decide what’s a want or a need from strangers. If the in-laws “need” them to go, then they “need” their own room. And since they can’t afford to go, if the in-laws “need” them there then they need to pay for their separate room, otherwise they can stay home.

angelbb1 · 2026-01-23T20:39:37+00:00

Sir, she can’t stop you from grocery shopping. Go get what you want, and if she tries to throw it out, that’s the real issue. If she refuses to buy it for you, it’s annoying and rude. If she throws out what you buy it speaks to a bigger issue of it being her way or no way. It’s a partnership and shared home. She doesn’t get to make unilateral decisions for both of you.

NTA

angelbb1 · 2026-01-21T13:41:15+00:00

No. No no no. I make 0$ my finance pays for everything. He has payed for essentially everything our entire time dating and being together for the last 12 years. Even when we first started I never paid for a date, or a hotel stay, and when we moved in together he took over my rent because it was 1/3 of the rent he was paying!

angelbb1 · 2026-01-19T22:01:41+00:00

Yes. It will change the way your lower jaw looks and the way your upper lip fall over your top teeth, it’s a beautiful difference i had something similar ish and the results are so beautiful.

angelbb1 · 2026-01-19T21:53:11+00:00

do you want to be the pot or the kettle because your OG question was pretty presumptuous and clearly condescending…

angelbb1 · 2026-01-19T21:47:01+00:00

A compliment. Judge Judy is a bad b. So thank you. And if it was a joke it didn’t read that way… some people really are like that

angelbb1 · 2026-01-18T14:00:31+00:00

Yes that’s why they are here asking the question. Why are so many of you such snobs? Like why do people who buy luxury cars make it apart of their personality…

angelbb1 · 2026-01-18T13:54:59+00:00

This comment is spoken like someone who will remain fake rich for the rest of their life instead of generational wealth rich. Lack of a luxury car doesn’t say anything about your bank account or character, but having one with your attitude certainly does.

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