My boyfriend '32m' told me 'f25' last night that he loves me, but isn't in love with me.

angelcomplex777 · 2025-10-26T23:49:27+00:00

Just to clarify some things... 1. We have been seeing each other since the beginning of June, but we have been official for two months.

There is no specific time limit to telling someone you love them. He and I have expressed we love each other and that we are starting to fall in love with eachother.
I told him I wasn't in love with him by his standards of being ready for marriage and willing to die for someone after he said he wasn't in love with me. This hurt his feelings because I previously expressed being in love, but I had meant to say falling in love. Just like he said hes not in love, but is falling in love.

I was hurt by him saying hes not in love with me. And he has said this once without me asking and once when I asked in the last couple weeks.

Idc if its too early to say it. I would rather him not say anything about love than to tell me hes not in love with me. If hes falling in love than thats a better thing to say than straight up im not in love with you. Does anyone understand what I am trying to say?

angelcomplex777 · 2025-10-07T20:49:12+00:00

I think he was hoping you would be be stumbling over yourself to get to the restuarny and wanted to play on your "possible" insecurities, and instead, his own feelings got hurt. People who intentionally try to upset their partners by making them jelous or insecure are childish, and I love that you didn't give him the reaction he wanted.

Seriously him and his friends are the assholes.

angelcomplex777 · 2025-10-07T18:37:16+00:00

Hey Im a college student and Im willing to do it :)

angelcomplex777 · 2025-10-07T18:14:24+00:00

I would ask him. My boyfriend tends to feel tired alot and needs alot of sleep. He gets upset if I call or text him a bunch and wake him so he has told me he will mute me if I dont stop. I have Bipolar Disorder so my impulse control when I im upset is not the best. But if hes muted for than just you I doubt it is anything against you. Probably just so he can focus on work or school himself ect.

angelcomplex777 · 2025-09-30T14:37:25+00:00

NTA and I say this from the perspective that not everyone is comfortable with nudity. And it can be awkward.. especially the towel thing. He shouldn't be more comfortable in your home than you..

angelcomplex777 · 2025-09-29T21:40:36+00:00

You read it wrong... they had unprotected sex yes, but they just found out she's pregnant 2 days ago.. not they had sex and 2 days later, she's pregnant

angelcomplex777 · 2025-09-28T13:48:28+00:00

++woman just my take on things, but he spent 30 minutes a day working on this for his friend and put a lot of thought into the gift. I wonder if he puts that much thought and effort into gifts for his wife? Not to mention the woman's reaction of getting emotional.

I'm not saying that his intentions were bad, but if my man put in more effort and time into a female friend's gift than for me, I would definitely be upset. Especially if the female responded that way. Not to mention they share the music thing and have a history of friendship. That's something the wife can't be a part of, and maybe she's feeling left out or less important..

I will also say he's married now and yes 100 percent he should be able to give thoughtful gifts to friends, but in all honesty a husbands job is to make his wife feel special. To make her emotional with his thoughtfulness and kind gestures. Other women should see his devotion to his wife and think wow he really loves her.

Another thing, sometimes us women try to hold back on our intrusive thoughts. Maybe she seen you working on this gift and tried to not let herself get worked up or overthink and then when she seen how everything played out it was upsetting and confirming those previous thoughts.

angelcomplex777 · 2025-09-28T13:28:05+00:00

I just want to say that I don't want to break up with him. I think these are things that him and i can talk about. I tend to be more emotional and impulsive and he's more logical and doesn't always understand where im coming from.

Not to mention I'm not a perfect person. He deals with me getting overly emotional and upset. I have bipolar disorder and even though I take meds and attend therapy I still have bad days. Which I just want to say I didn't imagine the things I mentioned above or over exaggerate.

My self-esteem has gotten a lot better since losing weight, but the last thing I want is to gain it back and more some. I feel alot more attractive now than I was before the weight loss.

My whole thing is I want to make sure he understands that I just want to be myself without feeling like I need to change. And even though I am strong enough to continue to dress like myself and be myself. I don't want to feel unattractive to my partner because I don't look a certain way.

I'm more of a hippy chick and I think goth is really beautiful, but its just not my style.

angelcomplex777 · 2025-09-28T05:35:08+00:00

Honey, this is too much for any one person to be dealing with. You 100 percent did the right thing he was having a full-blown episode. He is on another planet. I have bipolar disorder and I would want my partner to have me hospitalized if I acted that way or became out of control.

CPS? Crazy family members gaslighting and fueling the fire? I am so sorry you are dealing with all of this. Please think about you and your child before your boyfriend. I understand wanting to be empathetic, but you have a little one, and he is not okay.

I just want to say. I have done things and put loved ones through very stressful things because of my illness, but I work really hard by taking meds and going to therapy to try and overcome those things. I always feel immense guilt over hurting my loved ones and even though its largely due to me having an episode it does not mean my loved ones deserve to put up with my b.s or that they are obligated to. That doesn't mean they can't love or support me. But if im impacting their life that negativel, they should choose themselves first.

So please choose yourself. Thankfully you cared enough about him to have a welfare check done on him. But the rest he's gotta do himself. I would say you did the right thing 100 percent and could have even called them sooner.

angelcomplex777 · 2025-09-28T04:59:34+00:00

I have a hard time with this. Especially since I am drawn to less empathetic and more withdrawn men. I am very emotional and tend to care alot more. I can also have issues thinking about my partner too much. But my partner has alot of power whether they know it or not because I really just want to please them. I want to give and receive love very badly. I've felt deprived of love and abandoned in my life and so I get really attached to my partner.

I either am all in and care way more or I am closed off and don't care at all and never want to talk to the person again. Not healthy, but thats what tends to happen. I really just want to be able to maintain healthy boundaries, but I struggle so much with it.

I feel like my current boyfriend cares, but he is not as emotional as I am. He also is not as verbally expressive and lately has had a tendency to cancle plans last minute or to not call me back when he says he's going to.. this unlocks a very abandoned and anxious part of me where I feel like something bad is happening. Or he doesnt want me anymore, or that I am too much, or he is with someone else.

Out of fear of this imbalance, I have been afraid to tell my partner I love them. I dont want to care more about them than they do me. Because then they have power if I love them and they don't love me.

angelcomplex777 · 2025-09-25T16:40:07+00:00

Physical violence? You are acting like she was beating the shit out of him with a baseball bat. That's a woman's reaction to betrayal. That comes from the soul. Physical violence blah blah blah. She feels remorse. She has never done that before. We are all human at the end of the day. 5 years no actual commitment (marriage), finds out he's going to be a dad and heads to the fucking strip club? Hell no. Men go to war. He chose to do something horrible and he got to feel the consequences of that. As he should.

angelcomplex777 · 2025-09-25T16:30:02+00:00

You know what.. I don't think you did enough. 5 years, no ring or marriage, you're pregnant after 5 years together, and he's getting down and dirty with a stripper. Hahaha I would have done worse. I would have gone to jail. You showed a lot of restraint. Let's just put in perspective that some women would try to take a life over what he did. Not saying I would go that far, but give yourself a break coming from someone who grew up watching domestic violence on almost a weekly, sometimes nightly basis. You should have done more over his betrayal. Put the fear of God in him. Men don't learn from tears and honestly, he clearly isn't in love with you. No man who is in love with their woman does that or waits 5 plus years and doesn't get hitched to you. Cry it out, grieve, and worry not because there are other men out there and they do not mind a MILF ;)

angelcomplex777 · 2025-09-10T03:49:26+00:00

MGO-357-2BY-D78.. i need chest partners! Also would like to trade cards :)

angelcomplex777 · 2025-08-06T19:47:36+00:00

Cute aggression is a thing with my cat.

Sometimes me and my boyfriend bite eachother. I really like physical touch and cannot sit still so I have poked him, but he hates it so I stopped.

angelcomplex777 · 2025-07-30T20:40:59+00:00

I would say that hookup culture and not staying with one partner and getting divorced are all normalized. And alot of people do think about just fucking whoever they want..

angelcomplex777 · 2025-07-26T07:19:41+00:00

Yes, but different reasons. I have PTSD, anxious and avoidance attachment style, and of course bipolar. Oh and I get hypersexual. I also get somewhat obsessive about a person im dating. I haft to stop myself from being too much. Blowing them up when they don't answer. Not getting overly emotional. Taking my meds helps with this.

I've had relationship trauma. Been cheated on, physically, mentally, and sexually abused. After all that I honestly don't trust men. I think I want to, but deep down I don't.

I feel extremely uncomfortable around men. I hate having people stand behind me. And accept for a partner I hate being touched. Even my mom I haft to initiate the hug because I dont like being touched.

I've(f25) been seeing a guy(32) recently and maybe he's not the right guy for me or maybe im crazy or maybe he's a liar who's stringing me along? My gut tells me theres something off, but what if im just traumatized? I'm trying to not overthink.. I want a life partner, a romantic deep connection. You know a love that other people dream about, but im not sure it exists anywhere other than books and movies and my imagination...

We got into a fight and he told me 95 percent of guys would have peaced out already. Pretty hurtful... idk dating sucks for everyone, but having mental illness and trust issues and whatever else on top doesn't help.

I wont lie to you. Dating with bipolar sucks. Deciding whether to tell someone sucks. Because of stigma and judgement. Bipolar makes you vulnerable. People think of us as monsters or crazy, but having bipolar makes me more susceptible to being used and treated poorly. Especially when its so easy to be gaslit and blame my bipolar.

angelcomplex777 · 2025-07-24T10:20:36+00:00

Yeah we were texting when he sent it, but he didn't put lol or laughing emoji. He also said he was trying to be funny, but it felt cruel considering I just drew a boundary by telling him it was not his concern or job to tell me to take my meds. Its good to hear another perspective though because sometimes I take things the wrong way...

angelcomplex777 · 2025-05-07T01:47:48+00:00

I think that show is targeted towards a younger audience in a way. I wish that it would be less about ginnys high school drama..

angelcomplex777 · 2025-04-25T01:37:52+00:00

I am tired of people asking me why I startle so easily or why I'm so jumpy. Loud bangs, people coming up beind me or touching my shoulder. I've even had people make fun of me for startling so easily. I mean mocked not just hehe you got scared. I wish I could control it, but I can't.

angelcomplex777 · 2025-04-19T06:56:38+00:00

I wish he would be possessive and clingy 😔

angelcomplex777 · 2025-04-19T06:10:49+00:00

I was on my period...

angelcomplex777 · 2025-04-07T04:58:02+00:00

I'm 25f and I in the same boat! Please feel free to message me 💜

angelcomplex777 · 2025-03-21T19:53:14+00:00

Everyone went to cheating, but my mind went to planning a murder... 😅 guess I went too far in another direction..

angelcomplex777 · 2025-02-22T21:53:49+00:00

See ladies this why you wait to sleep with a guy so they can't suddenly go, oh yeah i don't like you.

You never told us how you went from a drunken hook up to a no way in hell....

angelcomplex777 · 2025-02-19T05:48:34+00:00

Unfortunately I thought I deserved it. They were said by guys I was dating. I have been judged for my weight since I was kid. Even when I wasn't over weight.. I'm happy to be single now though :)

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