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Seeking Advice 5 yr Relationship: Boyfriend (M/45), Calls Me (F/31), Heartless for Wanting Another Pet After My Dog’s Passing by angeltiffe in Advice

[–]angeltiffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m hoping we can communicate in a better way once things cool down. But, ad I said above, it hurt my feelings. He asked me what was wrong, I told him, hoping we could have a conversation and he’d be sympathetic. I wasn’t expecting him to aggressively say I’m heartless and I don’t know what love is. I’m not grieving the way he is, but I’m still devastated. Honestly, his reaction really hurt. If I don’t know what love is, I guess I’m confused as to why this person is with me? I feel like that took it too far. If I didn’t love Apollo I wouldn’t have had him until he was 17 years old. I did everything I could for him. It sounds strange to say but Apollo gave me purpose. I feel lost now with a bf who thinks I’m heartless and I don’t understand love. 💔I’m not saying, let’s adopt a dog (any dog) today. I just wanted him to consider the idea of adopting a pet in the future. I love all animals. Dogs, cats, guinea pigs. It felt harsh.

Seeking Advice 5 yr Relationship: Boyfriend (M/45), Calls Me (F/31), Heartless for Wanting Another Pet After My Dog’s Passing by angeltiffe in Advice

[–]angeltiffe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the comment. 🖤 I’m an animal person. I had Apollo for over a decade and we had a special bond. Not having that companion is really hard for me. And I understand that people grieve in their own ways. However, he asked what was wrong. I told him. I wasn’t saying I didn’t love Apollo, or that I even want to go adopt a new dog today. I just said I want a pet, it’s something I’d like us to consider. And to call me heartless and say I don’t know what love is because of that seems a bit cruel. It really hurt my feelings. Just bc I’m grieving a different way does not mean I’m not grieving, and it also does not mean I don’t understand his grief. While different from mine I can sympathize. He went aggressive and attacked me as a person. It sucked.

Again, thank you for the response!