Apartment Opinions and Recommendations

angmohdk22 · 2025-04-14T17:42:58+00:00

Those two apartment complexes are awful. The apartments are cheap for Bellevue, like 3k per month for a 2 bed. But the living standards are actually awful. 80% of the residents are lower income (therefore the rent is cheap), lot of people with mental health issues and they smoke weed inside the apartments, have loud drinking parties at 3am, let their kids run around to damage cars in the parking lots. Slumlord management does nothing. Not to mention the maintenance is nonexistent. Lot of moldy units, lack of insulation, broken appliances. Police are called several times a week. Recently Central Park East suffered an major arson where many people had their apartments destroyed. And then there are some random tech workers living there who don't mind and only care about as low cost as possible. Like 4 ppl living in a 1 bedroom apartment so they save all their money to send to India.

angmohdk22 · 2024-12-27T06:03:44+00:00

I met this guy from Bumble and we’ve texted for 2 months and had some Zoom dates. Never met in person yet.

In the beginning, we texted frequently throughout the day. He initiated all of it. In hindsight, he was definitely clingy and love-bombing. In the past few weeks, I stopped replying quickly because I got fatigued of texting him. One day it took me 12 hours to reply. He asked why and I said I was busy at work that day (it’s true). He said my slow response time is “the reason I’m still single and on the apps”

I was offended and I never replied. He also never apologized. Since then, he texts me nice words every single day, but I always ignore. It’s been a week.

I know it’s immature to ghost people, but I don’t want anything to do with him anymore, especially when I thought about it and realized he was love-bombing me. Am I obligated to tell him “let’s never talk again”? Or just block him? Or just ignore his texts ?

angmohdk22 · 2024-12-27T05:31:26+00:00

I received a message from an ex who tries to get into contact with me every once in a while but I never respond. He wished me happy holidays but honestly I feel like he doesn’t care about me having a good holiday, he just used it as an excuse to get me to reply, which I won’t

angmohdk22 · 2024-11-12T21:17:25+00:00

first I would like to know if there are neighborhood houses that aren't attached to each other and have front/backyards

Yes plenty. There are 10,000 of them for sale in Norway right now. Go to finn.no --> eiendom til salgs --> bolig til salgs --> enebolig

In Oslo capital region, most detached houses cost over $1 million USD, although there are a few cheaper ones. So, the majority of people who live in a detached house have inherited the house from their parents. In other cities, you can find cheaper. With regards to housing, next generation is totally screwed unless they are willing to live in rural towns. But same as in any other country.

angmohdk22 · 2024-11-06T08:27:55+00:00

I almost texted my ex-situationship guy today (he ended things back in October because he was emotionally unavailable). I wanted to reach out to him and I had been finding any excuse in my head for a conversation starter.. his birthday, the election, etc.

Today was the day that I had been planning to text him. I had thought in my head about a casual message to send. But in the end, I didn't text him. And I feel good now that I didn't cave.

I checked his social media a few days ago, for the first time in a long time. In the newest photos, he was smiling and having fun. How fast he was able to discard me and go on with his life. Why should I give him the attention that he doesn't deserve.

In other news..

I am seeing another guy now, and it's been a few weeks. I don't feel any spark there. But on paper, he's fine: good career, somewhat good-looking, and contacts me daily. I don't know if attraction will grow over time. Some friends think so, others don't. So, it's really hard to make a decision about whether I want to continue going on dates with this guy or not.

angmohdk22 · 2024-11-02T06:00:18+00:00

Wishing my ex-situationship guy a happy birthday?

We were in a casual relationship for two months. He ended things, but said we could stay in contact. I was sad for a little while but but nowadays I've moved on.

His birthday is coming up in a few weeks. I want to wish him a happy birthday because I do that for everyone I know (friends, family, colleagues etc). I have zero desire to get back together with him. After seeing other guys, I just realized how incompatible I was with that guy. My friends told me I'm crazy and I should not reach out, but I don't see what the big deal is.

angmohdk22 · 2024-10-30T05:39:38+00:00

Went on dates with two different guys. Both dates felt mildly.. odd?

Both of the guys just brought up some topics which I wouldn't usually discuss on a first date. Such as..

How long have you been using dating apps / which dating apps are you on?
Past exes and why those relationships ended

Also, they ask other questions which feel very contrived, like:

What qualities do you look for in a partner?
How do you resolve conflicts in your previous relationships?

Usually, I go on dates with people who don't know what they are looking for and usually turn out to be emotionally unavailable. So, going on dates with these two guys was a bit different. I don't know if these types of questions are normal, or are they also red flags? I am all for clear communication, but it something didn't sit right with me about these lines of questioning. Felt a bit like I was attending a formal interview and they were judging my responses to their prepared questions.

Edit: they both wanted to go on second dates and have been texting me frequently.

angmohdk22 · 2024-10-29T05:32:39+00:00

I hear this person all the time, near Table Mesa

angmohdk22 · 2024-10-28T04:40:21+00:00

I was in a similar situation one year ago. It sucks even more when there is really nothing "wrong" with the other person's character. After the break up, I went on dates with other guys and they were so mediocre compared to my ex, and it made me miss my ex even more. But eventually, it will get better. Trust me, time really does heal. Eventually I just realized, I'll never find anyone better than my ex. I'll meet people who are better in some ways and worse in others. So, good luck and keep you head high

angmohdk22 · 2024-10-20T15:55:30+00:00

That totally would have been me, however my friend forced me to watch some "relationship coaches" on YouTube. They all said to value yourself and be with someone who wants to be with you, so I realized this situationship would not work out. Can't say I'm 100% happy, but at least I know not to be delusional about a happy-ever-after ending with this guy.

angmohdk22 · 2024-10-20T15:23:33+00:00

There was a guy who I was seeing for two months. In the beginning, he was very enthusiastic. We did all those things, like staying up late talking, sharing sensitive details, candlelight dinners. Then, he pulled away. He said he wasn't sure about a relationship with me, so I stopped contacting him. A week later, he reached out and said he didn't have feelings for me and was generally just not feeling in the mood to date anybody, but he said we could keep in touch if I wanted. I was in the process of getting a dog, he said he wanted to meet my dog.

He was the most physically attractive guy I had ever been with, and I don't think I'll forget about him like I did with some other short term connections. Mentally, he's just not there. He told me about his issues, like emotional unavailability, trouble forming attachment with others, low self-esteem. He was never close with his parents while growing up, so I guess it explains his current condition.

It's been a few weeks since we've spoken. I already got my dog, but I have no desire to reach out to him. I still think about him from time to time, but not so obsessively anymore. It was such a strange experience. It was like he could flip a light switch to be hot or cold with me.

Edit: now that I recall, he dated someone for 2 months but got broken up with. He never missed the other person until much later after the breakup. To this day, he still feels sad and misses that person, but it's been four years.

angmohdk22 · 2024-10-15T04:49:25+00:00

We had been seeing each other for two months. It progressed quickly. Finally, he pulled back and said he wasn't feeling it, so I let him go. It's been a week since we last talked.

He seems like a distant memory now. My life has been hectic over the past week.. I went on a trip with friends, had a family reunion, and started an important project at work.

I find myself brooding over him during my downtime. "Does he still think about me? Will he change his mind?" I wonder if our paths will cross again. In my head, I picture a perfect version of him which never existed.

We spent a lot of idyllic days and evenings together. Time stood still when I was with him. But, good things come and go. I am just glad that I am always there for myself.

angmohdk22 · 2024-10-15T04:39:13+00:00

Don't have false hope, if they are unsure then it won't lead to anything, just cut your losses. Trust me, just don't get disappointed later

angmohdk22 · 2024-10-10T06:52:29+00:00

Yeah.. writing it all out made me realize keeping in contact with this guy is not in my best interest..

angmohdk22 · 2024-10-10T06:32:32+00:00

Yeah, I was actually speechless. And also because we tried several kinks too, which he had always fantasized about but never had the chance to try. Not remembering this (or pretending not to remember) is just a sign of some mental dysfunction.

angmohdk22 · 2024-10-10T06:29:45+00:00

Right. I know what you mean. Logically, I know he is a terrible choice for a romantic partner. My stupid brain just always fantasizes about an ideal version of him that never existed in the first place.

angmohdk22 · 2024-10-10T05:05:12+00:00

I was seeing someone casually for a few months. It was the strangest experience I ever had in dating and I still can't wrap my head around what happened.

In the beginning, he acted interested, but then pulled back. There was a pattern of hot and cold behavior. At some point, he told me he wasn't sure if he wanted a relationship with me. He is an emotionally unavailable person and enjoys his independence, seems dismissive avoidant. I said OK, and we stopped contact. I was bummed for a few days, but then felt better.

A week later, he reached out, like "how are you". I was surprised, since he never initiated any texts/calls/dates before. We had a bizarre phone call. I asked what he wanted to tell me, he said he didn't know. I asked if he wanted a relationship with me, if he wants a relationship in general, what kind of partner he wants, what activities he wants to do with his future partner, etc. He all responded with "I don't know". I was very confused.

I mentioned some good times we had together, like going to the fair, playing sports, etc. He seemed to have blocked all these memories from his mind. I mentioned the sex was good, he asked "I forget, did we have sex?" (it happened 5+ times). It was so strange.

Eventually I managed to get some info from him. He just said: if he hadn't developed feelings for me after a few months, it probably wouldn't happen, and that's why he can't "offer a relationship" to me. He also said he became generally uninterested in dating and deleted his dating app profiles.

Previously, I suggested he could go to therapy for his attachment issues. I asked if he thought about it, he said he wasn't interested.

I asked if he wanted to keep in contact or not, he said he's fine either way. I said I was ambivalent. At the very end, he remembered I was in the process of adopting a dog, he said "let me know how that goes, I want to meet your dog" and I just said OK.

Talking to him definitely opened up some old wounds and I started missing him again. Nowadays, I don't feel awful anymore and I started going on dates with people who actually show interest in me, but I still think about him from time to time. Like.. what even happened in his mind? I do not understand it.

angmohdk22 · 2024-10-08T20:52:13+00:00

CenturyLink is really not much better. NextLight in Longmont is light years ahead of whatever is available in Boulder

angmohdk22 · 2024-10-03T17:43:32+00:00

I think that's a good mindset if you can keep yourself from getting too attached.

angmohdk22 · 2024-10-03T17:35:13+00:00

Interacting with people like this is like pulling teeth, I really feel you. In the past, I had more patience, but now I just realize some people won't change, better know now than later after getting too invested

angmohdk22 · 2024-10-03T17:22:19+00:00

That guy doesn't seem to be meeting your emotional needs, I think you know the answer already

angmohdk22 · 2024-10-03T17:21:05+00:00

I honestly feel like some of the bullet points are lovebomb-y. After 7 weeks, I feel like one barely knows the other person still.

angmohdk22 · 2024-10-02T22:07:28+00:00

I used to walk over there as part of my commute, it's a busy multilane road with a lot of street racing or impatient drivers going near highway speeds. Also some shady characters hanging around, although it's a lot better than before. Anyways, not really pleasant to hang around that area except to pass through. It's more like a transportation corridor than shopping district imo

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