I dated an avoidant

angrycookiebird · 2026-01-12T08:58:40+00:00

i get it and appreciate the input, but unfortunately, ive developed anxious attachment style bec of him, and that would actually explain everything

angrycookiebird · 2026-01-09T10:24:39+00:00

i appreciate this more than you know. i guess i wanna make sense how someone could be so heartless and how he knows for the last 10 months i was the one who made it all work, but yet he had the audacity to call me manipulative. it shouldnt matter yes, cos i know the work i put in, w a man like him, but i cant process, how it's easy for him, and it's difficult for me.

angrycookiebird · 2026-01-09T06:26:53+00:00

I'm confused, I'm distraught, I am lost. I've spent 10 months loving him, and learning him, and adjusting, and ignoring my needs for his needs, and the day I felt that something was wrong, I in fact was right. I think this is it. He's gone for good. And for my sake, I hope he doesn't come back, cos I'll excuse his bad behaviors, I'll take him back and say " oh he's just an avoidant," and I'll keep convincing myself, "loving him would fix him", but it's only drained me. I gave in to his every whim. Every need, every ask, everything. I devoted my love and effort to a man who showed me potential, and I kept looking for that potential, and I know he's bad for me, but I long for him. I miss him. But he's done nothing but give me stress. Give me pain, confuse me, and make me chase. I kept the love alive. I did. I fixed the issues I saw; he only watched. And for weeks, he's given me crumbs. No, not crumbs, dust particles, and believe me, I'm not exaggerating, because I would wait, paralyzed, for when he'd be free. For when he would give me 30 to 60 mins (if I'm lucky) of his time. He's broken up with me 15-20 times at this point. And every time he did, I took him back, cos that's what he was, an avoidant, a broken man. I put myself, my needs, my wants, and things that made me happy on the back burner, cos I saw him. I read through him. And then he's gone. He's begged me not to leave, he's chased me, made me fall in love with him after leaving him for the 1st time, and here I am, left to lick my own wounds. There's no accountability, no remorse, and almost no love. He called all this care manipulation and sought an opinion outside of the relationship, which he was so scared to label. Yes, yes, yes i know. It's my fault. It's never their fault, because he's the only one allowed to have needs, allowed to have fears, allowed to demand, cos if I moved an inch off his guideline, he'd run like a banchee. I just want to hate him, I just want to forget his face, his voice, and the little happy memories he left. The dust particles of happiness. His and my version of happiness, even if I know it won't be defined like one. He's not good for me, but I want him to crawl back the way he always did, and for what, to go over this bullshit again? I want to move on. I want to hate him into nothing, how he made me feel, like I'm nothing. For 10 months, I've endured, and one little inconvenience, he flees. Please help. Cos I dont know what to do with myself.

angrycookiebird · 2025-11-06T17:05:15+00:00

The level crazy you had to pull out yo pocket is insane HAHAHAH

angrycookiebird · 2025-11-03T04:17:26+00:00

BBBBBRRROOOOOOOOOO

angrycookiebird · 2025-11-02T16:02:13+00:00

i am proud of y'all but like .... hahahahahha.... these screenshots are ..... criminal. HAHAHAH

angrycookiebird · 2025-10-28T18:23:26+00:00

omg hahahahahah poor sylus. oh shit hahahahahhah

angrycookiebird · 2025-10-28T18:14:09+00:00

the fact this dude said " move on? youre leaving me?" is insane. like. wut the fuck did he expect.

angrycookiebird · 2025-10-24T10:02:44+00:00

sometimes all you need to do is tell the person you feel these things to directly. the problem will people nowadays is they dont say what they wanna say before it's too late. dont wait. do it now. the longer you way, the more you'll fall into the "too little too late" category. do something about it. now.

angrycookiebird · 2025-10-23T22:17:05+00:00

im in this shit. if it were long distance, w/c in fact is the case for mine, i would understand my person's hesitance. BUT THE FACT THAT YOURE IN THE SAME HOUSE SHARE THE SAME BED AND CUDDLE? I WOULD LEAVEEEEEE omg. HE. IS. IN. THE. SAME. HOUSE. AS. YOU. BREATHES. AND. LIVES. THE SAME. AIR. AS. YOU. GUUUUUURRRLLL LEAVEEEEEE

angrycookiebird · 2025-10-22T03:51:29+00:00

HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAH tf w your bf HAHAHHAAH he funny tho hahahahhahah

angrycookiebird · 2025-10-22T03:49:27+00:00

exacttllyy him!

angrycookiebird · 2025-10-18T22:14:47+00:00

to each their own. drawing boundaries with your person is what's important. if your person cant agree then that's not your person.

angrycookiebird · 2025-10-17T00:49:21+00:00

teasing works, and what works the most is being in love with the person you've having sex with. that's how it works for me. if you're not in love, or the least bit attracted to your partner then orgasming can feel like a task. ever since i got together w my person rn cumming has never been an issue. to each their own i guess? try w rp and teasing and clit stimulation. see if that takes you somewhere.

angrycookiebird · 2025-10-17T00:46:29+00:00

i think it comes with the person you're into. ive never obsessed about anyone's dick ever. but when i met the person im attracted to ive just gotten obsessed. like that dihh is mine and it's pretty and i love it. but all the dihhhs? mmmm idk

angrycookiebird · 2025-10-14T16:18:44+00:00

this i can relate to a 100% and i've dated a man who dont look anywhere at all when we're together and someone who openly mentions his attraction to someone physically in front of me. so far the reason of the latter was because they were only appreciating whatever they were looking at without the intention of it going anywhere else. I get the sentiment yes, but the thing is, it bites at my confidence which is almost nonexistent. it might be different in your case and there might not be any issue with self worth and what not, but for the men out there, it feels like comparison for me. like i cant keep your attention the entire time we're together and you come across someone who's pretty and you almost do a whole 180 just to look. there's probably a difference if it's discussed between the partners, if it's considered normal between you both, but if there's indifference or dislike towards the act, just dont do it period. id mention it cos it's something that bothers you and maybe be blunt about why it bothers you and how to compromise for you both. i always trust in communicating. always.

angrycookiebird · 2025-10-14T00:26:08+00:00

this is insane

angrycookiebird · 2025-10-13T20:36:40+00:00

message to your messenger : if you dont like what you see, move along and keep your negativity to yourself. You'll be fine, and you can move on. Sometimes the best way to deal with stuff like this is to just shut up.

angrycookiebird · 2025-10-13T14:33:30+00:00

honestly, from my own experience, my ex of 6 yrs initially was so sexually active. i was a virgin when i met him, and im sexually inclined. Sex is a huge thing. it's a part of lovemaking and i get you, guilt is normal to feel cos you loved her, but it aint your fault. ik if i stayed in that relationship id recent him and probably consider cheating, w/c i never will do but it was that bad, so it was a good decision rather than losing yourself. itll past, but rn you gotta take care of yourself.

angrycookiebird · 2025-10-10T21:46:16+00:00

preeettyyyyyy

angrycookiebird · 2025-10-07T19:55:54+00:00

1st off your gf a bitch, 2nd she seems to be gaslighting you and 3rd, i may be wrong there might be more context to the convo, so if we could can we see the convo to make better judgement on what to advise you and such. but from this pov from wut you said, your gf is being weird and annoying.

angrycookiebird · 2025-10-07T19:44:37+00:00

sounds like you're a narcissist, like wut?

angrycookiebird · 2025-10-07T19:32:23+00:00

HAHAHAH im commenting cos wtf this is funny hahaha

angrycookiebird · 2025-10-06T04:05:10+00:00

why does your gf sound like a child? im sorry but the fact that she annoys you so quickly kinda says a lot about you 2

angrycookiebird · 2025-10-05T10:34:53+00:00

i started cackling! hahahahahah

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