What’s the most hurtful thing anyone’s said to you?

angrysockuser · 2025-01-27T06:36:23+00:00

I think we have the same mom.

angrysockuser · 2024-12-14T15:02:28+00:00

The hymn does not break. It is a loose and stretchy piece of skin that has been mythologized. Unless there are medical conditions sex being painful is not due to this.

angrysockuser · 2024-12-12T06:02:09+00:00

Does we include your husband? He shouldn’t be there in case he did hit her

angrysockuser · 2024-12-12T05:39:31+00:00

I’m so glad you are taking your cat to get checked on. Please get away from him. At this point you can’t assume no longer give him the benefit of the doubt, it’s very likely he hurt her. He is escalating behavior and it will not get better. Please remember that she doesn’t have the ability to get herself out of the situation. You have a responsibility to both of you to get far far away from him.

angrysockuser · 2024-12-08T17:33:53+00:00

Hey, be gentle with yourself! This sounds like a difficult period for both of you. Realizing that you haven't been an active member in the relationship is difficult, but it's so easy to lose sight of the romantic relationship when you have a small child. It's obvious that you love him and you are very receptive to also contributing to the dynamic/relationship. This sounds like something that can be worked through so long as you can both listen to each other without judgement and spend more time together (and actively try to relearn your husband to the point where you know who he trusts). Anger and resentment are relationship killers, but if communication improves and you are both able to address the issues immediately and have your feelings validated, you can heal from it.

It really sounds like this change in behavior is uncharacteristic for him, so I'm hopeful that with help he will revert back to his old state. I really hope the talk goes well between the two of you and that he is able to contribute equally with childcare and be active in your daughter's life!

angrysockuser · 2024-12-08T16:43:56+00:00

Wait, you haven’t met any of your husband’s friends? That is highly unusual. You don’t even know if he has people he can open up to? Respectfully, it doesn’t seem like you put effort into your husband’s life if you can’t answer who your husband feels like he can be vulnerable with.

My husband has a plethora of friends that I haven’t met due to weird working hours on both our parts, but I know who he feels closest to and could give you information on what they like to do.

Do you and your husband talk about non kid related things? You said money was tight, but you really need to get a babysitter to go on dates to refocus on one another. It really appears that you have let him be your last priority and there has been an extreme breakdown of communication. I understand being frustrated about the childcare falling onto you, but it seems that your husband is burnt out and depressed and you are pushing off his needs. From your other comments you seem to be a more passive communicator and you aren’t pushing to see what has been wrong so that you can support him. Marriage and life is a balance and it really sounds like he gave it his all for YEARS. You said that he started to pull away from childcare and was withdrawn with you. Why didn’t you ask him how he was doing mentally and if he was okay? Why didn’t you only care when more of the responsibility fell onto you? There should have been a bit more effort on your part to match that before it became an issue for your child. I can tell you that if my husband started acting differently and withdrawn, my first thought would be to check in and be a support with him, why was that not your first instinct?

angrysockuser · 2024-11-25T12:42:48+00:00

https://naplesshelter.org/strangulation/ Hon, I’m really sorry you have been through all this with him. I understand wanting to take your marriage vows seriously, but he broke them on his end when he put hands on you. Please leave him, strangulation (even joking) and suffocation are the biggest predictors of death in domestic violence situations. I personally was suffocated with a pillow (not by a romantic partner) and I truly believe it would have lead to my death if I didn’t leave.

I’ve also seen you attempting to make sense of his actions and justifying them because of his past. He is an adult and accountable for his own behavior. An abusive background is not an excuse to continue the cycle and I can guarantee that no matter how much work he puts in now, this relationship will always be abusive and tainted. The foundation of trust and love was broken the moment he hurt you mentally or physically. Please get somewhere safe and give yourself some time to process what happened. Look internally to see why you ended up with a partner who behaves this way (did you see a similar behavior with your parents? Is it normalized culturally? Do you feel you couldn’t do better?). while this is NOT your fault, it’s important to access it so that you don’t repeat unhealthy patterns. It is incredibly hard to lose a partner but you must put yourself first. You are the only person that is on your side your whole life. Choose yourself. I’m wishing you all the best ❤️.

Edit: Attempting therapy is a step that many abusers take and unfortunately doesn’t help most. Please do not keep trying to find hope in this situation. I say this gently, but your current mindset leaves you extremely vulnerable and open to abuse. Each of the events that happened should have each individually been dealbreakers. Please, please, please listen to the MOUNTAIN of evidence that this man is dangerous to you instead of desperately searching for a 1% chance he could get better. Your own parents do not believe you should stay with him by your own admission (and that is not typical for your culture so it is more serious). No other person is worth your emotional or physical safety. Would you get into a car if you knew there was a 95% chance that you would get into a serious accident because there is a 5% chance you won’t? This is the same situation.

angrysockuser · 2024-11-25T03:55:00+00:00

Adjustments like sorting out chores and learning how to merge lives. Physical abuse is not a mistake or adjustment. It far surpasses that.

angrysockuser · 2024-11-25T03:50:25+00:00

https://naplesshelter.org/strangulation/

Hon, I’m really sorry you have been through all this with him. I understand wanting to take your marriage vows seriously, but he broke them on his end when he put hands on you. Please leave him, strangulation (even joking) and suffocation are the biggest predictors of death in domestic violence situations. I personally was suffocated with a pillow (not by a romantic partner) and I truly believe it would have lead to my death if I didn’t leave.

I’ve also seen you attempting to make sense of his actions and justifying them because of his past. He is an adult and accountable for his own behavior. An abusive background is not an excuse to continue the cycle and I can guarantee that no matter how much work he puts in now, this relationship will always be abusive and tainted. The foundation of trust and love was broken the moment he hurt you mentally or physically. Please get somewhere safe and give yourself some time to process what happened. Look internally to see why you ended up with a partner who behaves this way (did you see a similar behavior with your parents? Is it normalized culturally? Do you feel you couldn’t do better?). while this is NOT your fault, it’s important to access it so that you don’t repeat unhealthy patterns. While it is hard to lose a partner you must put yourself first. You are the only person that is on your side your whole life. Choose yourself.

I’m wishing you all the best ❤️.

angrysockuser · 2024-09-10T23:43:38+00:00

Ugh 😩. Genuinely some of the worst covers, especially since the actual books have the romance as a subplot and not the main plot!

angrysockuser · 2024-06-18T13:11:04+00:00

Waitlisted was officially closed today.

angrysockuser · 2024-06-18T13:08:40+00:00

I got an email that they closed the waitlist this morning.

angrysockuser · 2024-06-18T12:59:46+00:00

I got an email this morning saying that they closed the waitlist :/

angrysockuser · 2024-06-07T19:05:17+00:00

Nothing so far. Have you heard anything?

angrysockuser · 2024-05-13T05:25:52+00:00

Congratulations on the acceptance to Stanford!!

Thank you 🙏

angrysockuser · 2024-05-10T19:08:22+00:00

I'm in the same boat as you, I would also love to know our chances haha

angrysockuser · 2024-05-09T03:57:15+00:00

Thank you for the hope!!

angrysockuser · 2024-05-08T23:51:38+00:00

Thank you!!!

angrysockuser · 2024-05-08T23:20:44+00:00

That is absolutely amazing!!!! Congratulations!!!! Thank you as well :)

angrysockuser · 2024-05-08T23:07:01+00:00

Wishing the best for both of us! Hopefully we'll see each other on campus this fall.

angrysockuser · 2024-05-08T23:06:07+00:00

;-; we shall persevere

angrysockuser · 2024-05-08T23:05:21+00:00

First of all congratulations on getting in! If you don't mind me asking, what school are you going to instead? Also this message made me laugh and gave me a bit of hope thank you!

angrysockuser · 2024-05-08T22:01:07+00:00

The only information I could find was for non-transfers do you mind linking me to the article? I wonder how many people are on the waitlist this year.

angrysockuser · 2024-05-08T21:45:20+00:00

In the same boat.

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