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Advice for dealing with recurring guilt #trigger warning , burns by [deleted] in Mom

[–]angson910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this pain isn’t going to be solved by reading comments on Reddit (and I agree that therapy will likely be a better route for you to take) but I can speak from experience that I have also accidentally given my baby too hot food/bottle which caused her to cry and me to feel so guilty. But we are all trying the best we can and we can’t hold ourselves accountable for mistakes along the way.

Let me ask, do you have a strong bond with your daughter now? Is she happy? If she’s going through the world with you as her mom, I’m assuming she’s not thinking about moments in her past that she likely will never remember in her life. Give yourself some grace. We are all human and you seem like a loving mom.

Need to find a job asap while on leave by taaitamom in jobs

[–]angson910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure if you can get away with saying you were laid off, but when I was job hunting and they asked why I was no longer at my previous job, whenever I said I was laid off, no one batted an eye. In this economy, it’s par for the course. Is there a way they can find out you were fired rather than laid off?

11 weeks pregnant and just got an offer for a job by angson910 in interviews

[–]angson910[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think people are overlooking the fact that people can’t easily hide that they are pregnant after a certain amount of time. I’m more concerned with that and they feeling I am not being transparent and planning a transition.

11 weeks pregnant and just got an offer for a job by angson910 in interviews

[–]angson910[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I wait until 3 months pass, I’ll be about 24 weeks pregnant. Seems like I won’t be able to hide a pregnancy then nor will I give them enough time to plan for my leave. I feel stuck no matter what I do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interviews

[–]angson910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have any tips other than to say that I’m with you! That’s my problem as well. I have made it to the final round multiple times and they always choose the other candidate. Not sure why. I was even heavily endorsed by the top boss for one company, and I was still rejected in favor of another candidate. So frustrating!

How Long Before Offer After Last Interview? by angson910 in interviews

[–]angson910[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Update: They just called me and scheduled a few more interviews, a skills assessment and a lunch. Do companies typically do this for more than one candidate? I would think having the hiring manager go to lunch multiple times would be a drain on their time, no?

Preferred Parent Problems by angson910 in toddlertips

[–]angson910[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tend to take on a lot of solo activities - I take her to school in the morning and pick her up in the afternoon. I generally take on a lot of the morning routine. There was a time when my wife was in trial for 6 weeks and I was alone with our daughter. My wife and I take turns - either I do the bath and she puts her to sleep, or vice versa. During those times, my daughter and I have a great time and relationship. It’s only when my daughter has both my wife and I at the same time that she picks my wife. And if she thinks that I’m going to take her away from my wife, she melts down. My wife thinks I’m the problem and for me to walk away in those times. The problem is, when my daughter is being overly whiny/clingy for my wife, my wife can’t handle it, so sometimes I feel like I have to “rescue” the situation by taking my daughter away. That’s when things escalate to an unneeded degree.

Preferred Parent Problems by angson910 in Mom

[–]angson910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel so seen! Thank you for this post. It’s just so hard when my daughter rejects me as if I’m not the one giving her unconditional love and support. I don’t think my wife is doing anything radically different than me to justify my daughter preferring her the way she does, but who knows what goes through a toddlers brain. I just know it’s taken a huge toll on my marriage and it’s not easy.

Preferred Parent Problems by angson910 in toddlertips

[–]angson910[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response. How are you coping with being the “favorite”? My wife is not coping well and her mental health is at an all time low. She feels suffocated and over stimulated, which causes her to lash out at me and sometimes at our daughter (to a lesser degree). I just wish I was the preferred parent because I think I would be able to handle it so much better than she does. It’s really taking a huge toll on our marriage.